Need help from the older guys.

Evening all.

I don’t know if I have a problem or not. Maybe I’m just getting older :(

Please allow me to explain the scene in detail.

I am 42, Married and have a lot of sex.

I can keep it up for up to 3 hours with coffee breaks, but a typical session lasts 30-45 mins. I can more or less control when I cum, but as I practise semen retention, although we have sex 1-2 times a day, I only cum once or twice a month. The sex can feel very intense at times due to getting as close to the PONR as possible, but not cumming.

I do PE, mostly for girth now - kegels/jelqes/O-bends. I get good night wood and morning wood. My EQ since starting PE is better than it has been since I was in my 20’s

So you’re probably thinking I just started this thread to bragg… but here comes the “problem”:
When I was younger (even 5 years ago), If I got hard, I stayed hard for a while even if the stimulation went away. So for instance, if I was hard and I needed a piss, I had to wait for my erection to subside. Maybe 2 - 5 mins.

But now all that’s changed. If the stimulation stops, that is to say, if I stop fucking, or being wanked or fantasising, or whatever it was that was turning me on, my erection subside pretty rapidly. I have not timed it, but I think it’s under 1 minute - possibly 30 seconds.

One theory I have is that I’m having so much sex, my mind is simply not bothering to keep the sexual state going. For instance I used to fantasize a lot. That was when sex was only 2-3 times a week. But now, I seldom fantasize.

Other details: I never ever produced much pre-cum, and now I make even less. When I first started semen retention it went up - probably because my cum was desperate to escape. But now my body seems to have got the message that cum production is not needed so often.

Any ideas guys?

I’m in my 40’s also Bro while you still sound like a stud and I still think I’m one we can’t stop age for ever. I think your blessed and I wouldn’t worry about it so much. I think it would be healthy for your prostate to at least blow out a load once a week:) .

I’m only 19 so obviously can relate in any way:D . However, recently I have noticed that when I ejaculate, I remain rock-hard for at least 5 minutes after(and that’s with 0 mental and/or physical stimulation).

The only thing I am doing differently, is resisted kegels. When 100% erect(and I mean 100%- just after getting near the PONR) I hold my unit down just below 90 degrees and kegel as is my life depended on it, for 15 seconds. I’ve been doing only 3 of these a day. The effect on my CC hardness is insane; it’s done nothing for my CS however.

I’m 16, so I don’t know about the age part, but I have never worried about how quickly (or slowly) my erection goes away when I don’t need an erection anymore. As long as it gets up and stays up when stimulated, I’m happy :D

It comes with age my friend.

And I’m the queen of Sheba!

I was hoping to here stories and anecdotes for other guys my age and older. I just want to know if this is “normal” or if I need to look into it.

marky,

This:

Leads me to believe that this:

Is due to this:

In other words, if your general erection quality is better than it was five years ago, I think that’s strong evidence that your penis is healthier than five years ago. The “erection going away without stimulation” thing is probably just brain-based — you’ve habituated to all the awesome sex you’re having! :D

Ah, to be in my 40’s again! I also could keep it up for long periods and had a large libido. Now, I’m pushing 60 and things DEFINITELY have changed! My wife (50) still has a slim kick-ass and tight body (sexy Russian) and I really don’t care if we have sex or not. Now I just feel that it is my “duty” to perform. My libido has sunk into the basement and watching porn is just another “B” movie. I quit taking all the meds my doctor prescribed and things are a little better. Any drugs that have to do with blood pressure and cholesterol will kill your libido and your dick.

I’m into natural cures now (fuck the doctor who only know what the drugs companies tell them) and feel a lot better. Plus, I’m back to pumping and doing kegels . It’s nice to have decent erections again and real morning wood! Plus, the addition of Tribulis and L-Arginine has helped a great deal.

I hit the wall at 55. It was like almost overnight! My hormones went out the window and I DIDN’T CARE!!!

Marky, I wouldn’t worry until you’re in your 50’s and your doctor destroys you with meds.

To me it sounds like aging.

For the heck of it though, consider getting your hormone levels tested at your next physical, just to have a baseline as you get older.

Yea I think it’s a combo of the age thing AND the too much sex thing. If I have to go piss in the middle of the festivities, then yea it might go limp by the time I get back but it goes right back up again.

I’m pushing 45 now. My mind is still as pussy crazed as I was when I was Para-Goomba’s age.
I can still go at at it for as long as I want and pretty much nut on command.
BUT … once I nut, I’m done. My brain completely shuts down. Even if I take viagra and I still have a hard on.
The brain is off in the kitchen looking for something to eat.

There is other things you might want to consider also. And the following is no disrespect to Mrs. Marky (Lady777)
But how “routine” has your sex become. Let’s face it, sex is not the emotional bonding thing for most men that it is for most women. And it gets worse as we age. We need new excitement. Especially when we’re having sex with the same woman all the time.

Routine equals boredom. Sure we still like to get to laid, but can we liven things up a bit here? Different time, different place maybe? Putting something sexy on and talking like a cock hungry freak works wonders for me … think maybe I could get a blow job or two in the car once in awhile. You know for old times sake … like you use to do. You do remember all the parks, beaches, back seats, and just about anywhere else we did it? Fuck maybe that was your sister after all.

Yep she’s changed too. I remember when I was younger every girl I ever fucked would go back down and suck it hard a second, 3rd, 4th, or even more times right after pulling out. The object was to get it back in for some more.
What happened to those girls? She was one too. Except she’s forgotten now. Now it’s more like; well what if I wash it off real good first? WTF, I just had my face in it for the last hour … and my dick was already in your mouth a few times too.

Oh’ well I guess the best advice is not to obsess about it on the way back from the pisser. If you do I’ll guarantee you that you’ll get performance anxiety every time. Remember, think dirty thoughts. Go back in and pull her hair, slap her ass, and tell her you’re going to fuck her from behind like a little high school girl on prom night.

Baa haa haa - I’ve actually used that line more than once. LOL.

Thanks for the vote dude :)

I’d sooner die than take meds of any sort. Vitamins and herbs sure. But for me, to stay on a drug for life would be crap. But I am putting in the work now to try to stay healthy. I do a few weights, watch what I eat.

We could not be better. I often get very excited during sex -groaning and moaning- but still the same thing happens if I stop for a piss. She is happy to suck before during and after :)

OK, I am beginning to think this is just normal ageing, coupled with having a lot of sex. When I was 18… one time I had so much sex, I nearly fell over in the kitchen the next morning. There was a bowl of sugar cubes on the counter and I just stuck my hand in, grabbed some and ate them. Then I went back up and fucked the woman’s brains out some more. Me erection hardly went down that week.

Perhaps youth really is wasted on the young :)

You are a stud although how you can not cum except for 1-2 times a month is beyond my imagination. I’m 52 and had sex with my wife about 3,000 times over 20 years and I gradually lost the ability to have as much sex, had longer refractory times, less hard erections and so forth. Got my testosterone checked.it was low. It is almost impossible to keep your T up naturally as you approach 50 but you can certainly try.avoiding all estrogenic compounds and using Tribulis and other herbals to naturally boost it. But be grateful for what you have.I mourn the loss of my previous prowess and can’t seem to get it back. Newer ED research and treatment ideas are focusing on the role of dopamine in the brain.it is partly the loss of mental stimulation that is my problem and maybe yours too. Can you remember the excitement of sex when you were young? We would get hard just thinking about sex, and never thought twice about our ability to perform. Even just thinking about these things has a negative effect on performance. BD

Good post.

Yeah, that is the “downside” of a good sex life - the hunger is not there like it is in some guys. I have been on marriage forums where the guys often say they have an above average sex drive, and their wife only wants it once a month. Upon further questioning, it turns out they only have a normal sex drive - maybe even slightly below normal, and they are simply sex starved. They would not last 5 minutes in my house :D

Yeah, the dopamine thing. That is sooooo interesting. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter of anticipation and excitement. It is responsible for causing people to fantasise during the build-up to sex or other exciting possibilities. The dopamine causes fantasy to become accompanied by highly arousing feelings - almost as good as the anticipated act to come. If the sex then takes place within a reasonable amount of time while the dopamine is still high, it goes with a bang. However, if the hoped for encounter gets called off -at the last minute- dopamine levels plunge and a temporary depression can follow.

I have not been fantasising like I used too. I used to be a walking porn-store.

My dopamine system is probably a bit suppressed at the moment. I have just started university and they are working us like slaves. I feel tired all the time. I wake up tired. But mercifully we have a month of at Christmas :)

Guys! I’ve finally found out what was causing the problem. It was my dopamine levels :)

I was partially burnt-out doing a research project all summer for an invention I’m working on. Hot on the heals of that, I decided to enrol at University. I am doing Maths Chem And Phys. For the first month of Uni. I tried to work on my project in the evenings after a hard days studying. Well, I began to notice my normally unquenchable libido slipping to that of a normal 18 year old. Clearly something was slipping :D

I was also finding that the learning I was doing at Uni was only sticking for a week, and then I was forgetting everything. I was feeling ground down, and nothing was bringing me pleasure. All the sweet young things at Uni were doing nothing for me - not so much as a twitch in the pants!

I knew that dopamine was responsible for desire and fantasy… but then I went on the ‘net and discovered that it is also needed for proper brain functioning and in particular: STUDY.

So basically, I think I just burnt through my dopamine. I immediately started eating high protein foods. In particular cottage cheese, dark chocolate and salmon. That was only yesterday. Today I bought some supplements. L-Theanine and also DL-Phenylalanine. I started on the L-Theanine today, but I am probably going to put that to one side and try the DL-Phenylalanine tomorrow. Both of theses supplements are basically pre-cursors for dopamine. I will let you know what happens.

I felt very slightly spaced from the L-Theanine, but plenty alert. I took 3 150 mg tabs today. The stated dose is only 2 tabs per day, but I know some people take loads more than that.

If anybody else wants to share or chime in… please do.

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BigDreams09-

I just re-read your post. Perhaps you put me onto the dopamine thing without me realising. Thanks :)
That’s another score for Thunders Place :dance:

Surf the web on the words “ejaculation prostate health” and you’ll see heaps of articles that encourage regular ejaculation. I work on the principle of at least four times a week or more. And it’s for your prostate’s health! Glad I’m not a priest, eh?