Unleashing her sexual appetite

I know there are alot of men in long relationships and marriages here. I am in a six yr relationship myself. I realise that the passion and general sex life seems to diminish over time. I am curious if any of you guys have been able to “heat things back up” and how you did it. How do you increase her sexual drive?

Sometimes be nice, and sometimes, act like you were when you first met. For me, see “arrogant prick”.

For the nice part, doing a bit of housework or chore that I usually don’t do. Something not expected.

For the bad part, ignore her to some degree when you go out in groups with her. Stay away for some time and just check in once every while. Also, My wife and I have an honesty policy. If somebody flirts with us or tries to bag us when we are not together, we tell each other about it. It almost never ceases to amaze me when I adhere to this policy, and tell her about some skeeze and her trying to wiggle her way into my pants, the sex drive skyrockets.

On a sidenote liloveravg, I may not be the best source to ask. :)

So when you tell her that someone else was hitting on you, it heats her up? She doesnt get jealous?

She may get jealous. But remember, she is the one who I married. Besides, she was the one who fought for the honesty policy. Jealousy, at times, can be a great aphrodesiac. Also, it can backfire. What went unmentioned in the last post is when somebody pushes up on me in public when she is around. Jesus man, let me tell you, I get turned out something fierce!

Also, turn her down for sex once every while, or make her work for it, and watch what happens. Being a prick really helps sometimes. :up: :up:

“Jesus man, let me tell you, I get turned out something fierce!”

What do you mean?

S&G has hit on a very good point. Insecurity is a powerful sexual motivator for women, just as it’s a powerful motivator for people in all aspects of life. Fear of losing you, fear of being less attractive to you than the other woman. These are things that will ignite your woman’s jealously and cause her to stop taking you for granted.

Of course, nobody likes to go through life with a gun to their head, either. This is why the “nice part” is so important. If “being a prick” is your only means for heating things up with the old lady, she may see though it after a while or just tire of it. And I wouldn’t expect a lot of sympathy from her when she decides she’s had enough.

Lots of guys here have commented that PE really heats things up. Their women get off on their new size, and (even more) they get off on using their new size. Also, experimentation with new things makes life interesting.

Most important (IMO), is to not let resentment build. Resentment kills the female sex drive. Make sure you’re having fun together. If you’re not, figure out why not and fix it.

That is Gangster Speak for “I get my Brains Fucked Out”. Or, I get to play a game with her. I am the dog, she is the warm human leg. How is that? :sheepdo:

So how do you bring it up?

There have been times where I knew that a girl wanted me and I would never tell my girlfriend about it because I thought she would worry about me cheating. Just so you know I would never cheat on my girlfriend and I would never be with her if I knew she cheated on me.

Forget my points on telling your girl. This can work at times and can backfire. Modesto had a great point about good at times, and prick at times, when the time is right. Be unpredictable. As I said, do unexpected nice things once every while. Then, be spontaneous and confident at others. Once every while, act as if you don’t need her sexually. Once every while, act as if you don’t need her nurturing. Act like you are trying to date her, or not date her, instead of acting like you are comfortable and involved. This is what you should focus on.

A fun game to play is what I affectionately call, “Favors For Sex”. For example, if she wants to have some fat friends over that bring nothing to the table, such as food, looks, or beer, make her earn it. You say, I will participate in your worthless friends coming over here if you handcuff yourself to the shower faucet and let me piledrive you until it hurts. These are fun games that Hasbro and Parker Brothers failed to come up with. :D

Anal?

Lose weight and get hung.

I’m very fit and decently hung.

Women are interesting creatures.

First let me start out by saying my first marriage, of 15 years…nothing I did helped. I tried everything I could think of…no go. Of course when I told her I was leaving, then she wanted to try…too late!

My second wife, is totally different. I’m blessed with HER sex drive! Nothing like a gal that loves to be fucked!

Then, of course, you have to do a good job…and they’ll want more.

Now to add something constructive to this thread. I spent a good long time getting into her head to try to unlock some of the seething female sexuality that a good catholic upbringing locks away.

When we were screwing I would bring up different scenarios, and see her response. You know the standard perverts repertoires, dogs, group sex, seeing me with another woman/guy, doing mommy/daddy/aunt/uncle, etc. After probing the recesses of her mind (and other areas) I found she was as kinky as me (when I’m lucky).

Once you find the things that totally get her hot, then you can begin to play pretend with her and make her feel safe in exploring those fantasies.

I remember the first time I got her to pretend I was “daddy”, man, she came like crazy! Getting her to admit she found thinking about me fucking her and another woman at the same time was hard. She found it tremendously exciting and threatening. I guess she thought that if she told me, I would run right out and do it.

So, you see, they have to feel secure enough to tell you. Women tend to find it much harder to admit kinky desires than men, I guess they feel its unladylike and you’ll lose respect for them.

Another thing that can add a real “kink” is to get a camcorder and set it up to film while you see it on a monitor. Or a digital camera. The key here is to do it in a way that they know that it’ll never be seen by anyone else (unless they want to). Some women would cream their jeans if you took a porno shot of them and posted it somewhere (here, please) but obscure their identity.

So, in conclusion to this perverted rant…get inside her deepest darkest fantasies, ones she won’t even admit to herself, and start to play with them. Once word of warning…once you open that locked door, you can’t ever really close it again…hehehe!

regards,
Sparkyx

Dogs? Doing Mommy? Now that I stopped convulsing in laughter…

:worthy: :worthy:

When I say probe…I MEAN PROBE!

The deeper and darker that better!

Sparkyx