Has having a bigger dick made any difference?

I don’t usually quote the OP, but I thought it might be appropriate here.

I was on the high side of average at 6.5 BPEL and am now at 7.75 BPEL. There are two major differences in my life. First, my sex life has changed - not necessarily for the better or worse 0 just changed. Second, my confidence level has gone way, way up - although it was good before, I may be difficult to live with now.

On the first count, my wife loved riding my 6.5, bouncing up and down on it and fucking it with reckless abandon. Now, she fucks it hard but has to be much more careful, lest I hurt her. Case in point, after giving her a toe curling orgasm the other morning, she said “Wow, that was fucking intense!” and then mentioned a few moments later “But I miss your old dick.” Different. Not necessarily better.

On the confidence part, having what might be the biggest dick in my neighborhood tipped the scales for me. Most of the wives we are around make it a habit of complaining about their husbands to my wife’s group of girls when they get together (not about sexual complaints). Most of those husbands probably deserve it because they don’t give their wives and family the attention they deserve. It’s the same with other family and friends, acquaintances and new people we meet.

So I realized - I could probably make any one of these women scream in ecstasy if given the chance. I’m pretty good looking for being 42, have a very good job, have the attractiveness of being an obviously loving husband and an attentive/fun father, have a good sense of humor, pay attention to the women at gatherings (the men usually go huddle together and talk sports - I go chat up the ladies and get to know them better) and show a little bit of my “bad side” to them by flirting and being a bit “dangerous” in this upper scale neighborhood.

Recently, I had the epiphany that this confidence should translate to any other woman I meet. So I proved it recently. I had the opportunity to go to a concert alone. While I was there, I chatted up the very hottest girl in the room (small concert - 300 people). We had a great time together and if I wasn’t married or if I was less faithful, I would have had this girl screaming in ecstasy by the end of the night. Truly - I know I could have bedded this 23 year old hottie who was, kid you not, the very hottest girl in the room. If that doesn’t say something for confidence, I don’t know what will.

Some of this confidence honestly comes just by reading all the great advice on this forum. There is so much truth here it’s amazing.

Made a big difference to me, waking up with morning wood I can think hey, no matter how bad today is at least I’ve got a big dick.

I think using it is more a matter of creating a connection and finding the proper rhythm, intensity and intimacy that the girl is looking for. No one girl wants the exact same thing as another, and no girl wants the same thing all the time, so it’s up to you to just read her spirit at the time and go with it.

Sometimes you make love; sometimes you gotta choke her a bit. Variety is the spice of life, etc.

Definitely has made a huge difference for myself and my wife of 20 years. We have always had a good sex life, but in the past two years with my final gains she actually says “wow, big” when I first penetrate her. It’s always that same phrase. I did not hear that from her in our early years. I am a constant lurker here but rarely post, but in a nutshell, I have gone from 5” BPEL to 7” BPEL after twenty years of PE. I was doing it (uneducated) before the Internet and this forum. I am now in my mid ‘40’s and am on a maintenance routine now, but may do another push for more gain. I can say with absolute certainty that women like a larger penis and men like the confidence of having one.

Onenekidguy, Amen to your post. A question though……Did she ever say why she missed your old dick? Very interesting.

rdfan21 - sounds like you have some experience to share! Don’t be a lurker anymore, we would love to have your input!

dawgbone - I have a couple of threads in my signature that give you some history. But short story, she has always said she doesn’t need or want any more. Her issue is that she loves to ride on top - straddled over an ottoman is the best for this! When I was at my starting length, she could ride me with abandon - bouncing and jumping up and down on it. Since I have gained over an inch, I hit her in spots that hurt her if we’re not careful. So she can’t fuck with the same abandon that she used to. She misses that.

I have heard tell though that I might be in the range where this is a problem and that gaining past the 8 inch mark (modified for the individual woman) might get her past the spot of discomfort. I think that might be true to an extent, but she will never be able to just “jam on it” like she used to.

Onenekkidguy - Your input has been very helpful and your experiences have shed light on the whole subject! Glad you came along.

Onenekkidguy - thanks for the welcome. Been here 5 years, 6 posts! I actually obtained a lot of wisdom from reading here, PE works and has been a blessing for me. I don’t post much because I work two jobs and usually pop in to read and catch up on threads. My routine has been a little bit of everything (for 20 years) but hanging and pumping are my favorites. The wife initially thought it was silly, but now she does nothing to discourage my PE, so I feel that she definitely likes the unit bigger. She takes it all, so there is room for growth! (A petite brunette, I might add)

Nice post Dawgbone3333.

Onenekkidguy very good post!
R Dopa I am laughing at yours, very funny!

Personally I started out at 5.3 NBP and at the same time I got the current girlfriend, she loved my dick when it was that size, and I’m now at 6.5” NBP (that’s an unofficial measurement) so let’s say 6.3” NBP and she loves my dick now. I gave her her first penetration orgasm that she’s ever had. Over the course of our relationship especially once I started to make my larger gains, I noticed our sex life getting a lot better, as well as her orgasms becoming more powerful.

In regards to my mind-state and confidence, it hasn’t done much of anything to be honest. I’ve always been 100% confident in my penis and its abilities, except now I’m not shy of my size, and I want to go back to all the 20- some odd girls I’ve had sex with in my 20 years of life, and do them all over again to see what they say. Otherwise, when I’m traction wrapping I purposely want to throw on some gym shorts and walk around public places to see what kind of eyeballing I get (grower here).

I started off at exactly 6” x 5” non boned pressed erect. Now I am up to 7.25” x 5.25 mid shaft girth and 5.6 at the base. As far as sex goes, it feels about the same to me, however, now I can bottom out my wife occasionally in a couple different positions. As for her responses, it’s about the same as it was before, which is good. She’s always climaxed fairly easily, with my very average size and now with my gains in size. We’ve always done lots of good foreplay. Part of the reason for lack of response could be that my changes have occurred very gradually over a period of nearly 5 years of on/off P.E. exercise and we’ve been very consistent with sex throughout our marriage. But, yeah, it’s all good, but now, my goals are starting to shift more towards girth.

I have the benefit of gaining & then losing… and now I’m gaining again… and my wife can definitely tell. The reason is, at 6.75”, at some angles I was able to hit certain parts of her deep inside. Done right, it pleased her in ways she had never been pleased before. After not PEing for a year I was down to 6.25”, and I actually couldn’t reach those parts anymore (and I couldn’t always please her quite as well). Now I’m PEing again and she commented about me being bigger the other day (after I had pleased her more than normal). When my wife first met me I was 6x5, and at my best I was 6.75x5.25— and at least in my experience, I could tell the better length and girth made an impact for her (actually, with hanging, my base girth was up to 6”, a 1” increase from a starting 5”). So I would say, to a certain extent, more size has helped me in the sack & with my personal confidence. Beyond that, it doesn’t help pay the bills, or do much else. But for me, that confidence, and her pleasure is more than enough motivation.

At least in my case I’m doing PE for both me & the wife; I enjoy the increased confidence, and she definitely enjoys the increased size & improved EQ.

I interpret this topic as “Has it made any difference for your woman?” It will not apply you all singles out there but for me and several others who had the same women for years, it does.

Now, I’ve been very open about doing PE and my wife is very honest too, so I consider her output as valid. As you see in my footer, my growth has been 1,46” X 0,62” (did measure yesterday).

Dividing the topic a bit:

1. Can you see any difference?
2. Can you feel any difference?
3. Is the penetration part of the sex better or worse?

1. Yes and yes again. She says it is a big difference in the look, both as flaccid and in erect state. Even though growth has come slowly, she can still see a great difference. Does that turns her on? Maybe in the beginning but it is not that important.

2. She can feel the length difference as I now touch her cervix and that is both for good and bad. Sometimes it hurts when I do from behind and pushing hard while the riding act has become better as the penis does not slip out easily. If she can feel the gain in girth? She says perhaps but is not sure but then the growth has come gradually over a period of almost 2 years.

3. Better or worse? She admits it has not made any big difference and all other stuff I do as pussy eating, using fingers, dildos, vibs etc. plays a much bigger role than my dick. But when I asked her about this 2 days ago, she said that doing the missionary, she had moments being better than in 10 years or so (before the kids, things were different) but it is not always this happens and she is not sure it is the new dick size.

So to summarize, a change from 5,9” x 4,5” to 7,36” x 5,12” is not as big in pleasure for the women as we would like to think.

a change from 11.25 to 12.8 isnt bad at all, try to work your way to 5.6” MSEG and then she would definitely notice a big difference.

I calculate inches as 2.54 cm so my change is from 11.43 to 13.00 cm. Quite good from what I understand and to go from there to 14.22 would be wonderful! :)