Originally Posted by gprent
There is a big difference between where you started with this thread at non-ejaculation and where you clarified your position of ejaculating once or twice a week that just about falls in line with the healthy prostate recommendation of about three times per week.
I actually don’t ejaculate at all, and I have the most raging libido I’ve ever had. Worst case scenario, I do retrograde ejaculation which somehow manages to leave me feeling undepleted! But I was only suggesting to people who want to try this out but don’t think it sounds possible to just quit ejaculating.
On another note, many of you have probably experimented with kegels. This “squeeze” becomes instrumental in preventing ejaculations during sex. But one of the main things to do when making love if you don’t want to ejaculate, be present through the act and don’t fall into autopilot with your own natural rhythm. In other words, get into a groove that you create rather than falling into whatever your body does. This is important because rhythm is crucial to making love, but the natural rhythm your body will create is conducive to reproduction— not prolonged sex or even satisfying your woman.
Another thing I’ve learned is that, as I mentioned a couple of posts ago, pressure is built up in the penis through the sex act. If you notice, right before you orgasm your penis gets the hardest. If you are a Taoist wizard (or just someone really good at avoiding ejaculation), you can use this to your advantage. Basically, you can make love to your partner while meditating on not getting anywhere near ejaculation, then you can move the whole thing up a gear with a little trick that will engorge your penis an additional proportion. What you do is allow yourself to get right to the point where you are about to ejaculate (remember guys this is an ‘advanced technique’), and then prevent the ejaculation with a hell of a strong BC squeeze for about 4-5 seconds. Now you’re left with a boner that’s bigger and harder than it was for the last half an hour. You can imagine how your partner can appreciate going now to another level. And to think, most guys ejaculate in 10-20 minutes…. That’s ridiculous and not anything near what a woman needs!
Just imagine quitting sex whenever you feel like it, opposed to being forced to quit when you just can’t hang on anymore. And you knew in the back of your mind that you could have given her that moaning orgasm if you could have thrusted a few more mere seconds… This kind of sex is filled with the most orgasms! However, you will have to get good at avoiding ejaculation before you begin experiencing the orgasms associated with non-ejaculation. By the way, they are different, but they are better. Rather than the sensation of cum flowing through your genitals (which certainly feels nice), you feel a powerful wave come over your entire body and it’s just a jolt of pleasure it feels like your spirit is unleashed for that little while. And the great thing is, you can have multiple orgasms this way, and simultaneous orgasms, etc. You just keep going until you’re both satisfied and worn out.
For anyone who wants to start experimenting with this, I’m going to outline a few pointers to get you started:
1. If you have a partner, be straight-forward and let her know you are trying to avoid ejaculating
2. In the early stages of beginning non-ejaculation, do not get yourself dangerously close as this will carry over to your next sexual experience. Instead, get yourself to the point where you feel that initial sensation that suggests you could ejaculate soon, then back off. Maybe reach this point 1-3 times before calling it quits this time. (It might seem lame to quit like this a couple of times, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t pay off sooner than later)
3. Experiment with the deliberate intention of not ejaculating throughout the experience. When you begin, you know you will not ejaculate. Realize that ejaculating is the last thing you want to do because of how detrimental it is to your sex life!
4. Your goal in sex up to this point has been the biological necessity to ejaculate— Now you have a paradigm shift. Your goal now is to enjoy the sex, to satisfy yourself and your partner, and to avoid ejaculating at all costs!
5. If you ejaculate for any reason, pay attention to the state your penis is in after ejaculation. Notice how it shrivels up and how your sex drive goes away. And notice how your mood drops, and how this general state of weakness stays for up to 36 hours.
6. If you get to the point where there is literally no return, firmly squeeze the spot directly behind your testicles toward your anus as your body muscles contract and your body tries to release the load. What will happen is a retrograde ejaculation. Somehow this manages to save me from some of the negative effects of ejaculating. It’s a mystery how it works, but I use this as a very, very last resort. However, I almost always end up squeezing my BC muscle to prevent ejaculations. I might do this up to five times during sex. If you are committed to non-ejaculation, you will gain the skill of halting ejaculations with ease.
For clarification, I just don’t ejaculate at all. I might ejaculate twice a month just to cleanse my body, but I find no need to ejaculate in general. It is completely counter-productive, even though non-ejaculation seems counter-intuitive as we are hard-wired to do it. I’ve known for a long time that ejaculating was harmful to my sex life, but it was not until a few months ago that I really committed to this. One neat aspect to non-ejaculation is self-control. If you can control your ejaculations, and you are the captain of that boat, you are demonstrating in the most literally sense the virtue self-control. If you can control yourself in such a concrete way, you are the captain of your life and you can do whatever the hell you want to do. At least that’s how I feel, and avoiding ejaculations has been a great wonderful unexpected lift in the quality of my life.
I will continue talking with you guys and guiding anyone who wants to work with this. I guarantee if you don’t ejaculate for one single week, you’ll be hooked and your life will actually be noticeably different.
Humbly,
matutinal_euphony