Telling the Wife about PE

huddle,

IMO, if your single and tell a girl about your PE she will probably think your unique until you piss her off, or break up with her, then your probably going in the weirdo category. But in the back of her mind she should respect your efforts.

But so what, what’s she going to do tell your mom?

I seriously doubt any girls are going to think negatively about a guy wanting to make his dick bigger. Times are changing and PE isn’t a keep it in the closet deal anymore.

It is what you think it is.

zep

my girlfriend has know about my PE efforts since about the time we started going out (I’m pretty sure I told her even before we got naked together too…)

When I first told her, she was all like “WHY? It’s already huge anyway!!” That was her first reaction, telling me I didn’t need to etc etc (before we had even had sex)

Well, when she finally saw it I had already explained about the discolouration etc. She got freaked out “Anything that leaves marks like that has got to be bad!!”

But I talked her down by telling her I have been doing this shit for years with no long term bad stuff (bar discolouration) and that other guys (you lot) have been doing it longer without anything permanent in the way of damage.

Now she only dislikes me doing it because she thinks there are going to be negative side effects in the long term, even though I told her that there is evidence of only positive effects……

I think the problem is that I haven’t been gaining anything at all for ages (pretty much close to zilch since I started seeing her). She only sees superficial damage, and doesn’t feel any positive benefits…. hopefully when(if) I gain a big wad more girth she will notice it!! (Goddamn better notice!)

So everytime she whips my pants off she just says “tsk tsk you’ve been at it again havent you? Poor thing is all beaten up…” and gives me a funny look.

I keep up defence up by asking her questions like “What if it was the size of my finger? Would you want it bigger then?” and of course she says “well, yeah…” and then I snap back with “Well, if you enjoy the difference between the size of my finger and my penis, then it stands to reason that you would enjoy the increased difference between my penis now and what it will be like when it’s bigger” Usually shuts her up, if only due to confusion LoL :)

And I keep telling her (Only half jokingly) “Just you wait til it’s as thick as my wrist babe” ;)

(I think she might even be quietly looking forward to it) :D

Guys

My feeling is you should only tell if you have to, you know if you can’t get the time any other way. It’s on a need to know basis why do you want to deal with someone else’s insecurities and hang up’s if you don’t have to. And remember women talk and talk and talk every women has a support team of 2-5 friends that they tell almost all to. So if she has 3 friends and they have 3 friends and they have three friends, shit you just told half the f-ing world! Also I can’t imagine any women or should I say any married women “single women will put up with it until they hook and tie you” putting up with a guy hanging a couple of hours a day. I could see maybe a understanding wife not getting to jealous for maybe a .5 session a day but never a 2 hour a day habit. Also if your single take Yguy’s advice if you hurt them your going to be made out to be a super freak and if you share the same circle of friends your f-ed and also remember women talk single or married.

Dino

The wife has said and wrote absolutely nothing about the jelqing thing. I don’t plan to put it in her face, but it is less stressfull not to have to scrounge for privacy, if she walks in - she walks in. I expect she’ll just walk out again without comment negative or positve. I know her, if this was a problem I would sense it by now or have had some comments with a negative tone in our little email exchange. BTW she is taking to answering the questions pretty well, I don’t know if her enthusiasam is going to continue - we’ll see. Dino, I see what you are saying about the friends thing. I thought long and hard before desciding to let her in on the jelqing. You see its not PE as far as she knows, I think I layed it out pretty expertly for her to accept it at this level. As far as the PE aspect of it,I may never tell, as I said I am sure she has convincded herself that it was always this size. But on the other hand If I can figure a way to present the pe aspect it might open doors to me for other techniques (pumping - I doubt hanging I don’t need that much length in my situation, nor do I think I wish to spend that much time).

I dont plan to tell anyone about PE, and I think would never need to tell. I believe that I can get 40 min of privacy per day without too much trouble. Just do it while you are on the shower or make up a lame excuse for being locked in a room. If it doesn’t works then tell the person to fuck off, thats what I just told my mother 1 hour ago, eheh well not exactly with the same words. I was locked in my room and then my mother asked my sister to notice me that it was lunch time and that the food was already on the table. Well I acted like I didn’t hear it and stayed locked in the room for more 30 minutes. Then I went to the bathroom and stayed there for more 10 minutes. When I finally sat down to have lunch my mother looked pissed at me and asked why I’m often locked at various places of the house, and then she said I must be doing something very wrong, eheheh. I just said “whatever, I like privacy”. End of story.

Although PEing during lunch time was a bad idea, I think I have no problem in finding 40 minutes to be locked in my room without being bothered. Maybe the people here in my house thinks I’m a perverted but I don’t give jack shit about it. :D

Sometimes Dino, we think exactly alike :D ….. Girls are going to talk. So if you tell her about PE, chances are her friends will know, or even worse, your friends. Just not worth the risk, especially if you’re single.

hmm I think it doesnt sound that bad, chances are that they will get curious and want to check you out, if you know what I mean :D

YGuy & Dino,

OK you have a big dick and girls start talking about how big your dick is AND that you are continuing to grow it using some method of natural enlargement.

I think I’ve died and gone to heaven.

YGuy, the way I see it, it is absolutely worth the risk. Dude you will be a local legend in no time.

Seriously!

zep

Zep

You gotta point my friend!!

Dino

Ledzep,

Hard to argue with that one. I’ll just leave out what my starting size was. ;)

Jennifer has always known. She actually gets wicked turned on by PE. I just got my Bib in the mail and she is asking to keep it in her purse during the day when I am not using it.

I’m still holding out on telling the wife. In fact I probably never will unless she pins me down. We’ve casually discussed PE and she adamently thinks it’s crap. Of course if I start gaining again, she might wonder wtf.

DLD

You and Jenn are a trip! Jenn is like your own sexy dirty Barbie that you can dress and play with………dam I’m still hot over that Pink Power Ranger shoot you did with Jenn. WOW

Dino

I forgot about being single and dating several women at a time.

I was strictly coming from a married guy point of view when I strongly advocated telling them about PE.

Now I can see how letting the cat out of the bag with your GF can be a problem if you are concerned about it being public info.

I guess sometimes too much info/communication can be a bad thing.

I went ahead and told the wife about the pe aspect of my exercises and the gains I had to that point (+1.625x0.5”).

I did this in the venue of our little sex question email exchange. I got the opening about questioning about what she thought about penis size and my size in particular. Of course she said that size was not important, BUT SHE SAID SHE WOULDN’T MIND AN EXTRA INCH IN LENGTH AND AN EXTRA 1/2 TO 3/4 IN GIRTH!!!!!

Now I got this response from her while she was in her periovulatory time when she is at her deepest. I suspect her answer would have been different during her “shallow” times.

Any how this email thing has been a great way to find out what she likes (I did get some surprises, but not many - anyhow its all good). Thus far there have been no negative comments about the exercises, only vaguely encouraging comments (about all I can expect from her for now).

I’m not sure that she could really handle another inch in length, but I could be wrong. She don’t seem to get “uncomfortable” pressure or “stitches”. I guess we both have made subtle adjustments. I am definitely going for 8”bp x whatever I get.

I’ll decide at that point whether to go for 8.5”x whatever I get.

Ideally I’d like 8.5x6.5 But that is a hell of a lot of work and I am a lazy SOB. I let her in on the pe part about a week ago, I’ve also let on that I might like to try pumping - we’ll see how she responds to that.