How can I make my penis more sensitive

Not that they are tighter but these two give the sensations that are very close to a real one. The others, like I said (especially the latest ones) are just too much and can make things worse. And you are right, STUs are used to train yourself to last longer but this along with the regular insert get the best recommendations when trying to recover lost sensitivity. The exact reason, that I’m not sure.

I bought a fleshlight recently because of the same problems as you guys. I truly believe its that we have forgotten how to have sex with something other than our hand. If you take a moment, we are of differing ages, body types, health, penis size, wife/gf attractiveness, but the one common thread is: EXCESSIVE MASTURBATION. Positive thinking fellas. We will overcome it.

Yes UM, you’re probably right. With great restraint, I’ve kept off porn / fleshlight for a week now…cold turkey. So yesterday off I toddle to see a girl. Condom On. 60 minutes later I can see she is trying her best but she starts to wilt so I give up trying to cum and stop the action.

This is a real pissoff and I need to get on top of it fast but perhaps it’ll take a while going cold turkey?

Rick..how’re you getting on? Keeping off porn and chairs?

Have you tried thrusting, instead of using it in the same motion you would as your hand, to orgasm when using the fleshlight?

I’m not doing a whole lot better. I can jack off ok with my hand, but not with the fleshlight or my wife. Well, I can, but it’s bloody hard work. I guess I have to follow your lead. The bloody annoying thing is that I can get off soooooooo wonderfully doing my own thing. However, I want to do that with her. At this point, I wouldn’t even think about entering her — I know I’ll take too long. I reckon I need to sort it out with the fleshlight first AND NOTHING ELSE.

Shintaro, how do you get on with the fleshlight and no condom? The rubber wouldn’t help.

The thing that helped me to regain my lost sensitivity in one point of my life was to:

1. No porn
2. Soft sexual thoughts when masturbating (like just thinking about a nice clothed chick you saw on the street… if you do this for more than a month you’ll be suprised how sexually sensitive you will become.. hard-on in no time)
3. Soft strokes on the shaft of the penis only with an ok hand sign.. don’t use your whole hand because that tends to stimulate the top glans too.. concentrate on the feeling of friction
4. Penis pump… penis pumps help big time with sensivity because of the amount of blood that is suddenly rushing into your dick.. if you pump and never touch glans for over a month they will become very sensitive (especially the part of the penis you don’t touch on a regular basis)… something about nerves getting more sensitive over time when there’s alot of blood around… i’m kinda suprised it’s not mentioned more often…

This recipe should definitely work over time ;)

Thanks Kokles. I’ll give it a go.

The sensitivity won’t come immediately and you can have a few sessions when you loose the erection and etc.. also take breaks for like 3-7 days.. taking breaks somehow cements the changes you’ve made to nervous system… also don’t pump too hard.. and a few kegels here and there might help too… after some time you might be back to your old sensitivity again :)

Yes, I’ve learned that pumping too hard is negative. I will take a few breaks, too, as you suggest and try to be more patient. Again, thanks Kokles. It’s bloody annoying, though, that I know I get get it off wonderfully by hand, just not with my wife or fleshlight. Well I did cum with the fleshlight last night, but it took about 50 minutes and wasn’t what I’d call a bone shaker at all. At least I got there.

Hi Kokles, one other question, please. You say “take breaks for like 3-7 days”. What do you mean by that? Is edging OK? What about PE (Jelqing, etc.)? I have assumed you mean no ejaculation and, from what I’ve read elsewhere, no porn. Please clarify it for me. Thanks.

No edging at all … not even touching (harsh i know but the nerves down there are cocky little bastards). You can’t learn anything properly if you use a bad technique all the time. If you learn the proper more sensitive shaft technique without using strong visual sexual stimuli or strong mental stimuli then you can edge.. because you will be edging with a good technique. It’ll be hard and tempting to back but if you have a strong will you can achieve the sensitivity we were all born with…

https://www.healthystrokes.com has some very interesting stuff on people having difficulties with vaginal stimulation. I had my fair share of problems with getting off normally (from complete insensitivity to hypersensitivity to arousal and then again not being sensitive to the friction again.. took long time to get back to the natural stuff) so I speak of experience.

Kokles the pumping idea is one I hadn’t considered. Interesting.

Yes I think this problem is perhaps is a combination mental / physical. I’ve gone a week now cold turkey. No porn, no jerking off. I’m actually hoping that later today I can do a “test drive” on someone wearing a condom (that’s me wearing a condom not her :rolleyes: ) Right at the moment I’m getting hard if the wind changes and feel super sensitive but we’ll see if it translates to anything when I don the rubber.

And Rick, I’m surprised you aren’t getting much satisfaction with the Fleshlight. I found it very good, probably too good and I may have relied on that + porn too much (?). On thing I might try in the near future is FL plus a condom…now that’s what I call safe sex! But in the meantime I’ll keep doing this cold turkey thing and keep my hands well away from my dick!

Thanks guys. Most appreciated. I don’t have a pump just yet so that’ll have to be out of the equation. However, I can do the rest and will do as you’ve suggested. I’ll let you know how I go. It’s going to be hard, but I want sex with my wife more than anything and if that’s what I have to do, then so be it. No touching AT ALL and no porn. Kokles, I suspect my technique is bad, so I won’t even consider edging. IT’S GUNNA BE HARD GUYS. I’ll report back in a couple of weeks. I’ll read the healthy strokes stuff tomorrow, Kokles. Shintaro, please let us know how you have gone. Thanks. And hey, I have a brother lives in Perth.

Guys I masturbated I think two times during the first month I gave up porn. Then went another couple weeks after that. Now at almost two months I have went from someone who takes forever, and has to force an orgasm with a woman, to a guy who can’t last five minutes.

Nobody wants to hear it, and I totally understand why, but restraint is your only enemy. I spent 14 years being de-sensitized, and wondering if I could be like a teenager again, but never taking the plunge and stopping. Some of you may be older than me, some may be younger, but if your free of health issues…..Abstinence from thy hand shall set you free! It seems totally impossible for most of you now, but if I can do it, anyone can.

I once was a porn freak, and now the sex is so much better without it - I have been tempted to, but I just changed and restrained myself from porn, and masturbation. I’ve had sex twice since I quit, and they were the best times of my entire life. Take it for what is worth fellas.

Just for a baseline in case I didn’t mention it: I wanked all day from morning, until the next morning on my days off from work - and 5pm until early morning non-stop (a severe case by most standards). I’m sure most guys don’t have that severe of a problem. Now that I’m somewhat recovered, masturbation just feels mechanical to me.

I think excessive masturbation is a psychological issue for most, be it a way to pass the time, or like a drug to numb what ails you. This is just my opinion now being on the other side of the fence. No offense intended to anyone at all.

We should get an anti-wanking club going. Kind of like the “Contest” on the old Seinfeld series for those of us that watched that awesome show. If your true to yourself, and fellow members, we can compile some real sexual success stories. Of course it is more of a contest against your own habits, not other members. :D

hopeful2hanglow …fantastic post and of course, no offence taken because I think you’re spot on. I am (no I WAS!) like you, a porn addict and if you read my previous post, yesterday I’d just gone a week without jerking off and was feeling terrific (and quite sensitive). Well unfortunately my little tryst yesterday didn’t happen and I was left in front of my computer and so what happened? …yep, you guessed it, I succumbed to porn. And then last night my once year sex with my wife :eek: (yes, the joys of long term marriage!) had to happen (sans condom) and I even then I couldn’t get to the finishing post. Total piss off.

I’ve always been a polygamist but trying to find a ‘friend with benefits’ is too hard with conservative Aussie chicks (who won’t get involved with married men) and so I now call on local hookers to get my rocks off. I don’t mind this and in fact, I love the girls and love the variety and wished I’d started doing it years ago. I tell you this because even doing that is difficult and somewhat embarrassing as probably only 1 in 3 gives me an orgasm and quite often even then I have to do it myself.

I’m not sure what age group you’re in hopeful2hanglow but your first sentence gives me a little hope that I can turn this around. So yes, a Seinfeld like “contest” I like hahahaha. Great thought. So this is day 1 and if I can get back to where you are and have to fight not to cum with a woman, I will be the happiest bloke around!