Do I have anorgasmia?

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It’s rather cumbersome to sort through.

I am very grateful for the link (HealthyStrokes.com). Things are looking up.

I’ll see if I can pull this off.

I did already, but I’ll do it again. Here’s the main website:

HealthyStrokes.com

And here’s the support forum:

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Generally no drugs of any kind needed except occasionally Viagra to get over the initial hump. And he’s already got a prescription for yohimbine so he’s all set. Just takes a lot of willpower.

Whoops, great minds think alike.

So that sounds like it fits then? If so, is fixable—quite certain about that. You caught it at a young age.

Guys, I have some real doubts about this Healthystokes place. There are graphs, purporting to show results from one study (or others, no differentiation, just “the graph shows”) and no attribution. If you click on _Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy by Dr. Lawrence I. Sank_ , you find that those pages do not exist anymore. I was thinking that Dr. Sank is the one whose graphs are reprinted. Maybe, maybe not.

It is a fact that many men learn to masturbate while prone with no sexual fallout whatever later. Granted, pounding a mattress with a hard-on can have its drawbacks - where’s the orifice? however the missionary position didn’t evolve on a fluke and is the preferred position in general for most men, just because it is easy.

Having only briefed through this site and knowing a fair amount about anorgasmia, I don’t see all the logic that is pushed there and I suggest you don’t bite on the whole idea being pushed at healthystokes.

Some good advice in this thread. I don’t have much to add except: consider trying some tribulus terrestris supplements — especially the “Tribestan” brand from Hungary, which is a pharmacological-grade tribulus product often used to correct sexual dysfunction in older men. In recent years it’s been discovered to be a natural herbological testosterone booster, so it can help kick-start you into better physical condition as well. Further details are beyond the scope of this thread.

-Jab

Viagra isn’t a free lunch either:

http://news.bbc .co.uk/1/hi/spe … agra/221497.stm

-Jab

I wouldn’t trust the graphs, I usually never trust statistics. I’m approaching this as another possible solution and worth a shot since it won’t cost me a dime. I won’t be trying the abstinence from sex for a month though. I see how it could help but that’s not fair to the girl.

What was your previous masturbation technique?

It won’t work then, if you don’t abstain. Believe me, most women would be more than willing to help you out with the process if you explain what’s going on. Often female partners of men with this problem feel it’s their fault, that they aren’t sexy enough or whatever.

Avocet8, yes the content on the website is controversial and many experts feel it is bogus. However, I would like to compare it again to this website. Penis enlargement is controversial and many experts feel it is bogus. I can produce as you very well know a considerable number of links to various experts saying that nothing will increase penis size. The similarity is that despite what the experts say, the website reports on the results of the men actually trying the technique. Those graphs are from surveys filled out by the men at the website, I believe, and if you read the testimonials and group postings you will see both the tremendous problems that TMS causes and how easily it is fixed.

Here is another link with more background:

Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome - How is Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome abbreviated?

Come now, tell her that

“I have this great idea about improving sex life and that includes

*snaps fingers*

…you are going to want me so bad… and you will…

…want me so bad that you will come…and all you will have to do is…

…start thinking of how good it will be…

…when I enter you…and the thought will make you come…

…and you will long for the day that it happens again…

…and meanwhile you will be satisfied in every other way…

…but the thought of us together again will be worth the wait…

*snaps fingers*

See honey, I’ll take care of you in every way, but the real deal? I’ve been spoiling you lately, you will have to start wanting it for real a while.”

I used to masturbate prone against the mattress. I learned this when I was 12 or 13 (I’m 19 now). Once I found that out, I gave up on the ‘classic’ method. No use regretting though.

I do realize that I had to use excessive amounts of pressure. Not even a lot of rubbing, just constant heavy pressure. Guess I should’ve done my reading, yea?

Trying to abstain for a month is going to be difficult. Due to her easy vaginal orgams, she probably has an even healthier sex drive than I do. I’ll see how long I can go. I can focus on school I guess (yea right).

I found a place to purchase this journal’s articles for about $20 bucks a pop if anyone’s interested:

http://ejournal s.ebsco.com/Jou … &Show=102471_25

Avocet I “self discovered” the prone position at the age of 10…and also discovered that I could orgasm more easily that way daily than with the traditional method. That said, I found that interecourse and oral sex, while pleasurable enough, didn’t really “do it for me” unless it was doggie style. And one GF in particular had great ass and back muscles such that she could “milk” me to orgasm while I was thrust as deeply as possible and holding that position. I still find, 35+ years later, that my favorite position (rear entry aka “doggie”) still simulates (and stimulates) the prone position.

I also road bike a lot and had a “numb” dick from longer rides but no loss of sensation so I’ll attribute the above preferences to my favorite (and still is all evidence to the contrary) masturbatory technique.

In other words…if you like to whack it prone then *stop* for a week then try intercourse…if that doesn’t work too well then stop for two weeks and so on until you *do* come.

Insanity = doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

It has been a long time since this post. 2 urologists figured nothing was wrong (although I got the offer of Viagra, and did get a Rx for yohimbine). It turned out I was suffering from TMS. Over 2 months and careful focus later (and breaking an 8 year habit), I was actually able to come inside her. That was 1.5 years ago.

Now, I’ve been using foreskin restoration for 1/2 a year and it has done wonders for sensitivity. I am now completely against circumcision for children since that choice should be left up to an adult. The color of the glans is much lighter and the skin soft unlike before. I’m pretty sure that explains the low sensitivity.

I just wanted to follow up with good news and thanks for all the help. If it weren’t for these forums, I would be a horribly frustrated person. Believe me things were feeling real bleak back then. I’m still with the girl from back then (we’ve just passed our 2 year mark) and things are going well.

Many great suggestions were made (general mental health all the way to supplements) and I’m just lucky I could overcome it with the help.

Thanks again everyone.

adun,

Thanks for the great followup success story.

Peforeal