Originally Posted by djrobins
The “is it in yet?” series is a great motivational thread about men reclaiming their masculinity and PE’ing to enhance what they already have. Many of us have similar stories. Anyway, I keep looking down at my 8.5 BPEL x 6.25 and pumped over 6.5 girth and sometimes thinking it’s small, like many of you and other times realizing that I have a problem in my head.Back when I KNEW that you couldn’t change the size of your penis, and that you had to work with what you had - I did not focus on my size at the time or comparisons to other. I simply had confidence in my skills. And this is what seduced these ladies. Many of us need to get back to a similar viewpoint, and realize every mm gained in PE is simply icing on the cake. Do not base your confidence or ability to please a woman on the size of your dick!
Of course dj, reclaiming our masculinity is precisely what we are doing here, and it begs the question; who took it in the first place?
Too often women give themselves the permission to be less than courteous around men regarding our masculinity as if we are monolithic entities without feelings that can be pounded on emotionally without harm.
I went through a period where I felt that women truly were “victims” to our advances and sexuality, but now I realize that may have been a cultural sleight-of-hand to make us feel like we were the bad guys in this so they could continue on without calling their little princess games.
Like a good friend of mine pointed out, if we grabbed the strippers at the club like these girls do, we’d be out on the street on our faces.
For me the PE experience has been more one of calm self-confidence for myself than for fucking. I never really had any issues in that regard. None of the women I’ve ever been with have ever felt unsatisfied.
The red-faced out-of-breath speechless kind of end to things has always been a clue to me.
I swear that my first wife came close to dying on more than one occasion. God I miss that horny little slut.
If ever you need to know whether your woman has had an orgasm, and you aren’t sure, the answer is no.
And I guess we have to ask what masculinity is, or at least define it clearly for ourselves, so we know what is being taken from us.
For me it’s being strong physically and emotionally and intellectually, it’s being able to do what’s needed when necessary, it’s being able to be self-reliant, it’s being able to be validated (which for many guys is the core of the problem with women) and provide for our families and to know what’s going to happen next.
It’s interesting though, women today will look at that list and say “I am that too”, and they are probably right in many ways, but to try to beat the guys and knock us down for naturally being those things is unnatural at the core of our nature as a society.
The younger liberal man may read this comment and ask why I feel insecure about my role as a man when women can be this way also and share in a relationship, but I see it tearing at the fabric of families and masculinity in general as many women are giving up the traditional female role for a more “gender neutral” position of female so they can bread-win and cut wood and so on, while a man is handed an apron and a baby to nurse.
No wonder divorce rates are creeping up, and 75% of them are instigated by women.
What woman is going to get cranked coming home to a guy in an apron covered in baby puke, while she’s been working with men in suits all day?
