The power of a big dick

SWW007

That’s a smart girl:) I would keep her for at least a while

She’s awesome and I’m not planning on getting rid of her anytime soon.

SWW007

I’ve been reading this thread regularly for several months. I haven’t made much progress in my formal PE efforts this last year, but I that there is something to it because before I had ever heard of PE’ing I had did a lot of things approximating jelquing and stretching and I think the length of my penis probably has increased about an inch or so since my early twenties. So I think it works and I have had some modest progress in the last year. Anyhow I have always had a large cock and new from an early age, just from reading, that I had a larger than average penis (6.5” x 6.0 when I was fourteen) up to 7.0” x 6.0 when I was in my early twenties.

But for a lot of reasons I didst have any confidence around women. The fact that I had an above average sized cock did not give me the confidence to approach women or believe that they would want to be with me. I had read that that the average sized penis was 6.25” x 5.0” and though I knew I was definitely bigger than that, I assumed that I was just a little above average and that in any event a big penis would only go so far with women.

Long story short, I was shy around women and my lack of confidence and self-deprecation acted as a barrier that kept them from approaching me in a way that I could recognize. One of the things that added to my lack of confidence was my lack of experience with women, a vicious circle if you know what I mean. Eventually, when I was 23 I decided that I would go to a prostitute to get experience.

The first woman I had sex with was older, maybe 30 or 35 (it’s hard to tell age of older women when you’re young). But I think she kind of figured me out as a shy guy. I mean I’ve always been tall and athletic, and fairly good looking, but I think she could tell I was a later bloomer. Anyway, the first thing she said when we got naked was, “You’ve got a BIG dick.” I said, “Really?” And she said, “Yeah, it’s a whopper.” The sex was, in hindsight, perfunctory, but her words gave me a good feeling that I think were the first step in transforming my sexual self image.

Of course, in my lack of confidence and low self esteem I just assumed she was being kind. But at some level I figured there was something to it. I knew I had a bigger than average penis and the fact that she found it worth mentioning meant something. I could put it off to mere kindness or pleasantness, but the fact that she thought it was worth mentioning made me think a little more concretely that, “yes, I am a guy with a big dick.”

It took me several more experiences with prostitutes before I had the confidence to believe that an attractive woman would want to have sex with me just because that’s what she wanted. The fact that about half the time I had sex with a prostitute she would, without any prompting from me tell me I had a big dick, did a lot to build my confidence. One of them told me something, that’s worth passing on to other guys who are well endowed. She said, “You should go dancing to meet girls.” It took me a while to figure that one out, but it’s good advice. I’d say more than half the time I have slow danced with a woman, my stiff penis pressed against her belly it has resulted in her saying she wanted to go home together.

Anyhow, that’s what it took for me to get confident. It sounds kind of crazy, since even now my dick is not quite 8” x 6”, but learning and believing that I had a big cock totally turned around my attitude and relationship to women. After my first sexual girlfriend I never went back to prostitutes and though my confidence has risen and fallen over the years, in the back of my mind I now have the feeling that if I get a woman in bed she’ll be mine. I’m sure a lot of this is confidence and not simply the penis size, but for me it was sort of a chicken/egg relationship—-knowing I had a big penis gave me more confidence with women and as I had more experience with women I came to understand that my penis was really remarkably big in the opinion of most women I slept with and that was a real plus in their minds.

My first girlfriend was way out of my league in my opinion at the time I met her. She was 5’10”, beautiful, thin, but curvy and big breasted, very experienced sexually and relentlessly pursued by lots of guys. But she was just so attractive (and fun and exciting to be around) that I just threw myself into getting her. When I finally went to bed with her after a couple of months, she was totally mine! I was tall and attractive, but not sexually experienced. Anticipating sex with her I had practiced delaying ejaculation so I was able to go 15 minutes or so before I came, but by the she had come several times. I came three times altogether, but I remember her saying, “you’re about seven orgasms behind me”. She said the next morning: “Do you have women chasing you all the time” and then “Are women afraid of you. You must be nine and half inches.” With time to process these things I realized: 1. It’s true, women really don’t know how to estimate penis size; 2. My 7 1/4” penis is what passes for giant sized; and 3. Even with a sexually experienced woman, my dick really was very big.

We eventually broke up, but she was always gave me good reviews in bed witnessed by several of her friends who later came on to me. We were too different in outlook, but sex was always good. In fact a year after we broke up, and I was going out with another girl, she contrived for us to go out drinking and dancing with a girlfriend of hers It all ended up with the three of us at her apartment playing strip poker, taking a bath together and then fucking. I’m sure that she had talked me up to her girlfriend and who wanted me to take her for a ride. I had a similar experience with another ex girlfriend a few years later, and I have to think that both of them had talked my dick up to their girlfriends.

Is there a first post contest going on I don’t know about because this guy won it.

I now dub thee, the Mighty Casey.

caseystretch

Great story Bro it’s really a wonderful thing this “Power of a big Dick”

I believe the “Power of Big Dick” starts first with us - before any woman gets to enjoy it.

Then, later, it reaches out to the women.

Getting women is mostly about Confidence. If we learn to be a good lover, then a Big Dick really enhances that experience - for both people involved.

That is exactly what motivates me to keep going, wad. I have learned much about romance, sensuality, seducing, technique, endurance, and the anatomy of female orgasm. While ALL good stuff, it would be even better if I had a huge tool to use as I perfected all the rest.

I have heard my wife say it probably one hundred times. “You are just the right size for me”, or “I don’t need you to be any bigger”, but then there is “after a while (in there) it just doesn’t feel the same” or “I don’t think I’m going to have one tonight, honey”. I hate hearing crap like that! I know she is just trying to make me feel better about myself, but like others have said before me, it does just the opposite!

I WILL have an 8x6.5 because I have enough experience with my wife that I know I she could accommodate that. She is too hung up on “pleasing me” or diffusing my “insecurities” and I believe she would NEVER come out and tell me that a larger dick would turn her on visually, or provide her better orgasms for physical or psychological reasons.

I want that power. Not just for myself, *cough* but so that I know she is loving me and feeling as good as she possibly could at the same time.

I think I have already begun to notice an increase in her desire for sex, and I have only gained a 1/2” in about a month. When Christmas 2006 gets here I’ll probably have a “big Dick” story of my own to tell.

That 8x6.5 is MINE, it is only a small matter of time.

goonbaby,
I know that my ex believed the same stuff your wife says - about the “right size,” etc. But as my cock grew, so did her enjoyment of sex, and the FREQUENCY of our sex. I don’t believe your wife is trying to mislead you; in fact, she might even believe what she’s saying. I don’t doubt that she means well, but as you’ve said some more size has made her more interested.

That’s not a sleight against women, its just the reality of their bodies - paricularly when they’re excited. The vagina expands and lubricates, of course.

You should be able to nail the 8 BP, with diligence, but I wouldn’t be so bent on gaining an extra 1.63” of EG - that’s a hell of a lot to gain, and might even be overkill. Either way, best of luck with your gains.

I totally agree with what Wadzilla is saying just above. It’s all about confidence. Physically I haven’t changed much since my early twenties: the cocks a little longer but about the same thickness. Like everyone else I’d like another 1/2” of length and another 1/4” or so of circumference. But what has changed since I was young and not-cock-sure is my self confidence. In my year or so of lurking Thunder’s I have read countless posts by guys saying that once they reach some stated size, usually something way beyond average in both length and girth then they will feel good about their cocks and what they’re bringing to the bedroom. But I suspect that a lot dissatisfaction of where you are results from not having a good feel for what the actual distribution of penis sizes is and not having a realistic idea of what women really are likely to run across in their sex lives.

There are a couple of good threads here on average size and I have run across a web site called “Mr. Average” (Google “Mr. Average”) which gives the actual distribution of penis sizes in the Lifestyles Study done in Cancun a few years ago. That study is notable for having nurses measure penis size, rather than self reported sizes which probably tend to be exaggerated. Anyhow, in that study while the mean was about 6x5, the median was was about 5.7x4.7 so that only about 1/4 of the distribution was over 6” in length and only about 1/5 were over 5.25 in circumference. That tells me you don’t have to be way above average for a woman to think you have a large cock … The majority of guys are very close to the median in size. And yet looking through a lot of posts here I’ve seen a lot of guys 6x5.25 or larger worrying about their cock size, afraid it won’t measure up. The odds are it will. If you are that size or larger most women, excepting an unusual special few, will probably put you in their collection of “large ones”.

My hunch is that if you are that big then any problem you have with getting to bed with a woman or having a good time once you get there is not due to your size, but has to do with your confidence or some other interpersonal problem. If you are that big, she may not say it, you may not realize it, but the statistics say you are one of the larger cocks she has run across. Sure there are some huge ones out there, 9x7 and bigger, but they are few and far between. Even if you suppose that most women would like a really big one, at least once, my suspicion is that very few women are going to hunt them down and get them. I’m sure most women like bigger, all things being equal, but most women aren’t obsessed about them in the way we are. I think a lot of us guys focus on our dick size sort of as a proxy for all our sexual insecurities and self doubts. It’s easier and more manageable to say “If I had a 10 inch dick then everything would be fine, at least with my sex life” than it is to confront some sort of nebulous consideration of self esteem and confidence. But the truth is if you have confidence, and have put some thought and effort into what gets a woman off in bed then women will want to fuck you, repeatedly, but if you don’t have these things, then they won’t.

My suspicion is that when you get a bit beyond average size, say 7x5.5 the real issue over cock size is mostly in your own mind. But this is not to say that a bigger cock will not be appreciated, I suspect a lot of women just don’t get vaginally multi-orgasmic without CDS stimulation from unusual length or the fullness and psychological impact of unusual thickness. My experience is that most women enjoy an unusually large cock, and but that what women think is “unusually large” is significantly smaller than what most guys thinks qualifies. I suspect most women like it bigger all things being equal, but all things seldom are equal. You don’t have to have a huge cock to stimulate the G-spot or the clitoris, just confidence, consideration and a little technique. A big cock can give you confidence, but it’s confidence (not empty bravado or bluster) that gets you in the door and delivery of the goods that gets you invited back. A big cock can help you with both confidence and delivery, but confidence and skills are the irreducible necessities, not a giant cock. I think a lot of people get side-tracked on building a big cock without really addressing the real obstacles to having a satisfactory sexual relationship with a woman: self confidence and the desire and discipline to figure out and get the skills to get her off. Anyhow, these things have been kicking around in my mind during my year of lurking. And despite everything said here, I still want more. Go figure. But I guess that’s the point of this thread: it’s hard to beat the feeling you get a woman shows or tells you that your big cock is doing something special for her.

Very good points.

I’ve seen guys come here over the years claiming some pretty big starting sizes (more than 7 x 5.5) who are utterly desperate to gain a lot more size.

Why?

Because self-scrutiny & soul-searching can be pretty damn painful (but well worth it). It’s so much easier to blame all your woes on your “little” 8 x 6 than on any one of 87 other problems you might have. I even hear jilted guys lament, so often, that “the bitch must’ve found some guy with a horse cock!”

Yeah….sure, that’s right. That’s what your problem was.

You see, I couldn’t even delude myself with that excuse, because the ex always made it clear (in word and deed) that I had a big cock & she really enjoyed screwing me (and still would, actually). But that’s a whole different story.

In my youth I was a mountain of muscle (always suspected of being a roid user - but I wasn’t). I’m tall, had a young face, etc. But with all that, I felt overshadowed by “only” being 6.5 x 5.25 or so (not actually small, of course, but it didn’t look “impressive” on a guy who looked so…..um, impressive.). So, believe it or not, I lacked confidence.

Now, I’m older, kind of gangly. Nobody ever stares at me, asks how big my arms are or how much I can bench, etc. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss that a little, but I also know:

(1) I’m packing an 8/8+ x 6++
(2) I get rock hard
(3) I can ball & ball & ball - like a young buck
(4) I’m a patient, creative lover (unlike most young bucks) - a marathon man, no double-pump chump

I have a sense of humor, and I lack the confrontational edge of my youth - which often repelled or intimidated people. In short, I don’t look like much, but I attract a wide range of women (18-50’s), and easily - far more so than in my youth. It’s about confidence and maturity (of course, it also helps when you can deliver the goods :) …)

Hey Wad good post! I remember seeing that picture of you when you looked like you could have been a serious bodybuilder contender, you should post it again so some of the new guys can see what a moose you really were and can relate better when you talk about the kind of shape you were in.

Ya post it Wad!

Thanks Wad for the advice and encouragement!

Thanks.
You know what, I’ve been looking for that pic (to send to my buddy’s son who lifts weights - to show him what can be done without roids, because his dad is worried because his son is considering using them), but I haven’t found it yet.

When I do, I’ll repost it.

I want one. ;)