Dino, I can relate to the whole “rat on a treadmill” feeling. I’ve been on that treadmill for years…with problem gambling. I can’t even begin to tell you how many thousands of dollars, how many wasted hours, and how many broken relationships I’ve pissed down the toilet because of my problem gambling. My social life sucked and all I could ever think about was blowing my last dollar. I’d even gamble knowing I’d lose! Twisted.
Eventually, I came to a realisation: I was letting myself go; wasting my life. I was falling into a black hole of depression and my health was beginning to suffer from inactivity and not eating. When I left high school at 19, I was a fairly muscular, 5’ 11”, 185 pound, good-looking dude (I’d get mistaken for Richard Gere a lot) who could get laid at the drop of a hat. Life was good. And, then, I had the misfortune to spend my 21st birthday in Las Vegas. I won $400 and I was reeled in: hook, line, and sinker.
Not to belabour this story, I was that rat on the treadmill and I needed to get off before life had passed me totally by. But I’m not one of those people who can be helped through a 12-step program; I just get resentful of other people trying to assume authority over me and rebel by jumping off the wagon. No, the only thing that could possibly help me - save my life, as it were - was to find some other “thing” to take the place of my gambling. It had to be something that required a lot of time and effort but that would pay-off with great rewards in the end. And it had to be something I could be proud of as I had been living with the shame of my addiction for so many years and my ego needed massive boosting.
I’m not really big on hobbies or collecting things so that was out. My job precluded much travel, so nix that. Finally, I decided that the best time of my life was in high school, all those many years ago, when I was the school stud. How did I achieve that status? Weight training and all-around physical fitness. This would be perfect for me because, I figured, time spent in the gym was time spent away from the casinos - plus, I remembered what an addicting high it was to lift those heavy weights. And, instead of empty pockets and a diseased social life, I would be re-building my physique back into its former greatness (I wish this didn’t sound so cocky, lol) and would use that body to get back into the swing. Physical health is tied to mental health, social health, and spiritual well-being: I needed - and would have - all of these things in spades.
How does this relate to PE? It’s simple: as the gambling waned and my physical appearance improved, I decided that I didn’t want to take just half-measures in my quest for perfection; even if you don’t achieve it, I’ve always felt that perfection, in anything, should be your ultimate goal. So, my body was lookin’ mighty fine and my life was falling into place and I just, one day, decided that, aesthetically, I wanted a bigger dick to complete the picture. My idea of physical perfection, you see, is Michealangelo’s statue of David - but with a larger tool. Well, I wanted to be David and have a Goliath hanging between my legs. This was to be my concession to vanity and I really didn’t mind spending this new-found time trying to achieve my vain ideal. Better that than the alternative.
I don’t care if it takes 2 years or 10, whatever it takes it will be worth it, if only, to keep me away from the gaming tables. In that respect, Dino, I’ve given up being the rat and am quite looking forward to being the happy hamster. I’m not saying that you don’t have a right to feel the way you do. After all, you have a wife and, probably, a whole slew of other things that are more important to you than the size of your dick. I, on the other hand, have very little, at the moment, but am looking forward to having a lot. Who knows, maybe I’ll feel like you do in a couple of years but I doubt it. Right now, it’s all about me, baby, and what I want.
Peace brother
Beef