My journey

Hello!

New member and first post.

I figured I’d start off by introducing myself, my goals, and what has brought me here.

I am a mid 30’s straight man who is looking to improve all aspects of himself: mind, body and soul. I will do these things via a handful of key approaches and practices, namely exercise, meditation, therapy, furthering my education and in turn my career, and last but not least, penis health and PE.

I am over 6’ and as of a month ago I was ~190 lbs. I currently have an associates degree and manage a small team at a great company. My measurements are currently BPEL 6” and PEG 5”.

I have admittedly struggled with mental health issues in my past, including, but not limited to, body dysmorphia. Many of you may read that, along with my current ‘stats’ and question as to why I’m here. That answer I’ve already gone over in the third paragraph. I aim to improve all aspects of myself to land me firmly in the ‘above average - exceptional’ range of men. I understand this term can be subjective, but I am aiming for the objective stats here: health/physique, education/income, and a good, long, fat, and healthy hog.

My motivations are many, and have varied greatly in the past. As of recently the state of my 10+ year marriage has been the prime factor.

A little backstory. Neither my wife and I came from ‘happy’ homes as kids. Our traumas are many, especially hers. As a result we have both suffered through the aforementioned mental health issues as individuals and had problems-a-many as a couple. Things have steadily improved over the years, but we are currently at a make or break point. I have not been a good partner in more ways than I can count, and she has expressed guilt in many of the things she has said and done as well. I will not get into the details past this: I had a pretty bad porn problem that hurt her sense of self to the point of her experiencing a severe battle with depression and body dysmorphia. While she is a grown woman and makes her own decisions, I do know this aided her eventual decision to stray from our relationship. Again, no more details need to be mentioned.

While I did feel the usual pain, anger, confusion that many would initially experience, I refuse to walk away a bitter and defeated man.

No sir, not I. I will get better. Win I must.

My goals are many, but the short answers are as follows: 10-12% body fat (currently around 18-20, I have lost ~15 lbs in the past 2 months by running a high protein caloric deficit diet as well as running 3 times a week and 3 days of upper/lower body weight training). A bachelor’s degree by 2024-2025, a promotion or a higher position somewhere else, and that coveted 8x6 third member.

I have fondly named these main goals ‘My 3 BD’s’ - Better Dad-bod, Bachelor’s Degree, and Bigger Dick.

I’m looking forward to the journey, and I appreciate all of the time and effort that others have put in to share what they’ve learned and experienced.

Thanks for reading.
-BW

Welcome to Thunder’s, BoggeyWan! Good group of folks here, always willing to help out. Tons of useful info and experience to learn from. I’m glad you have your goals and motivations worked out. I look forward to your progress!

Have you thought about which methods you might use? I highly suggest the newbie routine, for starters and conditioning. The name isn’t a put off, it’s the foundation of everything to come from here on out.

Keep us updated!

Welcome! This stuff here, it works.

Welcome friend. Get straight to the newbie routine and do that for 90 days, you’ll see the gains flock.

I am doing the newbie routine with some additions/tweaks.

Based on my research I’m doing the standard down stretches as well as a stretch where I grab with either hand on the outside/under of the same side leg and use my leg to push outwards/sideways to create downward + left/right tension. I’m holding these stretches for 25-30 seconds and usually do 5-10 per (standard down, each side under/outside of leg).

I am doing the standard jelqing as well as a manual sort of clamp where I hold the base and pinch directly below the head and do some v-bends to stretch the corpus more via trapping blood in that specific area of the shaft.

I also edge and warm wrap (3-5 per day) throughout the day to promote constant volume. I usually do kegels before/after these times as well.

I see myself incorporating a water pump and clamping in the future.

Thanks for the welcome and replies!

We strongly recommend any one whom pumps to have a vac pressure gauge in their pump system. Many pumping injuries are caused by not knowing what the vac pressure is. As far as I know, most water pumps do not have gauges.

You sound like you are on a reasonable path to a better life.

Daily, long term (sustainable) exercise and meditation are essential for me.

I too am (re)starting PE, careful approach.

I appreciate it. I’ve always felt that getting bigger and better was (mostly) a choice.

Meditation is something I didn’t start incorporating into my daily routine until my late 20’s. I’m not as disciplined as I used to be about it but I see myself getting back there. It is a better mood stabilizer than any medication or drug I’ve ever been on.

After doing some more research I realize I have been measuring wrong.

My BPEL is actually 7” and my EL is 6.2-6.4”, MEG is accurate at 5”.

Aside from a rest day/only piss pulls yesterday I’ve been actively PE’ing all week.

I’m sticking to the newbie routine + minor variations as of right now. I was tired of reheating rags so I went with a rice sock for warm-up/post-warm instead. Retains heat better and I can actually pull my briefs up and it’ll stay in place. The bulge looks funny and is hopefully a sign of things to come.

As of right now (active for 3 weeks as of today) my routine is:
1. Warm Up
2. 20-30 Sec Stretches (15-20 per)
- Standard downward
- Standard Upward
- Left/Right Side- I reach around and OK grip under the outside of my leg and push outwards with my thigh to create the tension. I do this with both sides for the same 20-30 seconds. I can also slightly flex my arm/wrist to create a little extra tension. Takes away from the need to maintain constant pressure with your forearms.
3. Jelq (75-100, 3-5 sec) + girth work (usually consists of a sort of manual clamp with one hand as close to base as possible and forcing blood into the shaft/head, I then try to squeeze the head as comfortably as possible forcing more blood into shaft (440 horse?) I’ve got some good size glands so I’m not focusing there right now. With the engorged shaft I do slow 45-90 degree bends at various lengths, holding for 5-20 seconds [I will more than likely increase this time relative to results] and release, I’ll do a few more jelqs and repeat the process another 12-20 times. Hoping to increase tunica pressure/stretching)
4. Warm-down with rice sock
5. I don’t always remember to do kegels but when I do it’s usually the standard newbie recommendation.

I also incorporate random edging to promote/maintain volume throughout the day. I’m still on the fence whether this is helpful or not. We’ll see.

I’m looking to measure once a month. Probably around the 1st.

I’ll post updates here to my routine as well as any insights I may find.

-BW

Minor noobie routine today and yesterday.

I incorporated some accordions and stretches while coming down from edging yesterday. Left it looking really dark but plump all day.

Was on the tail end of my jelqing during my lunch break and my former SO walks in. If you’ve read my first post you know we’re going through a ‘separation’ rn, so that was a little awkward. She is aware of what I’m doing but I’m going to have to establish more boundaries to avoid those walk ins. Hell maybe I should just ask for some help lol. Looking back it’s pretty funny. Didn’t get the warm down in but overall happy with the time I got to devote to it. I’ll try and get another shorter set in later today.

I need to get out there and hit the trails today. I let myself get a little down and drank too much this weekend. I can feel a physical difference. Still working on that 10-12% body fat. Looking forward to it today.

-BW

Went pretty hard with my routine yesterday and ended up ejac’n at the tail end of my jelq sesh, wasn’t planned. Naturally there was some volume recession after that. That plus a light session this morning pushed me towards the edge (and over) again. Not sure what’s going on here, never really had a problem with premature ejac. Maybe the sensitivity has increased due to PE? I’m debating taking it easy for a few days to see if that helps. I seemed ‘smaller’ today as well. Hmm

Also had a small amount of blood along with the semen this morning. I’m attributing that to my pretty rigorous routine yesterday evening. I was noticeably sore afterwards and still a little sore today. More than likely take a day or two off from any routine exercises and just do some piss pulls here and there (I’ve convinced myself).

I’ve also come down with something respiratory related (dare I say the c word?), and I got light headed after my PE yesterday (soreness + blood + light headed = probably went too hard). This is only a couple hours after a 3.6 mile run where I didn’t experience anything similar. Could it be related to the prolonged blood flow redirection as well? I’m thinking out loud here.

Despite me doing this for close to 4 weeks now I’m waiting til 10-1 to take my first PE measurement. I’m looking forward to it.

On another note, I’m trying to stay positive and focused on myself throughout this separation with my SO. Living together is a challenge (I will be moving out when our lease is up). I still have the natural drive for sex (she often reciprocates, even initiates) and we still have spurts of intimacy that are reminiscent of the old days. Love is a crazy thing. I keep telling myself to not take anything said or done personal. I’m telling myself that by not reacting to negative words and actions from her I am getting better as a man, and thatll make any future relationship better as well.

Here’s to betterment overall.

-BW

Took the weekend off (sans piss pulls).

Hit a newbie routine yesterday with some edging/girth bends.

(all times approximate)
1.) 5-7 min Warm Up
2.) 12-13 minute stretch (all directions, 15-30 second holds each)
3.) 25-30 minute jelqing (3-5 second jelqs , alternated directions of push and hands/grip types each rep)
4.) 10-12 plump bends (20-30 second holds each, edged/jelqed between reps to maintain volume/blood flow)
5.) 5 minute warm down

Onward
-WW

Same today. Might try and get in a light session this evening as well.

Onward
-BW

Had a couple standard newbie PE sessions at the end of the week, overall was a little discouraged due to some other personal stuff going and didn’t get in as great sessions as I should have.

Did the standard newbie today all the way through and then some.

Looking forward to getting back into routine this next week.

Onward
-BW