Who are you guys kidding. LOL Any sexually curious 16 year old (meaning ALL of them) who has been near the Internet has both encountered and jerked off to porn, and has read about Penis Enlargement. My Ex has an 80 year old aunt that gets PE spam.
You might casually ask him in an off hand way: “Did you see all that Penis Enlargemet stuff on the Internet. You think it works?”
His response will give you clues as to whether you and he can have a talk about all that stuff. And by 16, IMO he will be better off if you and he have an open channel about sex. Thinking that not mentioning and/or not condoning is will somehow delay his interest is making the same denial based mistake that parents have made for millennia. If you think a don’t ask don’t tell policy is appropriate, that’s your business.
But its assured that your kid has already been spending most of his free time jerking off and trying to figure out those impossible female creatures so he can get one to let him put his dick in her. And its probably been going on for at least three years and is now at a fevered pitch cause he has little or no reliable way to release/learn/experience/balance it. Ask his mother if she finds stains on his sheets, if she’ll admit it. He’has also atarted to feel those exhilirating funny feelings we call infatuation and love for members of the opposite sex.
Our society drips with sex. Drips. TV, movies, music, and The Net but lacks the fortitude to deal with it honestly. That’s where all the trouble comes from.
Let me say it again.
Your sixteen year old knows about, and pursues sexual experiences.
His dick gets hard and he masturbates it.
He has seen PORN.
He would FUCK if given half a chance.
There is better than a one in three chance he has already fucked.
And a great chance that if he has he didn’t use a rubber.
Young girls these days consider sucking dick to not be nearly as big a deal as in the past, so he may have already had that to.
He may be completely confused and insecure about the whole business already.
He could probably use a Dad to talk to, but probably never would.
It’s your business, but at least deal with the reality. …Nawwww not MY KID!!! Famous last words. Should we tackle drinking and drugs next? All this doesn’t make them bad kids. Just young people with curiosity growing into their independence. To this day I still don’t trust the kids from my adolescence who didn’t try some of this stuff and waited for marriage to have sex. But, man, there were real casualties. Wishing won’t make it go away, and applying force and threats just drives it into the dark where the real bad shit happens. Whats neede is the middle road. An open door and the eyes of a hawk. and if the dialogue is going to open up without the embarrasment you have to lead by not being embarrassed himself. you old fart dads already embarrass him just being you. You have to cross the chasm. The game is very much afoot by Sixteen.