Not getting hard regularly

I can’t post in Men’s sexual health so I’ll just post it right here. I’m soon 24 and for several years I have had pretty shitty EQ, at least when I’ve heard older guys talk about what they used to have in my age. I don’t know if it is extensive porn watching, although I don’t really enjoy watching porn as it seems to fake for me, or if it is extensive masturbation (I sometimes wank just for the orgasm, even if I’m not hard. I simply get bored and being horny is too distracting). When I was a teenager I would get hard just seeing an attractive woman, nowadays I fear not being able to get hard when I have sex. Though it’s usually easier when I’m drunk. Any ideas? Am I simply masturbating too much or am I doing something else wrong?

Also, when I first started out PE, about 3 months ago, I was doing the OK-grip jelq and reverse jelq in my ignorance. Something I noticed was my EQ improving significantly and vascularity increasing immensely; I mean I saw veins I did not know I had. I’ve read that you should stay away from reverse jelqing because of the risk of damaging the valves that retains the blood but disregarding that, aren’t those quite good results? I was afraid of damaging the veins while stroking back which was one of the reasons I stopped, do you think that I was worrying for nothing?

Finally, do you have any suggestion of a manual method that could provide the same type of “pump” as the reverse jelq provided for me?

Sorry if this post is incoherent or doesn’t make sense. I just really wanted to ask this question while I still had the thought in my head. I am also probably still drunk and I haven’t slept for like 30 hours.

Cheers

Being drunk and not sleeping for 30 hours will kill your EQ. Healthy lifestyle minimum porn and the newbie routine should help.

Stop all ejaculation and your dick should be hard as stone in week or so, but you’ll lose that ability as soon as you ejaculate.

Awesome supplement for male sexual health and health in general is ashwaganda, it is cheap as dirt and does wonders.

Ashwaganda group compared to placebo had 2.5 times more muscle mass gained after 2 months, with 20% more testosterone and 20% less cortisol (stress hormone) in a study.

You have to stop ejaculating, there is no other way, I watched tons of porn and edged without ejaculation and EQ was incredible, so ejaculation harms EQ much more than porn viewing, although for some people porn does it too to a lesser degree.

I am right now on 40 or so days without ejaculation, erections are crazy, almost hurting .

I also stopped watching porn a month ago, dopamine detox so that I actually like doing hard things, not at all because of EQ.

I am 24 too, I am sorry to hear that you are soo sexually depleted at such a young age.

Erection is a parameter of health of a male body, just think about it, evolutionary procreation is the most important thing, so you having bad erections literally says that you are severely depleted and not properly cared for.

Eat right(saturated fat and cholesterol are building blocks of sexual hormones in both sexes), sleep right(22-6), don’t ejaculate as long as you can(you can do it for months actually), exercise should get the blood moving and improved circulation should help EQ, if you smoke stop, if you are on chemical downers because of depression switch it with weed or just stop because of semen retention it is hard to be depressed and downers kill sex drive.

I have to parrot this everywhere, multi orgasmic man book by Mantak Chia makes you last as long as you want if you practice for a few weeks exercises given in chapter 3.

Just type multi orgasmic man . pdf and it will appear on google.

Secular sexology is bullshit, all of their advices are worth shit, taoists on the other hand are still far ahead this atheist “science”, 1 hour is no problem now for me and just a couple months back I confessed to lasting only 10 minutes and asked folks how to desensitize the penis, turned out that I found ways myself and posted them in one of the last active threads in mens health forum.

Is ashwaganda the only supplement you currently take?

Stop porn completely. 100%. Forget that porn exists. Growing up in this transition between not having technology to access to all kind of porn on demand, I was able to see the catastrophic effects in society. As crazy as it sounds, not only porn, but our society is poisoned nowadays with sodomy 24/7 everywhere. Even social media having all those girls working out in tiny shorts showing everything, did not exist in the past. That means, in the past you would get hard just by seeing a girl in a bikini. Today is normal to see a girl walking on a g-string and heels at the beach. All those things desensitize you and have desensitized all of us throughout the years.

As others already advised, forget about your dick. I know that feeling of being horny and distracted and playing with your dick even if you’re not hard, but concentrate in not touching your dick. Leave it alone. Stay away from any visual temptation. You will see the difference. If you can stay yourself that way, the day you are with a real woman getting naked in your arms your dick will get so hard that it will hurt.

How much ashwaganda is recommended or how much do you take?

I don’t enjoy porn though, sometimes I just fantasize; I just really want to orgasm and I’m doing all this because I really just want to fuck. I don’t get laid regularly so it’s a problem but I guess ejaculation retention is the only way then..

I think I’m doing the other things right so I will check out that pdf.

I can drink 5 days and not eat, EQ is smashing if you don’t ejaculate for more than a week and only gets stronger and stronger, at day 60 it was hurting how hard it was, randomly no stimulation or a trigger needed.

No other mammal ejaculates once a day or once a week, they do it 1-2 times a year, and they are buzzing with energy, no depression in animal world, I can bet that semen retention is a part of their huge life force.

You are all addicted to a wasteful 5 second release that kills you, everybody knows deep down that it is destructive.

Edit: ashwaganda should be taken 5-10 grams a day in powder form

Is your streak still going strong, Jocacar?

No lost it at 68, it is not a big deal, I don’t beat myself over it, it is not as if you go to a same depleted state as a guy who ejaculated the same day but also every day before that.

I felt down for 2 days, it is not actual depletion as taoists say that healthy 20-30 year old can ejaculate once in 8 days without consequences, any day more than that is building reserves according to them and they are only ones who mastered SR while having sex and masturbating daily.(not lust but forceful transmutation which ensures far less sperm is lost with urine or in nightfall).

It is actually prolactin levels going up and making you feel more depleted than you really are to prevent further depletion.
It goes fully back to baseline on day 14, there are studies on it, but vast majority of symptoms are gone by day 5, on day 7 there is huge rise in testosterone for some reason, over 100% and you feel better than on day 14 but eventually more than a month into a streak you feel every day like on day 7 and better even.

I actually don’t know my number of days now, 10 or so I don’t care as I feel almost as charged as before, orgasmic waves for no reason actually multiple times a day and feeling of my aura going far beyond my crown chakra to the heaven, maybe I have put so much sperm in the bank that I will be fully back when prolactin goes to baseline.

I don’t know if there’s any info on this, but you seem to be well-read and knowledgeable:

Let’s say a man commits to ejaculating only every 8 days. On that day, if he ejaculates more than once, completely depleting himself, does that put more demand on his system? Thinking about this in a similar way to milk production. If you don’t milk a cow regularly, they’ll go dry. But if you milk them more often, they’ll produce more. So is there a difference in ejaculating 3 times on day eight vs just once?

Definitely, first load is the biggest, second smaller but same texture, third is almost all transparent like water, fourth is totally deprived of sperm, only prostate fluid.
So logically if you ejaculated more than once, more nutrients and life force wasted(millions more of cells capable of becoming human beings wasted than if you ejaculate once).

It’s not only days guys, I am at 10 or so days and feel like on a month or more because last streak was 68 days.

You can ej every 8 days and not deplete yourself but you are also not storing any at least according to taoist books, and they are very strict recommending ejaculating intentionally only to conceive a child, still unintentional ej can happen like it did to me and it surely did to ancients but at least they didn’t intentionally shorten their lifespan.

I appreciate the response, but I apparently didn’t word my question clearly enough. If you completely empty out, does that boost production? If you ejaculate 4 times in one day, then wait another eight days to ejaculate again, will the semen volume on that next ej day be more compared to if you only ejaculate once?

I’d say it’s porn. Go 1 week without it and just use your imagination. In fact, actually don’t even fantasize, just give yourself a mental reset. Itd be hard for you to separate an imagined fantasy vs a memory of a porn scene at your current state. If you needed a release, give yourself a sober day of not touching yourself, and just wank the next day and try to get sensation and focus on the feeling of how it feels like. Your accustomed to jerking off on command with porn and that’s a mental conditioning that dulls your sensation. It’s like sexual junkfood. And your used to a death grip because of trying to achieve multiple orgasm. It’s going to be tough, I’ve been there. I can’t say how soon you’ll get your EQ back but you got trust me on this and the other guys when they advice you have to taper off porn. It’s not going to give you sex, it is counterproductive.

Fall in love with your penis again and make it be the focus of attention. When I masturbate I don’t fantasize about anything, I focus on my cock and body and just go for it for me, I focus on the sensations and really think about how it feels. You’ll need more than a week. When I quit porn it took weeks before I could masturbate with nothing on and make it last for more than 3 minutes. As soon as I got hard I’d cum. Versus an hour+ of “edging” with porn on. Terrible stuff the porn is.

Leave it and delete your accounts, user names, whatever it all is, get done with it! Your cock is more important than all of that!

Absolutely. I would take it a step further and say cut out all porn and alcohol, but maybe that’s too extreme.