I was blown away! Need advice

Well hello folks. it’s been a while since I’ve posted. My PE is going good and making small gains since initial gains. currently @ 6.75 bpel and 5.0 EG

Unfortunately this isn’t what my thread is about.

I brought over a cock ring to my girlfriends house yesterday for a surprise to her so that I could give it to her more than an hour or so and she said she had some toys too. Really? I said, whatcha got? “Oh I can’t show you, it would be embarassing” she said. Ahh, is a man connected to them? No.
“Well lemme see em then k? After some coaxing (I was mad curious)” “OK” she says.

She pulls out this box out of her closet and takes a dildo and a vibrator out.
All fine and cool right? WRONG! The dildo and vibrator were about the same size. OH ABOUT 9”x8” is a conservative guess. Probably 10x8 though. I stayed cool and calm on the outside and asked her if they were painful at all? No, not at all. I stayed cool and calm on the outside. Which brings me to my questions.

Should I feel as inferior and hurt as I do? I feel like I am an also ran now.
We are madly in love with each other and I’m not sure how to tell her how hurt I am or “if” I should tell her? How can I get over this?

Any advice is much appreciated folks. Men or women are invited to chime in.

Thanks.

Step away from bringing up your reaction to the dildo size; you’ll just feel worse. The way you use your dick and the way she uses the dildo are not related. If she is happy with sex with you, you should be, too.

Thanks for the quick reply. I value your opinion (s) I lurk here a lot and find your posts very good. You are right about getting over the size. I have had a few gf’s that use dildos but never one that used such huge ones! Not that I knew of at least. I want to marry this woman but if I dont get to my goal of 8x6 I’m paranoid she may seek a man with a bigger penis. Also lately she’s not been getting off vaginally like she used to, only through oral stimulation.

I guess I’m over blowing this but I can’t help but feel inferior now.

Hey Plunker:

Avocet is right. The dildo is a cold, inanimate piece of rubber used for pleauring one’s self. Your cock, on the other hand, is attached to a warm person, who as feelings, who loves her and can pleasure you both. A dildo is, as you say, a sex toy. I wouldn’t obesses on your cock size versus that of the dildo, they are two very different things.

I think you’re starting to read stuff into with the “lately” statements, etc. Before you knew about the dildos, there was no problem, right?

One of the dildos I bought my wife years ago is pretty big. She has a variety, some smaller, some larger. It’s just play and has nothing to do with your manhood or your ability to please her. If anything, you should watch her use it as part of your play, it’s pretty goshdarn sexy to get a show. Just be happy you’re with a girl that is sexually open enough to play and share that with you. If you can take it in stride, not be threatened, and realize it for just what it is (a toy, nothing more), you’ll be miles ahead of a lot of other guys out there.

Now, quit doubting yourself and her, and get back into your madly loving relationship. She’ll appreciate that she has a guy that she can share her naughty secrets with — and who knows what else she’s into that you might benefit from?

I would replace her toys for smaller ones right a way. These toys will make her too loose for you, which she may already be :( You should think about buying her a kegel device, that will benefit both your sexlives.

I think you should talk with her about it. Say, for example, “I’ve been thinking a lot about that vibrator and dildo. Does it bother you that my tongue’s not that big or that fast?”

Don’t talk about the dildos.

Fuck, cuddle, be happy with what you have.

Each person in a relationship should be allowed their toys, no questions asked, imo. Toys are only fun and usually private diversions.

My friend asked a big-time slut who was very open about her promiscuousness about her use of dildos and vibrators and she said (in a very stressed voice) “Nothing can ever replace a real dick.”

It just goes to prove once again that bigger is better and that size matters. Dont worry about it Bro it was nice that she opened up to you and showed you, why don’t you have her use it while you watch it would be hot don’t be all hung up on it’s size. I had bought my X this 8x6 squirming vibrating dildo once when I was a regular sized dude and we used together and she came about ten times between my mouth and dick and the dildo it was f-ing hot.

Yes! Exactly! Listen to this man.

Your kidding, right? Babies come out of there. As long as she’s fit, she won’t get too loose. At least it hasn’t been that way in my experience. Has this happened personally to you?

As an aside, you’d look like a lunatic “confiscating” her toys and replacing them. I’m not sure I know anybody that’d go for that.

P.S. Not trying to be inflammatory Piet, I enjoy reading your posts. Just offering my perspective.

Thus far the replies have been very helpful. I am about to call her in a few minutes and tell her that it upset me and that I need a couple of days by myself to get over it. We have been spending every minute available together every day, so I know it might hurt her a little but DAMN THOSE THINGS WERE HUGE! I mean close to as big around as a coke can!

At last count I have been with roughly 36 different women through my life ( I am 35) and have done many different things. She uses those dildo’s that you chuckle at in the porno stores and mumble “who the hell could use that?” Scary stuff, scary scary stuff.

She does have a larger vagina than what I am used to but fer chrissakes, why do they have to be homewrecker size? I am just going to tell her it has me questioning my ability to keep her happy in the long term. I really appreciate the advice though folks, please keep it coming.

BTW I already feel much better about it. I know at this stage though she won’t use them for me, I tried to get her to masturbate for me once and she wouldn’t but hopefully soon as that stuff does “float my boat” so to speak.

I think it would push me to do PE every day for the next 10 years. In fact I might get one to set on the dresser as a goal.

But that was if my wife could actually take something like that.

Wrong. Very wrong. She’s there for you.

She didn’t even want to show you her toys, but you insisted.

However, go ahead.

Go sulk for 3 days because you are not as big as the dildo. You are not as big as a stuffed Teddy bear, either. Does she have stuffed animals on her bed? May as well compare yourself to them while you are at it.

I swear, sometimes I could spank some of you people when you act dumb.