How can I make my penis more sensitive

Can someone please move this post into the Mens’ Sexual Health Forum, as I don’t have the privileges to post in there yet, so I had to post here.

Hi,I’m an 18 year old uncut male and have a serious lack of penis sensitivity during penetrative sex and oral. As I can barely feel anything when I’m inside a women (not much pleasure), I cannot keep my penis erect for long at all, and often goes down while I am in the women, which as you can imagine is very embarrassing. However when I masturbate, it feels quite good, and I do so quite often, usually 2 - 3 times a day, sometimes more. I have been masturbating in this routine for the past 4 years approximately. But when I masturbate I use a specialised grip which concentrates mainly on my glans and pleasure vain. I have been told that I have gotten to used to this and this may be the reason why? I have all ready stopped masturbating for a short period of time 4 weeks (should I take a longer break), then went back to sex, and still felt the same. Please can someone offer any ideas, as I really would like to enjoy the feeling of sex.

Stop pleasuring yourself, problem would have to be solved. You actually stopped for 4 weeks? Or did you pleasure yourself minimally without orgasm, because that counts as masturbating too.

Are you having sex with the same girl? Or is it different girls all feel bad to you?

And if your 18 does that mean you joined when you was 16?

You obviously have had access to a computer for quite awhile maybe you should give up porn also.

You don’t say while wearing a condom or not. If its with a condom then I’m sure a lot of guys have had similar experiences. I normally start hard, go a little soft then come hard again but without a condom I’m 100% the whole time.

Also, I agree, it probably is related to your specialised masturbation method. The simple answer is not simply to take a break and masturbate less, though these things will probably help, but condition your body to find pleasure in the experience of actual penetration. So, next time you jerk off try to mimic the feeling of actual penetration. This, most likely, will be quite a gradual process and in the beginning you’ll probably revert to your usual method to finish off but try to reduce the amount of time you spend using your special method, bit by bit.

Don’t worry you are young. The advantage is, when you finish the process you’ll be able to go for ages which will make you a sex god in the eyes of many women ;) . Good luck!

If you take Avena Sativa every day you will find that your genitals become more sensitive.

You’d do as well to eat a bowl of oatmeal every day.

Avena Sativa is just another supplement derived mostly, they say, from oats. I could find no credible medical verification of its supposed influence on improved libido, let alone sensitivity.

Let me know if you have a valid study.

I second Bluray. Stop watching porn, jacking off, or anything that stimulates you. Try it for some time.

In regards to blurays question, yes I completely stopped any stimulation for 4 weeks. Casperjones, it is all ways with a condom. I like the idea of conditioning my body to get pleasure in penetration. Do you think a fleshlight or something like that may help?

Taking Avena Sativa is an interesting idea but will my body become dependant on it for sensitivity? The same way people become Dependant on Viagra for erections?

I’m going to slow down with the hand masturbation and porn for a while and see how that serves me.

Thanks for the help so far guys

I really believe it is the specialised method you use. No vagina will be able to do what you are doing to your penis.

A fleshlight might help if it can mimic, for you, the feeling of penetration. I have no experience with them. How you go about copying the sensation you experience is up to you. Firstly I’d say go back to a normal technique slowly, think about what happens to your dick when you have sex, if you aren’t trying to copy this then don’t do what you are doing. You might also try using a soft clean cloth to mimic the feeling. End of the day, I don’t know exactly how it feels to you. But, if you think about things logically, this is the right way to go. It will take time, however, but you’ll get better!

As far as the condom goes, this is something, I guess, many people experience. You will naturally have less sensitivity with a condom. How much this bothers you, often depends on the person. For me personally, I tried extra thick ones a few times many years back and it was terrible. So condoms are an area you can experiment with. Towards the end you might also experiment masturbating with a condom on.

Yes, been there and done that. For various reasons I went for nearly five years without having sex with my wife — just masturbation. I learned to do it VERY well and could get myself onto cloud 9 and stay there for 60 or 90 minutes before climaxing. When I tried having sex with my wife again, it didn’t work. I couldn’t climax or could only do so with great difficulty. Maintaining an erection was a chore.

At the time, I didn’t have the advantage of a forum like this one to share my problems. The result was that, after several fights, we stopped having sex together again. I don’t think that worries my wife — she is post menopause and really not all that interested. She won’t do anything other than missionary position and getting there following a very set routine. It’s boring. She regards anything else as “sluttish”. She is not turned on by seeing me naked anymore, in fact quite the reverse. Oh well!

I assume you are both relatively young and want to get it together. My advice is to stop wanking any more than once or twice a week (maybe try a fleshlight), don’t look at porn at all, don’t worry about what’s happening. Try to work through it together. Share your hassles with her. And if you don’t get there, so what — isn’t that what edging is all about. Maybe consider showing her how you masturbate and encouraging her to do the same. Another option is to masturbate together for a season. Start doing it yourselves watching each other, then to each other. Whatever! The important thing is to reach towards making sex something you do together, by whatever method and work towards each others mutual enjoyment. Try using sex toys, maybe. And DON’T WORRY!

In addition to my above post, you said you were uncut. When your inside your girl, is your foreskin still over your glans? Being uncut, you should have lots of wonderful nerve endings on your inner foreskin to excite. However, they do need to be exposed for this to happen. Can you pull your foreskin back behind your glans and keep it there while ever inside your girl?

Also, some condoms reduce the opportunity for pleasure very much. Try a different brand. I have never used a condom and cannot advise you as to which brand is best to affect your pleasure least. Can others help here?

You may have what they call the ‘death grip’. You’re using too much force on your hand when you masturbate that it’s impossible for a pussy to replicate. Now, you’re so used to how your hands stimulate your penis. I’ve read a lot of techniques to regain the sensitivity of your penis and most of them do work but it takes time. One is wearing a condom even when you masturbate and second is to use a Fleshlight. I’ve heard a lot of good feedbacks on the latter and most guys who used this had their sensitivity back. So whenever you masturbate, use a fleshlight and never use your hands again. Do this for a couple of weeks to months and see if it will do you good. Just get the regular pink lady and avoid the other inserts which are too much for your penis. Good luck!

Casperjones, thanks for your post. Yes I definitely think it is my grip that I use that has caused the sensitivity loss. Today I tried to switch back to a normal technique and it does fell slightly weird, but I think with time I will get used to it. I’m also going to try the very thin tingle condoms, but I don’t really like the condoms make much off a difference sensitivity wise.

Hi Rick M, usually my foreskin is pulled back but when I’m inside a girl sometimes slips back up. In regards to what you said earlier absolute zer0, I am definitely going to get myself a fleshlight. I might even use the fleshlight with the condom on, hopefully this would really replicate sex effectively and help regain sensitivity. I also was thinking about doing some kegels on their own in addition.

Just a little further advice steelworkers. While your adjusting your masturbation technique you may want to attempt to fake some orgasms. You not climaxing is terrible for the girls confidence in her ability to please you. Just fake, then stop for a bit, then maybe fake another. By faking you can look like a real stud, and your constant arousal will make the girl feel great. By knowing you can always fall back on the fake, you take the pressure for yourself to cum off, and eventually, with all the buildup you will!

By faking a couple it will relax her more, and give you some lee-way to get used to her pussy. I normally take a fairly long break between girlfriends after the relationships end, so I’ve had lots of experience with your problem of over masturbating.

I was curious if foreskin may be hampering you also, but I have no experience to offer on that possibility.

I’m uncut. First times I had sex (with somebody else that with myself, I mean :) ) I had no feelings other than kind a rough sensation on my glans.

Maybe uncuts are too sensitive and the skin of their glans has to develop kinda a ‘thick skin’ to feel pleasure with intercourses; out of curiosity, do you lack any feeling when being masturbated by a girl, also?

Another factor could be anxiety: you don’t relax enough to be able to feel pleasure.

Anyway, it spontaneously will cease to be a problem with the time, I think; don’t focus too much on it, or it could go worse.