Performance anxiety need help

My friends i need your help.

I finally had sex with my girlfriend but i could not get it hard. I made her cum 5 times, first with fingering later by giving her oral and also eating and fingering her ass.
But even though she is super hot i had trouble getting it hard. Even when she was giving me oral and i started getting hard i panicked and it went flaccid. Best i got was semi erections but it didnt last for long. Well at the end i was able to put it in while semi erect and then I got hard and came inside her, but still i dont think it was 100% hard. Im not sure why this happened. I deliberately layed off porn for weeks and didnt cum for 5 days before this. I do think my dick is small even though according to statistics it should be average or even slightly bigger (bone pressed is about 16.5cm girth ranges from 11.8-12.2 and more if i had a cock ring). She coulnt be more nice about it though, she reassured me a multiple times.
Do you have any tips other than drugs? (I already ordered viagra)

Im not sure why this happened. This was only our second date (but we knew each other for a year) and best i hoped for is to see her tits and finger her, and even tho she was reluctant at first and it wasn’t planned I ended up fingering her, eating her out and also ate and finger her ass too witch surprised me as well. Im thinking its a combination of so much great things happening all at once and me being overwhelmed and also seeing my flaccid dick in her mouth not getting hard really killed me. What i don’t understand either is that usually my glans are super sensitive when stimulated, but last night there was berely sensation.

I haven’t PE-ed in like a month, but i think i will do some Kegels, and maybe pumping as those seemed to make my dick more sensitive.

Hey, how old are you?

Might be perfectly normal.

It sounds like nerves to me. The more you worry about it, the worse it’s going to get. So just let it happen. Accept the outcome before you even know what it’s going to be. Take your time, you’ll feel less pressure that way.

It took me 4 attempts with my first girlfriend. Non sexual intimacy is the best way I’ve found to get out of your own head.

Breathe. Happens.

Ive been with my wife 28 years and believe me. Sometimes i can last for hours and sometimes one good deep stroke and I cum.

Just breathe and try and relax.

Thank you guys.

I am 29.

"The more you worry about it, the worse it’s going to get." Yea thats very true.

It happens. It doesn’t necessarily have to have a reason. It will usually last two to four weeks, then vanish as mysteriously as it appeared.

Worrying about it won’t help. At 29, a doctor would probably put you on the referral-go-round before prescribing an erectile assistance drug like Cialis or Viagra. By the time all the referrals and testing get done, the problem will probably have gone away on its own.

If it lasts more than a month, you definitely need a doctor. You’ll want a full physical and set of labs, because ED is often an early indicator of other, more serious problems.

It’s really hard not to worry about it, but do your best. Eat decently, get a bit of exercise, get plenty of sleep, and cut back on alcohol or "pharmaceuticals" to give your body a better chance to recover.t

If you use porn for stimulation, take a break from that, too. Porn-induced ED is very much a thing, and it takes a long time to recover from. Best to avoid it as much as you can.

It’s okay to continue PE if you want, but don’t get carried away and overdo things.

Bad news: if it happens once, it’s likely to happen again. But next time won’t be nearly as bad since you’ll know that it’s just a temporary thing and you’ll recover.

"So just let it happen. Accept the outcome before you even know what it’s going to be."

Powerful words.

Maybe if you make love making just 2 people ( or 3 if you want to get kinky) as something to be enjoyed and to be shared and get rid of the idea of performance it just might help.

The other reality is when your older and same person for a long time you know how to get them off and it’s less 4 play. Time constraints kids etc.

The reality is once you get accustomed to one cycle, your on to the next cycle.

My 2 cents.

1) Cut porn completely.

2) In addition to kegel exercise, do hip flexor exercises like hamstring stretch, side to side leg stretch, horse stance, butterfly stretch, cobra your back muscle, child pose, back wedge. Do the stretches with breath work for a good 20 mins. Listen to your body and don’t force it. But increase the intensity slowly.

Kegel exercise alone is NOT sufficient.

3) If do the 2) itself, will give you rock hard erections in 7 to 10 days. Do structured breathing yoga practice like sudharshan kriya yoga. This will fix your mind

4) Do slow Qigong which will relaxes your entire body.

Do 2) 3) and 4) in alternate days.

Results will be through the roof.

Obviously you definitely must be doing PE.