QL's Log

QL

That is a great report and I’m impressed how many battles you are able to fight in parallel.

As I feel a bit guilty to have you put on the 10k steps path, I’d like to offer some relieve too, regarding alcohol.

As I have the impression that you are self-disciplinated enough, you actually can increase your alcohol consumption for medical reasons. But: ONLY red wine, the heavier the better. It is a medical fact that moderate daily consumption of red wine is beneficial against high blood pressure and enhances sleep quality.

So the recommended dosage is 1-2 decilitres for women and 2-3 decilitres for men. That’s roughly 1-2 glasses. What I do is having a little good-night ceremony: last thing to do before bed, I quietly sit at my balcony, watch the sky and drink my unique glass of red wine and review my day. Then I go to the bath and bed and read until my eyes fall down. My sleep quality is excellent.

Now if you do it as couple, this is even better because it’s a great bond you create. And do it only on days when you did not have other alcohol (like a dinner or other social events). As I believe that life is too short to drink bad wine, I have a medium-priced (in my case it’s Amarone or Barolo, but that’s a personal preference) bottle open which for me alone last exactly one week.

I am doing this now for several years and not developed an urge for a second glass. But again, everybody is different when it comes to drugs, and alcohol is not my strong side it seems.

And I think that little day-ending ceremony adds a lot to overall life quality.

Thanks Lilhelp - so simple and so good.

As I muddled thru the ups & downs of recovery for several years, my thoughts especially at the beginning were often clouded with profound regret that tended to weigh me down if I let it - just a constant, unwelcome companion that led me to ideate suicide a great deal, but of course that’s a selfish solution when you come to the end of it.

I agree with you that there are a myriad of variables that go into making every journey unique and we needn’t be passive else someone or something besides ourself will determine our destiny. I’m trying to move past the mess, (making amends where I can), leaving the regrets behind (because I know that I can’t ever change the past) and as you alluded to, trying to learn to live well in the days I’ve been given.

I never dreamt I’d be finding this kind of encouragement (and more) via this forum but feel really fortunate to have encountered some wise, heartfelt counsel at this waypoint.

QL

Hehehe! Our words have power don’t they?!? I needed to get back on the path so there is only sincere thanks - my counter has me at about 8k steps today and while I haven’t lost many pounds yet, I know if I’m consistent it will come. To help this along, I’m adding some intermittent fasting (QL - Diet And Pe) to my mix since I need to gently cut down on my intake but don’t want to be thinking about what I’m supposed to eat all the time (and while I basically eat paleo, I needed something sustainable to help me trim a few calories).

Okay how’s this for synchronicity - just read a book by Roger Corder called “The Red Wine Diet” that preaches the same thing! You’ve lived it - he researched it - same conclusion.

I’m a firm believer that rituals and traditions add a great deal of meaning to life and what you have going on sounds ideal. I’m in the process of building good habits into my life so I think this would add something great to look forward to several nights a week (instead of sneaking around for a pure escape as I previously did with my drinking). The wife’s not a fan of reds but perhaps she’ll join me with some of the unique concoctions she quaffs down and she can help me hold to the old adage of “all things in moderation”. Cheers! 🍷

QL’s Log

2017 Stats, Week 38

01-07 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
02-04 BPEL 5.688 EG 4.438 FL 2.812
03-04 BPEL 6.125 EG 4.500 FL 3.125
04-01 BPEL 6.250 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
05-06 BPEL 6.313 EG 4.563 FL 3.500
06-03 BPEL 6.438 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
07-01 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
08-05 Deconditioning Break
09-02 Deconditioning Break
10-07 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875

Monthly Diatribe: A little late with my update but must say it was good to clear my head of PE for a while and avoid my fixation & obsession with it during my 2-month deconditioning break. I’ve returned to PE a bit more balanced (I think) and while I showed no gains or losses while I was taking time off, my length gains immediately restarted upon picking back up with PE. No measurable girth gains but because my goal of 7” NBPEL is perhaps a year or more away, I’ll be sticking to my program (of jelqing in the morning and manual stretches thru the day) and see if I don’t pick up a bit more girth (as when I started), without resorting to alternative techniques just yet - looking at the long game here (pun intended).

Porn: Unfortunately the no porn/no fap thing only lasted through my 2-month deconditioning break but the experiment firmly (another pun intended - stop!) proved its point: that I was hitting PE, porn & fap too hard with the combined effect destroying my EQ. In regard to this, I now know that I can do PE or do porn & fap and have decent EQ but cannot do both! I also discovered that even without porn or fap, if I even just hit PE too hard in a given day, my EQ (specifically, lasting past 5 minutes in the sack) will tank. Solution to that: back off PE or don’t have sex on days I do PE.

Fitness: Lost no freaking weight during decon months but I think I hit things too hard (with too much walking & too intense lifting) instead of easing into things with smaller, incremental changes. Trying to shift my mindset to something sustainable which I’ll amp up over time.

Speaking of Sex (again): Mrs. QL is in full-blown crisis mode so my “well” so to speak, has dried up. I’m having to pester her to get any which I hate and the rejection & disinterest helped push me back to my old faithful (if hated) friends of porn & fap. However, it’s fascinating to be deeper inside her than ever and while I think she’ll respond even more to girth increases, she’s still enjoying our occasional sex more than when I began PE which is reason enough (for me) to keep right on going. Fighting mild to severe depression hasn’t helped any of the above but because I tend to trade addictions, at least alcohol consumption is under control for the moment.

Best gents,

QL

I’m coming off a really consistent week of PE and had raging morning wood yesterday (wish that were consistent but more like just 25% of the time). I’m also heading into a deconditioning week which is good because it feels like my unit really needs a break but I’ve been playing with how I may attack girth once I get the length I want (which will be when I hit around 7 NBPEL).

Clamping seems to be an obvious choice (because wanting to keep costs low and PE equipment minimal) but the opinions of it not giving permanent gains and/or being possibly dangerous long-term (the idea of the high pressures damaging arterial cell walls as they do if one has high blood pressure) have sent me on searches for answers to these questions - unfortunately as with most things PE, there are many divergent opinions. Ponder, ponder, ponder….

QL

QL’s Log

Stats - Week 51

01/17 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
02/17 BPEL 5.688 EG 4.438 FL 2.812
03/17 BPEL 6.125 EG 4.500 FL 3.125
04/17 BPEL 6.250 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
05/17 BPEL 6.313 EG 4.563 FL 3.500
06/17 BPEL 6.438 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
07/17 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
08/17 Decon Break
09/17 Decon Break
10/17 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875
11/17 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.625 FL 3.938
12/17 Decon Break
01/18 Decon Break

Monthly Diatribe: Returning from another 2-month deconditioning break which wasn’t intentional at first, but once I realized I’d fallen off the PE wagon in November, I figured what the heck - I’d made some gains post-decon (after gains had been slowing down pre-decon), let’s make this another, healthy (long) decon break and see what happens afterwards. Anyway, it’s great to get back to PE and although I lost some flaccid length & girth during my break, I’m not too concerned cuz baby it’s cold outside!

I never dreamt I’d be on the cusp of a 7” BPEL measurement, so that’s a huge motivation (if a bit arbitrary) to keep at PE. However, once I hit that, my next goal will be 7” NBPEL after which I’ll probably turn aggressively to improving my girth and then maybe the wife WILL notice something’s changed. Speaking of which, I’m still in stealth mode but with changes taking place so gradually, Mrs. QL seems not to have caught on but is in fact more and more willing to accommodate my requests for sex (although not in the bj department just yet).

Porn: Still fighting the battle with this demonic bitch (how could a guy come to hate good ol’ porn - scroll down a little into this post for QL’s Primer on Sex Addiction) and strangely whenever I regularly practice PE, the constant tug of sex addiction is lessened (which I think has to do with having somewhere else to channel my addictive energies - oh, that I could redirect my compulsions into whipping myself into better shape!). As much as I like checking TP pics for motivation, if I’m not super disciplined, they trigger me to surf porn and then it’s all over. Bottom line - I continue to aim for a no porn/no fap existence as it tremendously improves my state of mind and markedly improves my EQ (especially in the area of staying power with Mrs. QL who recently suggested I get some of the little blue pills from the doctor - ouch!).

Fitness: Still trying to work in regular workouts and walk an hour per day. So frustrating to have the discipline to knock out PE but fail with my fitness goals (which ironically would probably add a half inch to an inch to my NBPEL (via diminishment of my fat pad) AND improve my EQ as well). Any suggestions in this department are welcomed.

Best,

QL

Over my first year doing PE I’ve learned that for me, great EQ is dependent on the right balance of three things: PE in moderation, fitness and staying free of porn. When I overdo PE, let up on exercise or use porn, EQ takes a nosedive and I can’t even finish the act when having sex at which point you kinda have to ask, what exactly was the point of dedicating yourself to PE if you can’t use the new tool you’ve got.

So with the PE leg of my trifecta now solidly back in place (following my two-month decon break), I’m working on getting regular exercise back into my regimen and in fact just reached two weeks of no porn and no fap! While EQ had been okay with a very limited amount of porn on board, now that I’m solidly & regularly hitting PE, the dreaded EQ nosedive struck - so it’s time to strengthen the third leg by getting my fitness level on an upward trajectory while maintaining PE and staying away from porn. Will hopefully have a better report at the start of the month.

Best,

QL

Wow, I am really impressed with your length gains. Great job staying committed to what is working for you.

When you reach 7 inches BPEL, I bet the 7 inch NBPEL goal will come very quickly. Lose a little weight, gain a little length, and you’ll be there!

What is your fat pad at currently? Mine seems to stay at about 1/2 inch when I maintain my current weight. I’m going to try to lean out a bit before my beach vacation in March, so I’ll see if that reduces the fat pad somewhat.

QL’s Log

@tencenttrick - thanks for the props! I’ve truly been surprised with my success and just hope I can figure out a way to replicate my results with girth. I think you’re right about the key to my NBPEL goal coming quickly through a combination of things. Ironically losing weight is easier than PE so I’ve got multiple incentives to get after the weight loss. To your question, my fatpad is 1.25” - don’t know what I can get it down to, but I’ve got to drop at least 30 pounds to reach where I want to be. Good luck with your fatpad efforts!

Stats - Week 56

Q1/17 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
Q2/17 BPEL 6.188 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
Q3/17 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
Q4/17 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875
01/18 Decon Break
02/03 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.625 FL 4.000

Monthly Diatribe: I’ve now done a month of consistent PE following a deconditioning break of two months but with no measurable gains yet except for a small increase in my flaccid length. I’ll take it but perhaps I’ve plateaued with my current techniques - that’s what it feels like anyway.

Since I wanted to work on girth anyway, I’ve begun exploring clamping and am loving it - it’s one of the most intriguing sensations ever and I’m trying to determine if I should leave off manual stretches and just jelq & clamp only. What I do know, is that 3 good sets of 10 minute clamping sessions every other day is hitting my unit hard, as in turtling that I haven’t experienced for a long time - I may have to back off either numbers of sessions per day or days of PE per week.

Porn: Been slipping up bad lately which sucks in multiple ways but for the sake of this post, super undesirable in terms of achieving gains since anecdotal evidence seems to support better physiological conditions for growth when one keeps wanking to the minimum.

Fitness: Walking is spotty with a recent injury to my leg so I’m waiting it out so that I can hit walking and weight training again when spring arrives.

Current PE Routine:
Frequency: Mo, We, Fr
5 min warm-up
10 min jelqing
Later in day: 3 sets of 12-point modified V-stretches interspersed with 3 sets of 10 min clamping sessions

Best,

QL

I’ve also been dabbling with a little bit of cablecuff clamping, and I agree that it’s an interesting sensation. The stretching sensation is similar to what I feel while water pumping, but without the outer skin stretch and associated edema. The only thing holding me back from doing more is that I don’t want to slow or stall my length gains. I’m under the impression that length gains come easier and faster when I’m not doing much girth work. When I have temporary girth gains from a workout, I have a much harder time stretching to maximum length. Turtling probably has something to do with it, but I feel like it’s harder to get a good stretch and harder to get as much as I can out of the length workout.

If you do decide to forego stretching for clamping and jelqs, I’ll be very interested in how your gains progress. I’m definitely looking for a new routine. I just started using an extender to try and restart my length gains, but it’s too early to know it is doing anything. I find the extender to be inconvenient, burdensome, and painful, but I suppose I need to give it a chance before I move onto something else.

QL’s Log

Stats - Week 60

Q1/17 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
Q2/17 BPEL 6.188 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
Q3/17 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
Q4/17 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875
Q1/18 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.625 FL 4.000

Monthly Diatribe: As per the prophets, gains have slowed but I’ve also seen an atypical gain this month in BPSFL (from 6.8750 to 7.1250) - one hopes this will eventually translate to increases to other measurements. I had changed my routine because of slowing results (and honestly, a little boredom) to now regularly include clamping, so I’m curious to see how junior’s going to respond to this.

Porn: Continuing to slip up but at least not using for the purpose of walking the lizard - more to keep my dick inflated during clamping - wanting to get away from this practice but necessary to keep hard for as long as my clamping sessions require.

Fitness: Finally exerting the discipline to eat better & exercise regularly and after a decent amount of effort (more mental than physical) this past month directed towards cutting, I’ve seen a 1” reduction in waist (navel) measurement which accompanied an 8 pound weight loss - looking forward to seeing continuing body-fat reduction contribute to reducing my (pubic) fat pad and increasing my NBPEL - if that’s not motivation, don’t know what is.

Supplements: Taking multi-vitamins and just began experimenting with applying Vitamin E directly to my junk with the (half-baked, scientifically unproven) idea that it will be absorbed transdermally into my genitals and help to clear away plaque (which we know E is good at when taken internally (in moderation)). Taking E is obviously not the only reason, but in concert with eating better and exercising, I’ve been able to reduce occurrences of ED & complete the act with Mrs. QL more often. This coming month I’ll be adding Creatine to my stack as I add some resistance workouts from time to time. Trying not to overdo and stress my systems in any way that slows my progress in fitness or PE.

Current PE Routine:
Frequency: Mo, We, Fr
- Before work:
5 min warm-up
10 min jelqing
5 min warm-up
- At work:
2 restroom breaks where I do:
3 min 12-point modified V-stretches
1 restroom break where I do
10 minutes clamping x3 (five minute breaks in between so this is by necessity at lunch or at the close of the work day)
Piss pulls (also at restroom breaks) any time I think of them & have time every day of the week.

Future: constructing Xeno’s Cock Coil ADS since I often have shrinkage following clamping sessions and since my initial foray with golf weights as an ADS device did not end well - this seems like an elegant way to add an effective ADS to my program - would appreciate thoughts/comments in this area if you’ve had productive experience with his coil or other similar ADS methodologies.

Best,

QL

QL’s Log

Stats - Week 64

Q1/17 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
Q2/17 BPEL 6.188 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
Q3/17 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
Q4/17 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875
Q1/18 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.625 FL 4.000
Q2/18 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.688 FL 4.063

Monthly Diatribe: I quit clamping because after just 15 days of it, I couldn’t consistently allocate the time AND it was hitting my EQ hard which is always problematic to explain to Mrs. QL. Ironically, I finally got some movement with my girth and wonder if my brief foray into clamping helped kick-start that or were the gains just inevitable (I really think the latter although time will tell). Still no verbal notice on growth from Mrs. QL but these are admittedly very slow (for me) incremental changes - somewhat frustrating after a few of her initial comments that were supe encouraging, but ultimately I’m doing this for me.

Work in Progress: Thinking of working some brief clamp-a-thons into post-decon break periods (because this is what preceded my latest gains after gains had all but halted) - would look something like:

- Decon break
- Work back up to pre-decon levels of jelqs & stretching for several weeks
- Then add clamping for a couple weeks (while keeping jelqing but leaving off stretches - that’s what I attempted in doing my trial of clamping)
- Stop clamping for rest of that PE cycle returning to just jelqs & stretching
- Decon and start over

Porn: Successfully reigning in the beast and have been sexually sober for a week. Have learned not to be too surprised when I slip up - as the Twelve Steps teach: we seek progress, not perfection. So while this is another very difficult work in progress, it’s encouraging when the length of periods of my sobriety overtake the length of periods when I’m completely outta control.

Fitness: Continuing fairly regular workouts. After keeping the same amount of exercise and dietary restraint, (still directed towards cutting body-fat while leaving lean mass intact), I’ve seen a reduction of 1 3/4” of my waist (navel) which accompanied a total weight loss of about 14 pounds (although very little impact on pubic fat pad yet). Easter candy did NOT help the above efforts.

Supplements: Still taking multis but no longer doing the application of Vitamin E directly to my junk - after 30 days, no observable effect. Starting Creatine this month as I’m adding resistance training from time to time.

Current PE Routine:
Frequency: Mo, Tu, Th, Fr (rest We, Sa & Su)
- 10 min jelq before work
- At work: a set of 3 min 12-point modified V-stretches during 4 restroom breaks (so a total of 4 sets of these stretches on PE day’s)
- 10 min jelq after work
- Piss-pulls any time I think of them during rest room breaks (assuming I’m not doing the above stretches) - doing these every day of the week except Sunday when everything gets a rest including my unit.

Future: I still have all the paraphernalia - just looking for a window of opportunity/privacy to build Xeno’s ADS device Cock Coil ADS

Best,

QL

QL’s Log

Stats - Week 69

Q1/17 BPEL 5.500 EG 4.375 FL 2.750
Q2/17 BPEL 6.188 EG 4.500 FL 3.250
Q3/17 BPEL 6.500 EG 4.625 FL 3.688
Q4/17 BPEL 6.750 EG 4.625 FL 3.875
Q1/18 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.625 FL 4.000
Q2/18 BPEL 6.875 EG 4.688 FL 4.063
05/18 BPEL 7.125 EG 4.688 FL 4.125

Monthly Diatribe: Just doing the work week to week as faithfully as possible. I think doubling my jelqing (to a total of 20 minutes on PE days) is what’s mostly responsible for my latest progress - trying to do my jelqing as erect as possible (but max is probably 75%) to trigger girth gains which while not absent, have been minimal so far. I noticed an increase in my base girth which I’m hesitant to even measure although still trying to figure out exactly what triggered this for me - probably my brief experiment with clamping. Speaking of clamping, thinking of working some brief clamp-a-thons into post-decon break periods - would look something like:

- Decon break
- Following decon, work back up to pre-decon levels of regular manual PE for several weeks
- Add clamping for a couple weeks
- Then stop clamping while continuing stretching & jelqing routine the remainder of my 6-7 week PE cycle.

Porn: Just outta control right now - nuff said.

Fitness: Since February, a total reduction of 3” waist measurement which accompanied weight loss of 17 pounds. Bodyfat percentage s-l-o-w-l-y creeping downward as is my BP.

Current PE Routine:
Frequency: Mo, Tu, Th, Fr (rest We, Sa, Su)
- 10 min jelq before work
- At work:
- 4 sets of 3 min 12-point or 18-point modified V-stretches during restroom breaks - 10 2-second piss pulls end each of those stretch sets
- 10 min jelq after work

Future: STILL have all the paraphernalia but just looking for the window of opportunity/privacy to make Xeno’s ADS device Cock Coil ADS

Best,

QL

Following your progress mate. Just started JP90 modified with less jelq and stretch in the beginning.

Good luck!

Thanks Cokecan2b, I haven’t measured in a while although I think I’m headed towards another decon break (which I do whenever gains slow as I believe they have recently - just to damn busy to slow down and check). The newb programs are great places to start and if you stay consistent & persevere, no doubt you’ll eventually reap some good gains as well. Best of luck!

QL