Girls more into sex toys than boys?

The other night I was browsing in a large lingerie/sex novelties shop located in a somewhat bohemian section of my city. By “bohemian” I mean that there are various coffee shops, tattoo and piercing parlors, a gypsy fortune teller, etc., mixed in with some other more traditional businesses. The area is frequented by
young people, especially Goths and others with alternative lifestyles. This
lingerie/sex novelties shop has it all and caters to everyone (not just the Goths
and dyed hair crowd that works there): lingerie, swimwear, slinky outfits, pasties
for strippers or wannabes, shoes and boots with impossibly high soles and heels
(6 to 8 inches), sex gag gifts and novelties, bong pipes and other similar
paraphernalia, a tattoo and piercing parlor on the premises, and a selection of sex
toys and B&D gear.

As I wandered through the store, I noticed that a young woman (early 20s) was
there with her boyfriend (also early 20s). She was looking at the shoes and boots
and discussing how she could fit a pair of boots into her budget. It was obvious
that coming to the store had been her idea. She was not skinny enough to be an
exotic dancer/stripper—the only ready market I know of for this kind of footwear.
I then moved on another part of the store. Just after I had entered the sex toys
and B&D gear section of the store, she dragged her boyfriend in and excitedly
began examining various sex toys and devices. She was obviously way more into
this stuff than was her boyfriend. She looked at various inflatable dolls replicating
female porn stars,dildoes, vibrators and various cyberskin vaginas and dildoes
shaped in the likeness of porn stars, commenting on each one to her boyfriend.
When I wandered out, she was playfully slapping her boyfriend with a leather
paddle.

Needless to say, at age 44, I felt a serious generation gap. Is this a new trend
among young people—that women have as big or greater appetite for
pornography and things related to the kinky side of life? I can’t imagine someone
from my generation acting this way while in their twenties. Most women I know
from my generation would be embarrassed to go in a store of this kind. It seems
to me that time have changed. I’d like to get other takes on this phenomenon.

hmm. I think its maybe more of a question about the type of woman. Certainly men are more willing to go into sex shops but I think women are more happy to go into risque lingere shops than men.

I see more older women solo in sex shops, whereas younger women seem to only enter with girlfriends or boyfriends.

It depends on how people feel about sex shops, whether they can approach them as ‘fun’ or not. When I go in wih women partners having a discussion about the size of dildo she can fit is fun but there’s a difference between that discussion and buying a 15” dildo, which doesn’t mean its out of the question :)

We live in a highly sexualised world now, where lifestyles that make Jerry Springer are having to get more extreme just to stay ahead of the curve.

yes,

most women/girls have toys, even the nice and/or innocent and/or virgin girls, the shy ones, the ones being abstinet, the ones that giggle at the thought of men, the ones that are picky bout men, and the ones that are bold.

simply put, they all have it, in one form or the other, If its not a dildo, its a dildo like object.

I am not bashing women, but i cant understand them. They want all the wrong things. They want bad boys, not nice men. They want sex when you cant give it to them, and when you can give it to them, after a while they want something else.

Women are creature of emotions, men are creature of sexual needs. I dont know if make sense, but dont be offended by my comments, as they are opinions and can always be objected.

Sounds like you’ve been burned

From my experience in adult stores - not habitual but enough to understand how they work - men:

are far more hesitant to ask questions of clerks (male or female ones) than women

lurk about trying not to be seen (by whom? their bosses, next door neighbors?)

are embarassed to pick out and check out what they really want and often leave without whatever it is they came in for

I was that way when I first entered one of this places. But I found over a couple of visits and some soul searching that buying a toy is not unlike buying a shirt. (One is likely to have more fun the toy than the shirt.)

Women don’t discriminate as men do in shopping, I think. They like shopping more. They go for the object and don’t think about the process. We get bogged in the process.

Perhaps that is why they have more toys than we do.

I have now been married for 9 years & have 3 young children.

It seems to me that even in those 9 years, attitudes have changed. My wife has really opened up sexually (no pun intended) in the last couple of years. even to the extent of wishing to experiment with bi-sexuality. Needless to say our sex life is now fantastic.

BTW she loves toys & talks openly about them.

>Perhaps that is why they have more toys than we do.

or maybe its because we can simulate the vagina with our hands but to simulate a dick they need an implement. In teenage years they may look around the house for phallus like objects but once they can get hold of an object that doesn’t come from the crisper drawer or get used in a power cut they will go for it.

bulls eye

It may be that in our current culture most women are no longer afraid to publicly show their sexuality and interest in all things pertaining to sex. After all guys, we have been sexual animals for a very long time- it’s about time the women are coming around :)

Baccart,

Take it from a female, you will never understand us. Hell, we don’t understand ourselves some days. :D

As far as toys go, women probably have more just due to the nature of the beast. I have more clothes and more shoes than my partner. And I also have several fun toys.

thats a big difference between men and women. Women have looked at themseleves and realise they don’t understand, men don’t bother looking.

What is it with shoes anyway? I really don’t understand why my partner buy them apparently just to take up closet space.

The few stores that are in my town always have more women in them at any time with the exception of Christmas. The also have more lingerie and maybe that’s why. Women will like to look at lingerie at any time where as men only look at it for a present at certain times.

>10 years for the win! Vydo has l33t necro powers.

The more important question here is why Goth women always seems to be ugly and so free spirited when it comes to sex…come on don’t even try and tell me you haven’t noticed this. I personally think they try to make up for what they lack in looks with being overly sex fixated, not everyone but the majority. At least in my country.

There is something about dressing that way that tells the world( or at least me); “I have given up!”

Although this is an old thread and things have changed in the last 10 years, I expect this trend to accelerate, owing to “Shades of Grey”.