Gather around for story time.

So the first time I ever had sex I had premature ejaculation. After that relationship ended I found ways to control the impulse. Afterall I could masterbate as long as I wanted without any problem.

Basically if i knew there was a chance I would get laid then I’d masturbate and cum a few hours in advance of sex. That would fix things and I’d be able to last forever. Oddly enough after the first few times of sex with a girl I no longer needed to masturbate before sex in order to last longer - I guess because I wasnt nervous or obsessing about PE anymore.

Also as I got older P.E. was basically eliminated completely.

Anyway after going six months without sex after my divorce I had gotten pretty heavy into porn. Besides saping my will to go out and “hunt” I discovered during sex I couldnt get completely hard no matter how turned on I was! When I finally did get hard I had to hurry and ‘stick it in’ but guess what I discovered, my premature ejaculation had returned!

Well I eliminated porn completely for 2 months and guess what? Im back to my old self! Im having great sex again.

Porn is very bad for you! Avoid it like the plague.

I watch porn almost everyday (while I do PE), and funny enough I dont get to loose EQ like other people. I guess its due to the edging

Yeah I can’t really put a finger on why porn has negative effects, I mean it’s just a form of visual entertainment as far as I’ve always seen it. I could do with or without, never more than a few minutes of it and almost never more than once or twice every week or two. I’ve never whacked off to it, I just don’t get jizzin to something on paper or on a computer screen. Still though even those times when I go months without it I seem to have a more relaxed sense of sexuality, or at least less anxious about sex. I’m a pretty rational guy and don’t really get it but there must be something on a primal level that is unnatural about porn. Who knows. :/

But if i don’t watch porn then I have spontaneous erections. It sucks when your walking around and you junk starts to poke through your pants. And sometimes a porno is a good to watch before sleep so that I have good dreams. I think there is a midpoint, such that I can only watch so much porn. If I watch to much then I might have the issues your talking about. But overall, if I quit porn then I would have more time to do important things like read, study, sleep, workout, spend time with family and friends, etcetera. And walk around with an erection.

Dude, there’s guys taking all sorts of meds just to get it up. You’ve got a healthy ding-dong there!

In response to porn being primal. I’ve seen animals watch each other get it on, animal rape, animal gang rape (the funniest was a group of ducks, and then there was a bad one with a group a cats). I once saw a video of some chimps getting it on and the other primates where watching a jacking off (on the discovery channel). So it must be primal and natural.

My dad used to say “Moderation in all things.”

I found I would watch more porn and do less hunting for pussy when my self esteem has been wounded or if I happen to be depressed. I’m not saying this is why you are having problems but that was definitely my problem. I found I had less problems with erectile dysfunction when my confidence was up there, and of coarse kegeling helped me to last longer too. Because of doing penis exercises my erection can reach somewhere up to 1/2 an inch longer now and it’s a lot fatter now which definitely boost my confidence. But I did realize this past week I felt really depressed and my erection quality definitely suffered. My dick didn’t even wanna get hard. I don’t even know your size or if you’re self conscious about your size to where it would cause this but I can tell you for me that was 90% of my problem.. Psychologically I was pretty messed up over my size and I know for a fact that that was and still sometimes is my problem with keeping an erection. I know this cause I can keep a better erection with a girl that I care nothing about, (1) I’m not worried if she thinks I’m small cause she is a bit fat or not that good looking.. Lol and (2) she don’t talk to anyone I know.lol, sad but true.. At least for me. I think I’ll shut up now that I made myself sound real pathetic.haha, But I did find depression and nervousness play a big role in my erection quality.

Great post, frazzle!

I have posted this before a few times before but seems to go hear as well, re porn, confidence, and erection problems:

blog post from Daniel Rose:

Does Size Matter?

Does size matter? Yes and no, but mostly no.

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So then, why is penis size such a frequent insecurity among men? The reason is that it is a vicious cycle among guys who don’t get laid very much. Their only sexual outlet is internet porn, which almost always features guys with freakishly large cocks. Seeing that size is the measure of your worth in the porn world, they begin to think that size is the measure of your worth in the real world too. This causes them to become insecure about their “merely” average sized penis.

When they do have sex with a girl, their insecurities ruin their Immersion. That is, they start to think and worry in bed, instead of just enjoying the experience and being in the moment. This makes them perform poorly in bed.

But, they don’t recognize that the reason why they are performing poorly is because of their insecurities caused by this limiting belief. Instead, they take their sexual failure as evidence that their beliefs about penis size are true.

They then go back and masturbate to porn that stars guys with even bigger dicks, and the vicious cycle continues.

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I think there is some connection between watching AND cumming. Basically your brain gets use to ‘seeing too much’ and interepreting porn as real sex. However real sex might not include the best visuals or any visuals at all if the lights are off. I think that is the key somehow. There are reports of this same thing among young men across America.