Wife Gets it but Doesn't "get it"

This past week, twice I reached a progress goal that I’ve been chasing a long time: 10” BPFSL. For me, it is a huge accomplishment that has taken years of sneaking whatever time I can afford to PE.

A couple months ago, my wife asked about my PE time and I explained & showed her what I was doing. She didn’t know how big I was so she asked. I measured & showed her. While she took a little pride knowing her husband’s dick is 9”, she said it’s just a number.

And when I showed her 10” on the ruler, she said “so what? Are you going to do porno?” I again explained to her that my length goals are to improve the number of positions we can use and not worry about popping out. She said “it’s just a number.”

So she doesn’t get my PE. She’s okay with the fact that I do it but doesn’t fully understand the benefits. So, she gets my dick but doesn’t get PE.

You can’t badger women into thinking like us. She’s right y’know; it’s Just a number.

But from the blokes here - congratulations on building yourself a whopping big magnificent dick and reaching another goal !!!

But, does she get penetrated early and often.

That is too funny. Thanks for that.

It’s the numbers that help us set our goals & track our progress. It’s the numbers that keep us going.

Not as often as we’d like. After childbirth nearly destroyed her pussy, our sex life has become limited. That’s part of the reason I PE, to be able to reach the good spots with those weird positions we’re forced into because of her scar tissue, pain & numbness. It’s a good tradeoff though. We have a great kid even though it has almost completely killed our sex life.

Congrats on reaching a milestone!

I amazed that you worry about popping out with that length. Although, I don’t know what kind of sexual acrobatics you might be doing.

Does your wife kegel? It should help with her vaginal sensitivity.

Also, what is your girth? Everyone has their own personal goals. But I think you have more than enough length. I would think you would be focusing on girth now.

It’s not so much popping all the way out, it’s popping out to the point that I’m pressing on her damaged areas. The nerve & tissue damage has caused scar tissue and loss of sensation in the first 2”-3” of her vagina. She still has nerves deeper & enjoys the feelings deep inside. However, because of the scar tissue, it is quite painful to touch / press on those areas.

Girth causes her pain because stretching the damaged areas causes a lot of discomfort.

So, even thought I’d love to have a 14”x7” dick, I know that realistically, 12”x5.5” would be much more pleasurable for her. This way, I could hit her pleasure areas without rubbing on the areas that cause her pain.

Oh, I understand now.

I wish you and your wife lots and lots of wonderful sex!

Stopping by…I was wondering…are you using good lubrication (e.g. silicone lube like Swiss Navy)?

Are you arousing her enough to get her body prepared for penetration (e.g. foreplay and sensual massage)?

I found that when my wife is incredibly aroused and relaxed (via sensual massage), she can receive easier.

Thanks for the suggestions. Before she was pregnant, my wife had an incredibly tight pussy. During childbirth she split drastically and had to be sown back together. The resulting scar tissue & nerve damage has been terrible for her. If I even put my finger in her and pressed against these areas, it can sometimes cause a lot of pain. Mostly, she is numb with a weird tingly sensation.

If you ever had a scar on a joint or close to a bone, press on it. The feeling is like that only with pain.

“It’s just a number.” BS answer if I ever heard one.

3” is also just a number. I wonder what she would think of that?

When did your wife had birth?

Just on this specifically, it would be worth your while to see if any of that damage can be repaired. Scar tissue can be removed and a more skilled surgeon could close things up better. It sounds like the repair job afterwards was not great and it often isn’t due to the circumstances of birth.

Nerves themselves take quite a while to grow back, but you can speed that up with acetyl carnitine.

When our child was born.

Seriously though, I appreciate all the suggestions. My wife is too scared to go for surgery because she is afraid they are going to fuck things up worse than they already are.

I am able to reach 10” BPFSL almost daily now after a good, hard session with the ADS. I typically start around 9.5” before the workout and barely hit 10” by the end of the session. Now if only I could get these gains to show as NBPEL!

I will rephrase.

Maybe if your wife had birth recently, you should let time pass cause sometimes women who had bad labor, can have similar issues, which are not caused by scar tissue or anything but it’s more of a mental thing.

Better now?

Still worth going and having a chat/examination and seeing what might be able to be done. A plastic surgeon working at his own pace is going to close any incision much better than an obstetrician in the hectic birth environment. Sometimes even the nurse does it, which is even worse.