Never Should Have Stopped

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Haha fair enough, how should I hide the pump and myself while it’s in use? I feel like it’d be more difficult to get away with it than the BM in the shower/bath. Guess I could hide in the bathroom and run a fake shower lol?

Btw it’s wild to have read your posts for several months and now you’re here on my thread. Big respect for you Don, thanks for taking any time to check this out!

Took 6 days off the bathmate, spot turned skin toned but lost the discolouration from before.
Went in BM flaccid for 2mins(1 full pump), no problem.
Went back in for 5min (2full pumps, 1 min apart) and came out with the spot full of blood again. The spot brings no pain and is right at the surface of the skin. Spot is prob half a cm wide now.

I didn’t go nearly as hard as I’ve gone in the past either. Didn’t even kegel while in it. Went to do some squeezes for the head after, and 3 other small spots popped up. Called it a day at that. They are slightly raised, I’d almost call them blood blisters but it looks as if somethings burst.

I’m wondering if that was from too much manual force, again it was a familiar amount applied. Only thing I can think of is I’ve been working out a lot more on bars lately, maybe it’s upped grip strength enough to cause this? Doubtful but I don’t know why I’d pop in so many places at once when it hasn’t been an issue before.

I’m going to be cutting out bathmate for 2 weeks now, heartbroken as that’s where I need the gains most. 2 weeks delay is going to be torture.
Manual stretching only until the spots fade then adding light jelqing back in while monitoring.

I’m really being mindful to not crank on this thing as tempting as that is. Disappointed that I have such a problem this time around, last time my worst PI was small red spots, never got ones like this.

BPFSL reached 8.2” today after stretching session, means little but it’s my only form of progress. Got my first lig pop since 2010 too, made me jump lol

It’s a marathon and every time you exert discipline is a win, because that’s what it will take.

From the outside it sounds embellished, but for sure a bit of a power play. Maybe her choosing you made her feel vulnerable. Overall you might be a much higher value guy than what she was able to secure before. In any event she chose you and she’s encouraging you regarding the sex, so I don’t really see what the problem is.

Also given that you had an interest in PE before, this was probably an underlying issue for you and she’s just a buffer.

And you must like her pretty good if you’re concerned about pleasing her.

Wow she totally emasculated you in such a loving way lol. Fail this test and you’ll be sitting in the corner of the room watching another guy fuck her. Id get rid of her asap. I mean your literally mutilating your Dick because of it.

I keep coming back to this thread. Man I’m sorry your wife did that to you.

FWIW my wife did agree with me once when I said that I thought I used to be bigger. My starting size was 5.5”. It was then that I realized that ED/performance anxiety was eating away at my sex life/marriage and I got to work.

TP turned everything around for me. Good luck.

To be fair, it’s harshly phrased but you are not wrong. Like it just sounded intentional to me, and honestly that is almost unforgivable.

If circumstances allow, I agree with Crimsonwarrior. Move on.

What you have is an abusive relationship. Some people might suggest counseling, but in my experience that wouldn’t change how she thinks, just what she says. Then she’d probably find other ways to denigrate you.

You have an investment in the relationship, and what you’re doing shows how much you’re willing to do to preserve it. There’s nothing wrong with that, but what you’re going to have to face up to is, “how much shit am I willing to put up with?” And then make a realistic plan for disengagement.

You *always* have the option to leave. It’s just a matter of whether the cost is worth it to you. Or to stay, if that’s your choice. Maybe the cost is more than you’re willing to pay, but you’ll never know if you don’t start making a plan.

1 week since Bathmate and squeeze injuries.
The spots are still there, blood faded to pink by Wednesday, then turned pre-pumping flesh tone Friday.
They’re still slightly raised and a different looking texture. Shiny and wrinkly like the fresh skin after a scab falls off. Skin on them flakes off too, like an old pimple. No pain, itch etc, really wouldn’t know they were there without vision.

No way these are exacerbated by heat huh?? I’m pretty sure it’s too much vacuum/grip strength but I’m wondering if the space heater makes my skin a little weaker?

These could just be bigger petechiae than I’m familiar with, fingers crossed.
I’m seeing a doctor tomorrow to see if they can offer any insight, urologist is booked up for next 3 months. I’m hoping to get a grip on what this is by the time my proper pump kit shows up.

Ordered a pump with a gauge and diff cylinders Friday, not going to fuck around with the Bathmate any longer. It may have worked well for my old mentor but I’m not a fan. I still have that .25” BEG increase tho, the bottom 1.5 inches gained. Pretty sure the BM was the cause of that, that’s always where it felt most intense.

For this past week I’ve been doing:

2on1off

10min hot cloth warmup

10 mins of stretching(1min per direction) with space heater

5min cloth warm down

3x a day, minimum 2hrs between

I’ve been reading a lot about Ultrasound heat, seems to be the way to go. Will probably add that in once I know what to buy, space heater helps you feel warm but I find the skin can get hot while inside doesn’t feel it much. Also not a fan of sweating while I do manuals like some crazed freak lmao

Appreciate the advice on the relationship, for now there is too much new info for me to digest before thinking/deciding anything. I’m a married man, and I’m only getting married once whether this works out or not so I gotta give it my all.

PS the wife does have a tendency to exaggerate/embellish, but I have no interest in entertaining that idea/ trying to cope that way.
I don’t know what the point of lying to me about this would be, or if it’d be better/worse that it wasn’t fully truthful.

So ill give you a tip that’ll make your wife say gave her that oof feeling and will make her have a PIV orgasm. It all starts with EQ and definitely not a fat floppy Dick the harder the better.

The next time your in missionary and on top start with just your tip till shes good and wet. When shes ready go deep and stay deep with short strokes. Here is where the rock hard EQ comes in when yoir deep you want to start rolling your hips from 1 wall to the next making sure to give each 1 a few short strokes. Something I like to do is when im up against 1 wall Balls deep ill turn my hips to try and flick my cock out but i dont I just go to what I think is comfortable to her. After a while you’ll notice shell probably either start working her hips with you or shell raise her legs higher and wider which means she close to the big o. When That happens take her arms away and pin them behind her head. Start short stroking her pussy with just the tip and make her tell you to take her pussy. When shes says it slam it deep and work it only deep from top to bottom an side to side. Tell her she cant have her pussy back till she cums on your Dick and you want her cum now. 100% Guaranteed to blow a load on your Dick. Once shes made that mental connection she can O from other positions like doggy.

In doggy have her on all fours with legs spread wide Not with her ass up and face in the floor. Give her a slap on the ass and tell her to fuck you and milk your cock. Let her be in control. After a while have her go deep on yoir cock when she does have her work her hips up and down like she is twerking except when she goes up you work your hips down an vice versa. She will cum so hard from g spot and clit stim she will collapse on the bed shivering and shaking. I hope this helps you with the PIV issue. Its always worked for me and we are the exact same size. Women dont really need a thick cock just their pussy wallowed out. its why they always say its about motion of the ocean or if you know how to work it.

One more thing after my wife figured out i could make her piv orgasm she was on top 1 night short stroking my cock where the g spot is…maybe 2 or 3 inches in her. Next thing I know without warning she cums all over me. She isnt a squirter either but a gusher. She makes sure to pee before we have sex everytime because thats what it is …piss. Even docs say that now after testing. The porn industry has fucked people up. One other thing dont jack hammer it. maybe long stroke it a little but either stay shallow or deep with the emphasis being deep.

Sorry for the rambling but i had a similar situation happen to me. Even hated my Dick and didnt care what happened to it for a while till I stumbled upon TP. You got what it takes just get your mind right, have good EQ, and stay healthy.

Don’t take this as harsh as it sounds, I know how to fuck I just don’t have enough for this particular person. My EQ is great, I wish I could improve on that for easy gains. All that advice is great, but I’ve been doing that stuff for over 15years at this point:(

I can make her cum at least 3 times per, usually closer to 7-8+. I can make her cum from slapping her ass after working her up, have to peel her legs off my sides/face from convulsions, cum from nipple stimulation, cream built up on my dick etc. I have a hard time finishing so I wear her out every time as well, sometimes she finishes me after.

It’s not orgasms that I’m having trouble with.
Its PIV squirting that I don’t have the girth for.
It’s the fact that I can fuck her stupid, eye rolling screaming type stupid, and it’s still not enough. There’s apparently an entire different level of sex she’s had that I can’t give. You’d think her knees had magnets in them the amount she puts them together. Especially to start, she loves starting that way.

Not to mention dragging myself along her walls destroys most sensation for me within 1min. I do it every time ofc, but it’s a drag when after the first min you feel like you’re fucking an OK hand gesture, everything’s been opened up too much and a few mins later the vibrator comes out to help.
She suggested an open relationship until she realized I would have other women and she can’t handle that, in the same sentence.

I’m setting myself up for the single life in a couple years. Killing the love I have for my wife is hard and will take time, as will sorting out where I’ll live and work etc. Her thinking of an open relationship is all I need to hear to know it’s over for me, she’s already fantasizing about others. It’s fair, I’m her longest relationship, she never had to go longer than 2years without having a change/upgrade. 6 years in now, gotta give her some credit for staying loyal this long.

It’s too bad, I wanted the family life and hate hookup culture. Hookup culture is all I’ll have left soon, maybe I’ll adapt and grow to like it.
I do miss being enough for somebody, and being exciting for someone, that was a nice feeling.

Porn has fucked people up, I started watching hardcore porn in grade 4. I thought condoms only covered 60% of your dick for years until I put my first one on and my heart sank when it almost hit the base. I swear the first site I frequented was called big tits and round asses haha I think it was by bang bros or brazzers

I’m happy you’re in a better place now, and ecstatic you and your wife are happy together. Thanks for all the effort you put in to help me:)

Pump system came in Wednesday, got cleared by my doctor before starting, did second session today.

Turns out I was absolutely cranking on myself with the Bathmate. My old mentors advice was go for max pressure 3x5mins and increase time weekly from there, I tested 6Hg at the end of my last session today just to see how it felt and it wasn’t close to bathmate pressure. I’ll assume I was hitting 10+Hg in the first 1-2mins with bathmate, no wonder I looked and felt so battered. Scared of that thing now.

New routine for the next 4 weeks:

-5min warmup
-space heater at 26 C

-10min pump 1-3Hg
-3min massage

10min pump 2-4Hg
-3min massage

-10min pump 2-4Hg
-5min warm down
-cockring for 30mins after

For the first month I’ll be sitting between 1-4Hg, with the last 3mins of my final 10min sessions raised by 1-2Hg. This is when I tested the 6Hg for 1min.

No erect gains to report, although flaccid is hanging around .5” longer than it did start of the year.

Wow, glad to hear you are taking care of yourself, both physically and mentally.

It seems you are a passionate and devote guy. I have some friends that used to be in abusing relationships, but they are now out of it, looking after themselves.

Just PE for your own sake