How can I make my penis more sensitive

I’m 32 shintaru. I went every day all day since I was 11 probably. While sex was alright when I was a teenager, weed and porn took hold at around 18, and I mainly had sex with women for an emotional connection because the physical connection just couldn’t match my own hand.

Like I said, for the first time in my life the physical feeling matches up with the emotional, and is uncontrollable. Its funny how most men strive for the insensitivity we possess(ed), and yet we want to have what they have.

I gave up all of my addictions with porn, and I can tell you the first month pales in comparison to the two month mark. I think your older than myself shintaru, you gotta nip this in the butt now man. Especially in OZ man, you have some serious hotties over there, I’m sure the prostitutes, and your wife are no exception.

PS. To be fair I was without a personal computer for the month following my rebirth, so if you can somehow manage to make that happen, the transition may be easier. I’m very tempted by porn, but now that I’ve reconditioned myself, I doubt I could last very long with the site of Jenna Haze or Aurora Snow. Man I miss those sexy little hotties. Breaking up is hard to do men.

Yes hopeful2hanglow I’m a wee bit older at 53 and you’re right, there are hotties here…especially this time of the year - middle of summer - where clothes are minimal and the beaches are full of naked and semi naked babes hahahaha

I’m really glad to hear what you say and it steels me for what I know I have to do. As you can tell, I am totally frustrated with this and I know, any chick I’m with feels the same. And as one said to me the other week, after trying her darndest to make me cum..”I think I not good enough for you” (she was Asian and said it just like that !). Very sad.

Boy, if I can lick this and get to where you are, I’ll be revisiting some of those disappointed ones I’m too embarrassed to go back to, and give them a nice surprise :) ))

I disagree with this. Properly functioning genitals should be enjoyed. If you’ve got something else going on in your life, you’ll eventually strike a balance between wanking and the other stuff.

Also, the STYLE of wanking is I think more critical than the frequency. If you’re wanking when your body desires it, and being gentle and letting your mind do the work, I can’t see that physically desensitizing. If you’re forcing your body to be horny by flogging yourself, or not minimizing dry skin-on-skin friction, that’s another story.

This thread needs to be split into INTACT and CUT mens’ problems.

Well, just a report back…almost a repeat of an earlier one I did. The last 2 weeks, only jerked off the once..none over the last week. Went back to see my regular girl about 3 times last week and I think the first 2 times it was a real battle but I finally got over the line with a condom on…mind you, this was after 90 minutes of going at it hammer and tongs.

Yesterday, well, back to my same old problem and just couldn’t couldn’t cum with the condom so after an extended session, had to resort to handiwork with her ..my hand that is. Christ I’m fed up and I’m sure she is. I’m just hoping, as I think hopeful2hanglow said, that I’m being a bit impatient and that it’ll take a month or two to really feel something there as at the moment, it feels like dead meat between my legs.

Have just ordered Twinlabs Yohimbe Fuel from overseas. Others have had success with this and I’m hoping I’ll be the same but in the meantime, no porn…no porn…no porn!

I’m glad that this is becoming a more recognised problem, maybe it’s relatively recent emergence says something about the detrimental effects of porn. I am currently trying to tackle the problem now I have landed myself in a serious, with regular sex, relationship. It’s been two months in, and although I have came a few times now, I still don’t more than I do. It really doesn’t help a girlfriends confidence, especially as my girlfriend says it turns her on when I come.

I have been trying to go cold turkey from porn for a while, and whilst it hasn’t fully been achieved, I have cut down considerably. I think there may be a psychological factor as well as a sensitivity issue. When jerking off to porn, you are safe, and it’s completely selfish. With a girl, you are under pressure to perform, this may be similar to premature ejaculation but with the opposite problem - I don’t know, at least I’ve never had that problem, I sometimes wish I do lol.

Alas, I genuinely think I am half way there, like I said I have managed to come in her now. My method is to try and concentrate all my sexual energies on my girlfriend, so no porn, limited masturbation only if I know I’m not going to see her for a few days, and when I do masturbate, think of her. That might sound a bit lame, but think about it.a sex orgasm is always better than a wanking orgasm no matter how much porn initially turns you on.

Another idea I had was to try and condition yourself. Ease off the porn, maybe try gently masturbating with it until you are about to climax, and then think of your girlfriend for the last bit. This should work supposing you are actually attracted to your girlfriend. I even got off this way a few times, but when I reached almost climax point, I lay on my front on my bed, and humped the bed til I came, a technique I actually used before I started wanking. That might sound weird, but at least it worked.

My main hindrance is the fact that I’m currently a student - so plenty of alone time sat on my PC, with easy access to anything I want. If only I knew about this problem when I was 14 when I thought that I couldn’t get enough porn.

Yes, fear of not performing is a very big issue and can kill sex. I suggest you talk it though with her and get it out in the open. If she genuinely cares for you, there’ll be no repercussions.

And when you masturbate, do it ONLY with a fleshlight for a season. Part of you problem could be that you do it a certain way that gets you off best. You can’t excite those special nerves when inside a woman. If all you excite are the right ones (and a fleshlight will do this), in time your dick will be reprogrammed and it’ll all come together. But void porn for the time being as you’re doing — that’s good. Actually, you should avoid it all together, I reckon. It can screw you up in so many ways.

Also, be careful that you don’t wank just before sex — depending on how old you are. For me, I need at least a day to recover. If I’ve wanked in less time, I might get it up OK, but cumming is nearly impossible.

That’s what I’m telling myself right now anyway. I have these problems too. So far, the results are positive, but a tad slower than I’d like.

I will attest that a fleshlight has done WONDERS for my quest to achieve sexual resensitivity. It really allows you to practice the art of thrusting. It reprograms you to feel pleasure from SLOW paced thrusting. I dont know about you guys, but when masturbation was at its peak, it was always fast and furious. I promise everyone experiencing these issues, if you’ve been checked out by a doc, its ALL in your head. Things WILL turn around. There was a year where I would smoke pot just so I could throw on porn. I would masturbate like a rock star, with an EQ of 10 and crazy orgasms. But it was all artificial. Using a fleshlight has also helped me transition from porn because masturbating with it is something new, and that provides excitment. Also, knowing that I will become a better lover using the fleshlight provides even more motivation to not use porn. Its 75 US dollars, I only get 200 dollars a month from my parents and it was a tremendous investment.

The point is you’d do it so YOU enjoyed it most. For me, it wasn’t fast and furious, it was very slow and laboured — like I’d take 2 or more hours to cum sometimes. Most women want it over sooner than that (well my wife anyway), like in 15 to 30 minutes. If I took longer, she’d get impatient — not good for someone who is struggling with cumming inside of her. So the pressure for me was:

* I didn’t feel much inside her (wrong nerves were sensitised)
* I was programmed to cum in 1 or 2 hours, not 15-30 minutes (really, I was edging — winning awards, too — lol)
* I was afraid of failure.

Oh SHIT!

Now, I can cum easily with a fleshlight (initially, there were almost zero sensations) and in about ten minutes, so long as I have not had sex for a day or two. I want to cement this change for another week or so. Next, it is to do that inside of her. Wish me well guys, please. Fear of failure is still there even if I’ve beaten the other two impediments.

Rick

Rick, good to see you’re getting a response from the Fleshlight. I actually had no problems with it from day 1 but in my case that means diddley squat.

I’m now trying a good Yohimbe but not holding out much hope on that front but, I’ll give it a go. I’m now at the stage of having to fake orgasms…yep, how low can you go? Been with a regular a couple of times this week. Once, I gave up after who knows how long and the second time I got the Oscar for best on screen orgasm hahahaha. This girl is a trooper but she’s 25 years younger than me and don’t want to lose her and I can now sense there’s a bit of almost mild aggravation on her part when I can’t cross the finish line. I don’t expect miracles overnight, I’d just like a tiny, little bit of improvement.

Haven’t looked at porn or jerked off for 2 weeks, I’ve just done it once in 3 weeks.

I think out of frustration and hoping to remember what it’s like to cum, I shall reach for my not-so-well-worn-lately Fleshlight tonight!

Hey shintaro, does that mean you feel something good inside a woman, but can’t reach orgasm within a reasonable time? That’s where I’m at right now.

I have looked at porn, but not much, and haven’t wanked for several weeks other than after a failed sex go with my wife to relieve frustration and, then, with the fleshlight. Maybe, I’ve got to forgo that as well.

Seems like we’re a great pair, eh? Anyway, please keep me posted as to how you go and what things you try. Also, my EQ is shithouse, probably because I’ve overdone PE. So, I’m cutting that back substantially as well.

G’day again, shintaro. Have you seen this link — /forum/showthread.php?t=90302? I’m going to give it a go.

To teach your penis to be more sensitive, you should encourage it to open up about things that make it feel vulnerable by telling it a few of your own secrets. When it reciprocates, be warm and empathetic, and emphasize how much you appreciate seeing its emotional side.

You could also ask it to go to couples counseling with you, but be aware that it may feel defensive about this idea initially.

Rick yes, feel great inside but, alas, it doesn’t translate to an orgasm.

This weekend I saw my girl both days. Saturday … Had to get over the line with my hand. Today well, just gave up after an hour of going at it. Christ this becoming a rather morbid running commentary isn’t it?

I used the FL once last week just to remind myself that I can cum and I can very easily with it.

I’m not sure where to go from here … It’s all rather depressing really.

And I’m not too sure abou the talking to my penis thing. Sounds a bit tantric too me.

Sorry man, not meaning to shit up your thread with jokes :D , I do know that the problem is a real one, and I hope guys will continue to offer suggestions for you.

Well time for an update on this woeful business. Actually not so woeful this time. Have abstained from the porn for a while now - maybe only once the last 3 weeks. I don’t know if it’s this or what but over Easter I was with my regular several times and no problem crossing the finishing line albeit after maybe 45 minutes or so. At one stage I was ready to go after 10 minutes but she stopped me as she wanted more …hahahaha she’s now getting used to the marathon sessions and likes them, hmmm maybe this works against what I’m trying to do but what the heck!

Still early days but it is a little more positive at least.