Yeah, asking about former lovers’ size is akin to the sirens pulling your ship into a rocky shoreline. The temptation is very great. I’m not sure why. Then, once you know about a bigger ex-lover, it’s very hard to believe that your gf prefers you. It could potentially ruin a relationship I’m sure. I’ve been with a great girl for about a year now and had danced around this issue from time to time with my morbid curiosity. She would say things like “you’ve got nothing to worry about” and “you feel perfect”, etc. This penis anxiety thing (in me) was new to her because most other guys didn’t ask about it. They probably were concerned but chose not to “go there”. Anyway, she finally let slip amid a spattering of very complimentary comments about me that “only one was bigger, but he was quick and selfish”. Even though she offered no positive reaction about him sexually, it was a crushing blow to me. It was a guy from 15 years ago, and I’m thinking “god, how much bigger was he if she remembers him as bigger from that long ago?”. I didn’t torture myself (yet) by pressing her for how much bigger he was. For me this area is painful, but somehow a turnon as well. She is incredibly sexy and great in bed and imagining her achieving multiple vaginal orgasms with this bigger tool makes me crazy and horny.
HOWEVER, she told me that she has never had a vaginal orgasm. I believe she is being truthful about this because she contends that they do not exist. So the comments that we hear about big cock = vaginal orgasms is a myth, at least for some women. She had a big cock, and didn’t have spontaneous vaginal orgasms, rarely orgasmed at all with other men, in fact and only clitoral. That said, I believe that there is a significant mental component to orgasms. If a particular woman is into big cocks, I suppose that she could be in a better mental state to achieve a more intense orgasm. But a woman who is into lean, latin-looking men, probably is in a better mental state to achieve a more intense orgasm with a man like that, irrespective of penis size.
I believe that many of the stories you hear about on this forum about women being hypnotized by big cocks are true. I also believe that it’s not your everyday life girl that they are dealing with. A lot of those stories are about pickups in bars that are one-might stands. I think that in this day and age, it is a minority of women who engage in those. It’s a minority who would notice a bulge and act on it with sex. There is probably a correlation between women who engage in one-might stands and women who are obsessed with penis size. There’s much more to this topic, I know. The rumor mill about cock size I suppose exists in some singles-dominated sectors of society, and could influence who a woman chooses to date. But I’m not in one of those sectors. I could never do the bar scene well. I met my GF on the internet on match.com (worked great for me), and “Penis Size” was not a variable I had to fill out in my profile :-)
She also says that sex with me is incomparable to any sex she has ever had. We talk a lot, we carress, we turn each other on, we screw like desperate wild animals. Our relationship is great too, which for a woman (and for some men, myself included) makes a big difference in how open your sexual relationship can be.
All of the above said. I’m a PE member for ME. My cock being bigger is a turnon to ME. I have talked openly about PE with her and she said if you want to do it for YOU go ahead, but don’t do it for me because you blow me away the way you are. Love is the component that makes this anxiety less important. I still feel this need to ask more details about her former lovers, especially “big john”, even though I know the wisdom of not asking about it.
Anyway, I suppose “DON’T ASK” is the best advice I’ve heard. It would have been easier that way. However, for me I would have asked eventually… can’t resist those sirens.
