4.25” glans, 4.5” mseg, 4.75” above base, 5” at the very base (thus not useable). I feel you on the insecurity, 4.5” feels skinny to me (albeit only after I found out where I fall on the ‘average’ scale).
There are men here in the 3” girth range. Doesn’t look like it at first glance of these forums but it seems like the smaller guys are more reluctant to post, and it makes sense that the bigger guys like to throw out their stats and post pics whenever possible. I think I would.
A 4.5” girth will humble you, that’s for sure. But I’ve had good sex with women before. But I’ve only fucked young chicks, not mothers and experienced older women. This is where the girth becomes even more important (women have had kids and are looser, have had more partners, etc etc).
Devotion9 put it beautifully once: “Having less than 5 girth can make you agoraphobic. Of course 4.5 or whatever is average, but you are not likely to see those in porn, on the Web, or anywhere at all. It’s even less likely than seeing a 5.5 length. The big guys show. Overwhelmingly the girth creates the confidence and exhibitionism. “
This really resonated with me, particularly the first sentence.