I really think a circumcision is a very drastic route to take. In the UK female circumcision is now regarded in law as mutilation, and the same should apply to routine circumcision of boys. It is rarely necessary. Robbit, I’m unclear if your foreskin is tight when your willy’s flaccid or only when it’s erect. Urologists love to take the easy way out (as do many GPs) and take a quick look and say, “Oh, I’ll have that off easily and you’ll have no further trouble with it.” Well, yes - the same as if you have all your teeth out you’ll never get toothache again! So you’re right not to trust doctors. The GP is just that - a general practitioner - and the urologist gets paid more for an op than ever he would for stretching the foreskin or giving advice on how to.
If you really must go to the doctor, the best thing to do is to tell the GP you really don’t want a circumcision and is there any way of stretching it and such. (There is, man, there is!) But if you just go there and say, “My foreskin’s too tight; please help!”, they’ll assume you’re leaving the decisions up to them.
Stretching is very often effective - think of all those desperate North American blokes who were cut when days old and are now flogging away at foreskin restoration. You could do worse than look on one of their sites and try out the techniques as will do no harm and will probably lengthen and stretch your foreskin as you perform the gentle stretching routines. Another thing is to use a bit of wheat germ oil or sweet almond oil and mix it with some vitamin E oil; get this under the foreskin onto the glans as well as on the outside and that will help a lot as you do the stretches.
You can probably tell I’m implacably opposed to circumcision except where there really, really, really is absolutely no other alternative (there sometimes - but rarely - isn’t). God gave us these wonderful structures and they are the source of pleasure as well as there for protection of the glans. The foreskin is packed with nerve endings and is a wonderfully sensuous possession you should not give up without a fight. If you find surgery really is the only answer, then you should ask for minimal surgery. They don’t have to do a full circumcision - they just usually do because it’s easier for them. They can sometimes get away with removing just the extreme bit, if that’s what’s causing the problem, and leaving you with some of it. Also, these bastards - sorry, but I can’t excuse what they do - unless forbidden by you, will whip off your frenulum which is the source of exquisite and intense pleasure. There is absolutely no excuse for this and they won’t ask your permission and they won’t tell you they’re going to do it either. Heaven only knows why they do this: if they stopped to think about it, they’d realise what they’re doing is mutilation.
My son had a problem with his. The foreskin was adhered to the glans and obviously hurt during erection. The procedure was to knock him out and then manually rip it back (yes, no way would you let anyone do this to you if you were awake). The surgeon told us just before the op that he couldn’t guarantee it would work, and that it was only effective in 60% of cases (pretty good odds, so why “only”?). It can readhere, so why not go for the certainty of circumcision? I said no and the procedure was completely successful. I did get my son to use the oils after retracting it in the shower each day so it wouldn’t readhere. He’s happy. In the same ward, this surgeon got an immediate, “cut it all off!” from a mother accompanying her son. Poor kid!