Sharing recent porn induced ed issues

10 days off porn, feels great !

Girls these days dress really indecently, I work in a rich neighborhood now and the girls from a very young age are already dressed like ******

It drives me crazy for real.

Every girl i see in the street, i can see their asses like if they where naked.

We live in an era where sex is displayed everywhere even on oneself.

I relapsed 3 times in one day…

Damn i want to throw my computer out the window.

Did you watch porn or just jerkoff?

I watched porn and jerked off…

But did you watch hard porn or softcore ?

Just normal porn.

I’d say when you feel this way you should go out that very night and interact with some women. Remove the connection between being horny and looking for porn and instead associate it with flirting. All my fantasies now have me reminiscing fondly of girls I met this way.

Unless there are medical problems most males will experience little to no ED without porn.

Discovering a woman’s inner beauty (personality) combined with her external beauty. Simply put genuinely listen to a woman’s emotional needs. You must or should fulfill her emotional needs first. Then she will fulfill you physical needs when the time is right. Talking, nagging and begging for sex makes most women bitter and resentful towards the male. This will most likely result in zero sex.

Just deleted my OnlyFans account, had two old subscriptions on there lagging and that’s yet another porno outlet gone! Pornhub, MFC, CB, OF, its all gone now. To think a year ago I’d be able to easily delete my CB account, its just odd to think about, I never once considered deleting it. It feels really good. I know I can just easily go on there and look and browse and lurk, but not having the account makes me less wanting to do that.

Hope everyone is doing well on their no-porn journey! Masturbation is so fun now I can’t believe I was “fine” with just sitting in front of a screen for years. I’m so much more in touch with and in tune with my own pleasure and my focus on the physical sensations is heightened now to a place it hasn’t been in many, many years. I also didn’t realize how viewing sex on a screen influenced the way I make love with my wife. Something subconscious from pornworld was maybe creeping into our bedroom, not like I emulated anything on the screen, but I’m more openly letting my emotions and instinct just pour out of me and guide my movements. Its like the muse is more allowed to access me during sex now; I enter a flow state more easily during sex now and it seems less prescribed and/or methodical.

I’m also more brave to delete porn now, I’m deleting more and more as the weeks go on. Its hard to do because its ‘there’ and I can see it if I want to. Its happening though!

19 weeks down, I realized today that half a year of no purposeful pornography consumption is getting closer. When I finished a month it felt like forever. Now the weeks are going by kind of quick. I used to feel like I “needed” to look at something, anything, that was nudity, naked women, women cumming and having sex, whatever. It was such a draw; something I just instinctively did and didn’t think about before doing it.

Things I’m noticing about my erection lately is that the glans is getting more full and harder than its possibly been in years. Its plump and fuller, more red and swollen during nearly every erection I have, even ones when I’m laying down and in that position my EQ has always been weakest. It used to take me the longest to get hard laying down, too. I realize now that laying on my back and trying to get hard is like the exact opposite of my “porn-normal” position of sitting upright to get hard. Simple movements like rolling over, moving from kneeling to laying on my back, standing to laying down, or sitting to standing used to weaken my erection considerably. Now I just stay hard when changing positions both during sex and when I’m masturbating. I can also get fully hard quicker now than I have been able to for the last few years. Like almost twice as fast.

The only lifestyle change I’ve made is cutting porn out of my life. I finally cut looking at the r/bigclit subreddit too. Used to glance at it maybe 2-3 times a week just to marvel at the range of clitoris size out there. Its all still intriguing to me but I don’t feel the need, interest or urge enough to get online to look. (I actually don’t even go on Reddit at all anymore, used to every day, now its been a few weeks and I haven’t looked at anything on it.)

Last time I deleted porn on my computer I made an attempt to at least scroll through every clip I trashed. None of it really seemed enticing, hot, erotic or pretty. Felt sooooooo good to delete stuff!

Anyone on the fence about quitting porn please try it! Those of you struggling to make it through a week or two, just keep at it, things get better! My mood is better, I feel less frustrated about a lot, I feel like I have a better positive outlook on the world and everything in it and I didn’t really have those feelings before March 22, my last day seriously looking at porn habitually. We are men and we are strong! How dare we succumb to something as petty and small as pornography and allow it to alter our sex drives and libidos. No more!

These threads are incredibly helpful; I just read the last six pages.

I’m 43 and had viewed porn since age 12-ish.

Last month I realized the damage it was doing and simply said “enough” and refuse to look back. It got to the point that I needed to sneak glances at porn while I was having sex with my wife. I would suggest some “all fours” action, since it was a position she liked; I then snuck my phone open and climaxed to porn.

I was so disgusted with myself for having fallen into this trap. Now, after over a month, I’m experiencing morning wood that is achingly strong and my orgasms with the wife are painfully powerful. I have covered more of my story in another “quitting porn” thread, but wanted to weigh in here and offer everyone additional encouragement!

Forget that garbage even exists!

-Horseman1978-

Wow thanks for sharing that info. I have not wanted to say this but since you brought up watching porn while having sex with your wife, I was watching porn, actually looking for anyone almost actively cumming on Chaturbate, while my wife was in the shower cleaning up but primarily using the detachable shower head to edge her clit to monstrous orgasms in preparation for hooking up with me. I feel so ashamed that while I literally had my wife engaged in my biggest porn lust—solo females masturbating and cumming—in the bathroom on the other side of the door from me, I was getting hard to porn and not her. When I started to cut out doing that because I realized how sick, gross and wrong (and actually very uncool too) it was, that I was doing that while my darling, cute, adorable and loving wife was getting off so she could be more ready for me (menopausal symptoms, vaginal dryness and pain, low libido, we were having a near impossible time having sex in 2020 and early this year so she was really trying to be comfortable for sex), I started to not get as hard, or hard at all, when I was alone with her. I would get hard to porn waiting on her, and when she came out and started to give me head, or even lube me up to sit on me, I’d go flaccid in like 2 seconds. So embarrassing. What a let down, and for her; but, she was okay with whatever was going on, she’s a patient soul, and supported me in whatever was happening to me and was there to help. Most nights I was left crying, literally sobbing, feeling like such a moron and a loser that I couldn’t get hard for her, but could for the screen. Most nights I never even came; I just gave up and we went to sleep. She got off a lot during foreplay on nights we tried, don’t get me wrong, she’s a multiorgasmic heavy cummer at anytime, but nothing was happening for me. She’d even ask if I needed to be alone, which meant did I need to cum to porn, and I did a few times but then quit because it felt so wrong and shameful.
***This sucks! I hated feeling like this, just have to say that, one of the lowest feelings of my life***

Horseman1978, I can’t thank you for telling your story above because its not an easy thing to admit, but it made me just now put my habits in perspective, and I had not realized that my porn gazing minutes before sex was so damaging to my psyche and created such excellent ED you could’ve done a commercial on my sorry ass!

I am nearly convinced that if “porn” was a question on the questionnaire that men answer which reveals the percentages and rates of ED in men over 40, you’d see that the vast majority of men with ED over 40 use porn on a level that a specialist would say “you have an addiction to porn” and/or “your porn consumption is interfering with your personal relationships, your relationship to your own body, and your normal healthy physical sexual function.” I just feel like porn isn’t addressed when men’s ED is brought up. (You could then say “Big Pharma” but that’s a different thread…)

It is inspirational that this thread and other threads like it are here. The longer I’m off porn the more I continue to reflect on it all, its meaning, the roots of it, everything. I’m constantly remembering and contextualizing my past behaviors and activities together over the years and its a bit enlightening to see it all at once in this new way I’m thinking and feeling. Everyone’s stories and so good to read they continue to make me more present in my life now because it makes me reflect on my past in constructive, not destructive, ways and I’m feeling benefits from this shift in my life and its amazing.

So Thank You to everyone on this!

Thanks for your words pumpedmember; I had a really serious problem and was too stupid and selfish to see it for over two decades.

Once I realized the extent of my porn use, and came to grips with the fact that I was an "addict", it became "decision time"… I defined "addiction" as an activity or behavior that I couldn’t "quit"; one that controlled my behavior or compelled action…

I also love my wife dearly and realized that if she knew I was being visually stimulated my another woman that she would be heartbroken; especially if it was on my smart phone while I was banging her doggystyle. I believe that videos like the one I’ll attach a link to below were instrumental in helping me discard that crap almost overnight. Sure, I’m still tempted, but knowing that I need to cease porn use to honor my wife AND have better sex made it a no brainer and helped me take those regular temptations and mentally tell them to eff off. I now keep my head high and my mind focused on the real thing. I still masturbate almost weekly, but only to mental fantasies and now to a few pictures my wife curiously allowed me to take ;) previously, there wasn’t a day I didn’t jerk off to porn; sometimes 3-5x per day.

How then does this relate to "PE"? Read on:

I have had an MEG of 5-1/4" for most of my life; being a bit insecure and frequently measuring myself as a young man, I know how to measure and what it was. Fast forward to the current topic; after only a week without porn, I’m consistently a tick over 5-1/2" MEG with only morning wood! After a month without porn, things are greater still. As recent evidence; my dear wife, (a dear prudish gal that has always struggled giving a satisfactory blow job) tried her skills again this weekend; she actually stopped mid-act and said; "something is different", I simply cannot get that thing in my mouth. She was positioned on my side, which is sub-optimal, but she changed positions and made it work from her knees , but barely. When she was done, I grabbed the tailor’s tape and my girth was just over 5-5/8". She laughed and said that when she squeezed the base and held the skin back for her BJ that it was bigger still. She’s not one to have ever offered "cock praise", as she’s a frustratingly quiet partner, but I certainly felt 10-feet tall after her comments.

I am certainly ready to continue my life without porn. If I can leave a three decade habit in the past, then perhaps I can also help others; anyone here is welcome to PM me and allow me a glimpse into your struggles; shared experience is valuable.

Watch this TEDx lecture and see if there’s anything useful to take away:

All the best fellow men,

-Horseman1978-

Now, if we’re here at Thunders Place to grow big meaty confidence inspiring dicks, what could possibly be wrong with gaining 1/4"- 1/2" of girth in mere weeks? Sure, during my recent revelation about porn, I WAS hanging and pumping, but I’ve done that before and actually quit after a month due to my frustration that it seemingly "didn’t work". I was impatient and knew little better at the time, but I’m saying all this to point out that I believe my girth gains are not "Newbie gains", but simply the result of heightened arousal resulting from having a more realistic perspective on sex and my wife’s body.