Failure to get hard.

First time poster, long time lurker here.

For the past 3 weeks I have been unable to achieve 100% erection and I don’t know If the cause is psychological and/or Physical. This inst a thread on how to enlarge my penis ( although maybe some PE exercises recommended here may help, I’ll let you decide. ) But rather a thread on how to get my penis ’ working ’ again, let me explain.

Iv been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years, I haven’t touched my girlfriend or any other woman in this time, This led me to stay inside regularly and over the two years develop either a addiction to masturbation or addiction to porn ( leaning more towards porn as looking back the theme of what I was watching was gradually becoming more extreme ). I pretty much masturbated every day, for different periods through out the two years I would masturbate sometimes 3-4 times a day but I was still achieving not a rock hard but hard enough erection to still be pleased with. I should probably add my life style is not at all the healthiest, I sleep around 4-5 hours a night daily ( consequence of girlfriend in different time zone.) I smoke weed daily and my diet is not on point although I wouldn’t say I eat a lot of junk. My sex life before I got into this was amazing and I never had one problem with my penis.

Around three weeks ago, I broke up with my long distance girlfriend and low and behold that weekend I was taking a girl home for the first time since I was at high school. We got back to my place and started getting into business although to my surprise my penis would not at all get erect. I quickly blamed the alcohol and wrote the night off as a one off. Iv now been seeing the same girl since we met that night and every time we come to have sex I can barely get it up and if I do get some what ’ semi ’ erect it doesn’t last long. I can get I’d say 60-70% erect when I watching porn but just the same as when I try to have sex it doesn’t stay hard, neither does the head of my penis. It also feels in a sense numb? Before I used to get horny and my penis would naturally just grow and be erect threw arousal, now it seems that it takes alot of touching just to get my penis to ’ wake up ’ before I even worry about getting it hard.

I’m starting to worry that the years of constant masturbation have permanently damaged my penis, I don’t know if I just need to stop masturbating, give my penis a rest and keep trying to have sex until it finally comes back or if like I say the damage is medical and I need to see a doctor, would any exercises you guys recommended help?

I apologise if Iv broken any site rules by not staying on topic, Iv been familiar with the community here for awhile and knew these people would be best to come to on penis advice.

Thank you for you time, all advice greatly appreciated.

Donmayn.

Trust me masturbation will not cause any damage to your penis. I used to masturbated like 2-3 times a day.

Man seriously go get some sleep like 10+ hours and eat right ,do some exercise and in a month or so everything will be fine and stop masturbating for a while .

Psychological and physical influence each other.

How is your pelvic floor during the day and while attempting to get an errection? Relaxed or tense?

My pelvic floor muscle at this very moment is relaxed, id have to come back to you on erect, I imagine it should be tensed when erect?

Your EQ is bad… WHen you watch porn do you just cum or do you edge. Whenever I just had low EQ it was ‘cuz I blasted all my test immediately out of boredom all the time.

I prescribe strengthing pelvic floor muscles and edging. I don’t cum till i’ve edged 10 times. Each edge increases natural test production btw :) .

You have nothing. You are frustrated from breaking up with your girlfriend. I had a friend with the same problem. Could not fuck her new girlfriend the first two times. And guess what..He tried about a month after he broke up with her girlfriend. They were together for 3 years. He just could not get it up. And we are talking about a 30 years old man. After a few days he was back to normal again. Now for the practical..How much water do you drink? Drink more.Stop smoking weed and start sleeping more. Weed, lack of sleep, dehydration and sexual frustration will pretty much fuck up anybody’s erections.

So I suppose just stop masturbating, give my penis a rest and keep trying to have sex until it finally comes back is best and clean up my health in general as well. Its not the frustration of the break up btw If anything its frustration from not being able to get it up.

Not much to add to the advice already given - start taking better care of your health and it should sort itself out.

ED is upsetting and distressing the first time(s) it happens, so wishing you all the best with it.