Don’t get all anxious about your performance. It was your first time. Seldom are they perfect. Who gives a shit, you got some.
My first time I was so nervous, didn’t have a clue what to do, wasn’t actually planning to do it. She wouldn’t let me, we played around naked a lot, I was allowed to rub my penis between the lips of her vulva but not penetrate her. Then one day she got on top and wanted me inside her. Hell, it was too slippery and I couldn’t get it in. She had to take her hand and put it inside her.
I started thrusting as a man who has no idea what to do would. She told me to stop and just lay there so I did. I never did orgasm because of nerves and anxiety. At least she got to ride me until she was done. After almost an hour, I just went soft. You know what? It was still fun and I still remember every minute of that experience. Yeah, I had no clue what to do. I didn’t cum. So what? Things just got better from there.
First time with a new woman can be just as frightening, have it’s own set of worries, and in the end…be just as much fun. The first time with my second woman I had no idea about premature ejaculation. I’d always lasted a long time with the first one. The second one I was so excited, was used to the penis rubbing the outside, between the vulva, working on the clit a little before penetration. Hell, this woman’s pussy was so big, when I placed my penis against her I was immediately buried balls deep, by suprise, and blew a load immediately. No problem. We cleaned up, went back to playing with each other and did better a few minutes later.
From these early experiences, especially the time spent with woman #2 - she would come see me every day for sex and was a great teacher, I learned a few things:
1 - Don’t worry about it.
2 - Just enjoy it and do your best to make her feel good with your tongue and fingers.
3 - Then, when you get around to getting your dick wet you will be more relaxed and perform better, and you will enjoy it more.
4 - Have a bad performance? Go back to fingering and licking. Pleasing her will make you hard again.
5 - If you totally put her first all the time, you will be a great lover and both of you will have a good time. This is the key to having good sex. Make it about her…not yourself.
Something I’ve learned more recently has already been linked to you in the “big o” thread. Learning this, finding different places inside her to stimulate, experimenting beyond this and making it even better has let me learn in recent months to give my wife vaginal orgasms from intercourse almost every day - even with my little dick. After 16 years of having to rely on other techniques or put her on top for her to cum this is very cool.