Sharing recent porn induced ed issues

If anyone wants to post there experience here, I read every line. Really helps me and probably others.

I’d like to get everyone’s opinion on masturbation.

Obviously too much is obsessive but since I’ve experienced more attention from woman lately I feel really unsure about it. I doubt not jerking off has attracted more women in my life but I now feel superstitious about it. Feeling down lately and I think I need some self love. Which loving myself is my current struggle. Since I started going out and meeting so many new people I feel a sort of anxiety about having wasted so much time and a impending sort of deadline that I must rush to meet to make up for lost time. I’ve grown so much but I’m not enjoying it by being in the moment. I think this has caused me to start hating myself.

Masturbation can be a hard thing to manage especially if you are meeting people and having sex. Too much masturbation and you might not cum or find it hard to when having sex, to little and you might cum to quickly. Something you have to work out for yourself. When I was in my 20s and away from my girlfriend I used to masturbate 3 times a day and then trailed off when it was getting close to when I would see here again. Worked for me. I never masturbated with porn though, I would let my mind wonder about what we would do when we meet up again, way better than porn.

There are a huge number of threads in this. Use the search button for “masturbation”.

Hey mates!, really interested in this topic.
Just past the 30 years mark and tbh I don’t feel really good about how everything is going. In the past 6 to 7 years I have been abusing of porn and I really see that affecting me, I have tried to quick pon a couple of days, but fall back at it again.
Of course I have some problems to get hard when with my partner. Even to do jelqs I have to watch porn, if not I don’t get the proper erection.

This thread made think and I’m planning to leave porn. But I just feel overwhelmed

Masturbation is different for me now, its not as fun or as easy as it was with porn on. I’m much more present in the moment when I’m with myself and easily distracted. I had no idea how “locked in” I used to be with my masturbation habits when porn was on. It’s getting better, I’m able to get hot for myself and make it feel really good, and stay creative and motivated, but I can’t really make myself jerk off for more than 10 or so minutes. I miss the marathon 45+ minutes of edging and hard on play.

You absolutely do need self love!!! You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself first. When you please yourself, you learn what you like and want, which makes the other person know what you like and want too. This isn’t about only them: to be in a relationship, or just have sex one time with someone, it takes them AND you.

I think the “mainstream” online presence today has equated ‘no fap’ with ‘no porn’ and I think the two should be separate unless put together. I think your journey to stop watching porn is one thing and masturbation is another thing. You may be connecting the time spent on porn with your masturbation as a waste of time. But, you still need to masturbate!!! Masturbation without porn is extremely healthy and you need to do it. Yes excessive cumming all the time keeps you happy at home, so to speak, so the need or want to get out there to do it with someone other than yourself is lessened, there is less drive to do it. But masturbation, when the urge arises and you just need to take yourself into your hands (or plunge into a fleshlight, however you do it!) you just need to do it. Find love for the pleasure of orgasm and release and the fun feelings you get from stimulating yourself. Feel no shame about it. Just try to feel happy and make light of it!

I don’t know how much time you’ve lost (it might be in the thread earlier, sorry I didn’t look back) but you still have your life ahead of you. You are out there. You’ve cut out porn. You have sexual energy built up and I’m sure the ladies can see and feel it radiating from you. Take charge of your body and own your orgasm again. You don’t have that horrible crutch of porn looming over your shoulder to keep you satiated at home anymore. Your home time, then, can be your totally alone time with no distractions. Maybe make time for a “self love date” for yourself and treat yourself right! You deserve to feel good inside.

I was in tears, balling my face out, one night when I couldn’t get hard to give it to my wife. I told her through tears and sobs that “I didn’t want to try anymore, I didn’t want to leave her hanging, I don’t want to feel like this anymore I CAN’T TAKE IT!!!” it was a complete breakdown mentally and physically. I had absolutely no idea that my habits, which my wife really didn’t mind at all, was cutting into me so deeply. I made it out of that hole and things are feeling fine again. Do I still think about it? Sure I do. But I don’t obsess over it, I look back and say “wow, I can’t believe I went through that.” The important word is “went” its past tense. Every day holds something new. Even when I stub my toe or drop something on the floor I didn’t want to drop I take it as “ok, universe, thanks for reminding me that you’re out there and I’m in you and you’re never, ever going to let my life be that easy or predictable, are you!?!” and in that moment I feel alive. AND NORMAL!!!

You got this! Take care of you. You’re out there, you’re having fun, and you’re meeting people. Its fabulous!! Now its time to treat yourself to the pleasure you’ve been missing. It will feel and be different, no doubt. But look at what you managed to do when you didn’t think you could. I told my wife I need to learn how to masturbate again and it was weird to think about and tell her, but she gets it. Don’t feel like one time masturbating will lead you down the dark tunnel again, it won’t. Take it in stride, give it a try and see what happens. :)

I hit 2 months of no porn yesterday!! 8 solid weeks :) It feels really good. The time went by quick, too. I feel like time dragged on because normalcy was embedded between viewings of porn. My days have been fuller and I feel increasingly productive. I’m also getting off extremely hard. And my cock has been insanely hard, harder for longer periods of time, and my cock responds strongly to my wife. Almost everything we, a kiss, a hug, looking into each others eyes (all while fully dressed) sends a surge of blood into my penis and I usually start to get aroused and swelling begins. Last night I didn’t know if we would be intimate but she wanted to get me off and, unplanned at that moment, she proceeded to go for my already stiffy which was hard from just THINKING about her hand on me. I got hard in literally 10 seconds (granted I was out of town all weekend and did not cum in two days, I was ready for something, but it wasn’t overpowering me). Flash back to a little over 2 months ago and I was a groveling, nervous wreck “trying” to get hard as she swallowed my entire flaccid penis for minutes on end, to no avail. Now I’m hard just by thinking about what might happen simply by looking at her.

Guys, I’m solidly a firm, firm believer in no porn=better erections and more strength, mentally and physically, in the genitals. I wondered if I added supplements/vitamins that have helped. I did add magnesium and vitamin E in the last 3 weeks, but I’ve been better in the erection department longer than just 3 weeks. I’m actually looking forward to pleasuring myself and taking my time with it. I just need to balance my personal pleasure and orgasms with time with my wife.

Hope everyone is doing good on their journey! I haven’t felt this good about myself, mostly the habits of my sex life, in a very long time.

I fell back into it, my girlfriend having gone traveling I was alone I ejaculated 3 times in a day.

Now I will try to never crack again I deleted instagram and all my youtube suggestions.

It is so freakin hard to get rid of porn… it is everywhere you look.

damn !

dude I know, it really is everywhere! Rabbit hole is big. I saw some news thing about some actress and a photo attached and I was like "damn she looks hot on the red carpet, I wonder if she’s ever shown her carpet?!" and I was about to look for leaks or nudes and I kind of grabbed myself like, "wait, she looks hot clothed, and the allure of her hotness is me wondering what she looks like naked." When I finally see someone online naked it kind of ruins it for me, like "well, she’s hot, of course, but now that I’ve seen her boobies, well, its just not exciting to think about anymore." Its just crazy with the internet that you can instantly go from a thought and no visual stimuli to full blown videos of all things sex. Its like there isn’t even the chance to fantasize or think about it: just google it, find it, see it and you’re locked in within seconds. Kind of scary to think about the ease of it all.

You got a strong sex drive that’s for sure! That’s a very good thing, look at it as a benefit and gift. Some men don’t have the drive to cum 3 times in a whole month! Last night I was alone with myself and I was determined to pleasure myself for longer than 7 minutes. I kept thinking "I miss the days of stroking myself to porn for over 45 minutes, it felt soooooo good" and the sheer thought of that made me more excited and it felt even better than before the thought. I thought to myself "I’m getting up off the floor and getting on my computer, I’ll just look at pictures" but I didn’t, I tried to turn it inward with my eyes closed. That made what I was doing to myself feel even better than a second before. I was fantasizing about my own masturbation?!!? I’ve have rarely done that. I might look very forward to playing and cumming but I don’t usually fantasize about what I’m doing to and with myself. This is new! It was hot and exciting and I managed to keep interested and keep going for 15 minutes. Staying off porn and other visual stimuli is doing something to my brain that’s for sure.

You got this! Deleting and cancelling the links and websites is strong. Its hard to do. We have some kind of "social capital" built up on these websites, especially when the site tells you how long you’ve been on it, how many "reward points" you’ve earned, etc.. They really make it seem like you DESERVE to be on their site; like leaving it is like throwing possessions away or giving up stored up time that has some kind of real world value affixed to it. You are strong for cutting off IG and youtube, that’s huge! Keep at it!

Read every single word of every post! Lol, but ya thanks everyone for sharing. Just jerked it this morning and it was definitely different and more enjoyable. Was able to go 40-60min like I use to and no bad feels afterwards. I’m glad I did because I feel more confident that my dick will get hard when with a girl now. Can’t wait for this weekend.

The whole internet is a giant fucking trap bro.
Damn.

Yes i got a very strong sex drive.
I already pleasured myself for 8 hours straight.
When I’m alone and I have naughty thoughts I can barely hold back, it’s like trying to balance on a one-legged rope.
I start with light stuff then I end with very very hard stuff, until I can’t touch myself for fear of hurting myself.
But hey it’s in the past now I manage to have these drives rarely.
As you said above, it can be triggered with nothing, now just going to the supermarket is hard cause I wanna jump on all the girls I see.

Thank you i will !
In addition recently my wife understood that my libido was way too high for her so she will accept that I go to see other girls just for sex.
you can’t imagine how good i feel.
Even if I don’t do it much, it reassures me that she grants me that, how good it is to have an understanding wife.
Force to you !

WOW your wife must really understand you and your needs. Good luck in your pursuits to get it on!

Just wanna say I had an amazing weekend and my dick works. Also this girl was obsessed with me which was nice. God bless her.

Hell yes!!! That’s awesome to hear! Glad you are in a groove with your body :)

So, are you saying your dick worked for that girl and that she was obsessed with you in a sexual way?!

Yes and yes! I’ll never see her again but that’s ok. I’m not fully recovered in a mind to body way but this is a huge step in the right direction. Like yesterday I couldn’t jack off but that just means I have more to go. BUT I definitely am moving in the right direction and have no desire for porn. I’m also learning to live in the moment, I talked to her, I touched her and I kissed her first without overthinking it just on instinct. It felt so natural and right. Our eye contact felt like something out of a movie, so electric. I feel a sense of calm competence now with women, not perfect but more so than before.

This is fantastic! Wow how radical. Sounds like you are moving along great and you’ve found a level of comfort that is driving you towards a better, happier lifestyle. Hope your next encounter with a woman is equally as awesome if not more so!