Ways to last longer during sex, need help

- Change your pace when you feel the urge. Usually you are going to cum because everything feels perfectly wonderful, so you need to break out of that, like go from fast to slow, or slow to fast.

-Switch to partial thrusts for a bit. using only the distal half of your dick usually decreases pleasure enough to help you calm down.

-Switch positions. Telling her to get in the doggie position, or whatever, usually gives you enough time to regroup.

- Bury it deep, switch to the crow bar technique, or pressure with grinding, rather than in and out thrusts. This is better than just stopping to regain control, because you are still giving her stimulation. See Give her the big O, for a good description of this type of technique you can switch to.

- SSRI’s such as Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, etc have helped guys to last, but it is a pretty extreme solution, in my opinion. See I’ve cured my premature ejaculation for a discussion about this.

- I agree with those that have emphasized slow rhythmic breathing. If you notice your breathing before you come it gets erratic, fast, and shallow. In fact, my wife has caught me whacking off in bed when I thought she was asleep, because she heard how I was breathing. If you keep it controlled, your whole body is in control.

What I like to do when I feel like I’m getting close, do a change in technique, like I describe above, and do a giant exhale. Force all the air out of your lungs until you feel like you are drowning. This breif moment of panic can take you off the path to orgasm.

- People have different responses with kegeling and reverse kegeling. If it works at all, it will only work after lots of practice. Search for threads on kegels.

- Also search for threads on being multi-orgasmic, or sexual kung fu.

If you go for desensitizing creams, look into “oragel” (for tooth pain) or the generic equivalent.

The active ingredient is benzocaine, which is the same as in most speciality creams and in the condoms.

A .25 oz tube is about a buck fifty.

I have tried it, although it helps, it made things too funky for me for round two.

But it’s a cheap experiment-and easy to acquire.

I second this idea. Probably one of the best pieces of knowledge I’ve stumbled upon here at Thunder’s.

My favorite, provided your refractory period is short enough. is to go ahead and cum in her as normal (without getting frustrated about the quickness) and do some after sex foreplay, get hard and fuck away to your heart’s content.

Being 41, my refractory period sucks, that’s where Cialis comes in handy.

Don’t know if you wanted natural or unnatural methods. There is a penis spray called stud 100. It works by desensitizing Temporary to make it less sensitive so you last longer. Most times when I use it I go for 30 minutes or more. The main ingredient in stud 100 is lidocane which is basically a mild anesthetic.

Or just try pulling out for about 5-6 seconds when you feel like you are going to cum. Tap your penis on her clit a few times, so she doesn’t ask why you stopped she’ll just think that’s a part of your method. Then get back to work.

If you have time to masturbate then use that as training.

Check into using a Flesh-light or at least a sleeve like the Utamaru. Practice your strokes and it really helps.

If you don’t want to buy anything look into using lubed baggies between mattresses or pillow or whatever you like.

Went from a 2 minute man to a 30 minute man myself. Unless of course Knight Rider comes on.

Can anyone give further details on how to accomplish this?

It’s okay to not have the staying power of a horse. I can only go for 15-20 minutes myself - that’s with constant thrusting. Three thoughts:

Delay it. By this, I mean vary up your thrusting, moving slower, rotating your hips, poking her in all directions. If you do this, you’ll make the whole thing feel more like a marathon than a race and you’ll earn some serious lover-points as well. If you do all this, you’ll slow your movements to the point where you’re not getting massive stimulation, which will postpone your orgasm.

Switch positions. I do this a lot - if I’m going at it missionary style and I feel myself about to come, I just pull out and give it to her doggie. I try and let this take a minute though, that way I’ve kind of given myself enough of a break. What you can also do is just stop for a minute and start kissing her. Again, this is a great way to disguise any stamina-shortcomings because you’re being an attentive lover.

Other than that, just enjoy yourself. Don’t feel like “oh god, I’ve got to last at least another five.. ” - Just run with it.

What worked best for me 20 years ago is to yell to your wife STOP! STOP! STOP! okay! Go! STOP! STOP! STOP! okay! Go! I would also think of all the bills I had to pay right before I had the urge to ejaculate or how much I hated my boss.