I am not sure how you could PE in secret from the wife…, mine is at home all the time, so… I guess it would depend on your situation, but…
It has added a new dynamic to our sexual relationship. She seems to like it, or at least the results. Clamping, or rather constriction and coiling seems to make most sense to her, and allows for her participation more than pumping does.
I skipped pumping this morning in favor of plumping. I put on my 3/4 pound coil, behind the balls at a tension I could produce a nice erection with some maintenance.
I gave her a nice back rub, with lotion for about an hour, slipping in a quick suck between the left and right side of her back.
I was treated to a good 10 minutes afterward and then to her bending over to take a load.
My 3/4 lb coil wraps 4 times around the cock and balls, limiting the depth I can penetrate and pushing my balls nicely into her clitoris.
So, while the cash I have spent on expensive gear, and the exorbitant amount of time I have devoted to PE over the last number of months has caused a her some annoyance, and she has not always been turned on by everything I have tried, overall it is I think necessary to have your partners understanding.
Back and foot rubs and going the extra mile on chores goes a long way toward my wife accepting, and supporting my journey.
Hiding away, ignoring her or the day to day of the household does not seem to help with the journey.
“Happy wife (partner) happy life.”