I take good care of my appearance and stay in shape because I want to be attractive to beautiful women. And for me, it works. I look good. I’m a 45 year old guy who looks like he’s in his early thirties (except right now, after all those pints last night). I hit on, often get hit on, and often get laid by very attractive women.
Much of that is the result of attributes unrelated to appearance: I’m charming (if I do say so myself :cool: ); I’m a good conversationalist; I exude a lot of sexual confidence; and, I adore women — and they can tell. But I’m also apparently physically attractive enough to ocassionally compel beautiful women to jump my bones.
That’s because I take care of myself. I saw how haggard my older brothers looked like at my age, so I know I can’t rely on genetics to stay attractive.
It’s not about obsessing on looks. It’s about knowing what women want. Talk to them. Check out what they’re looking for when they post personal ads. Most want guys who are fit, take care of their appearance, and who care about how they smell and feel. That doesn’t mean being effeminate— most straight women want a man. Masculinity and a desire to look good are not mutually exclusive concepts. If a guy trims his uni-brow because he thinks it makes him look better, fine. If he wants to get laid, he’s really just being pragmatic.
I accept myself. I accept the fact that I am a horny guy who wants to get as much living out of life as possible.