Girl Tells You She's Been With Bigger

Its like when a woman asks if the dress she’s wearing makes her look fat. Usually it doesn’t make her look any fatter than she is. She just feels fatter that’s why she asked. Just like we ask about dicks when we feel small or insecure.

Anyways, the point is that it is the askers problem. Not the answer that they get. The other opinion will not really change anything about how you feel about yourself.

Don’t ask. There’s little upside.

Talking about how my wife looks has taken time. She knows I will tell the truth in a kind way.

I think your relationship is one to aspire too and not comparable to most others. Hats off to you bro.

I would just believe her and be happy that she said something so nice. Cocks are like cash you can have a decent amount of cash and the person will be happy but a little more cash never hurts. I was with someone who’s ex was 9 x 6 measured so she knows for sure and he tore her apart twice literally. She tells me mine is fucking perfect gets her off every time multiple times she’s a squirter screamer squealer, I have no reason to doubt what she says and I’m not huge. If the sex is good just be fucking happy dude don’t be a neurotic mess and if you are at least keep it to yourself and to us here don’t tell another chick ever that you think you’re not big enough. It’s too much power in unpredictable hands. The odds lie in favor of a woman destroying your ego with questions like that rather than saying something that makes you feel good. I was totally satisfied with my junk from the experience with this woman. But one ill-timed thoughtless comment from my wife has me back PEing again angry irritated and feeling insecure. The only time I’m going to talk about my cock to a girl anymore is if I’m asking do they want to fuck!

I’ve asked in the past when curiosity got the best of me, and I’ve never liked the answer I’ve gotten. Most times, woman will have had someone who is longer, thicker, can last longer, better looking (well, not in my case…I kid, I kid!), more muscular, etc. Most will also have had some who are smaller. Don’t ask, don’t tell is what I’ve learned. If you ask, you’re only going to make yourself look insecure, which is a turnoff for a lot of women. As long as you are compatible, both in and out of the bedroom, that’s all that should matter.

I have no idea how a female co-worker and I got on the subject a while back, but she said that she’s been with small, average, big to way too big. Her preferred size was average as too big was painful. What was most important to her was having a connection, mutual respect, caring for one another, etc. I choose to believe her, that most woman put many things way ahead of penis size, with penis size being pretty far back on the list.

I started doing PE for myself. I believe I’m pretty spot on average, but I wouldn’t mind adding a bit of length and girth to be just a bit bigger than average; nothing crazy, just a little added oomph! for my ego. Too much porn in my past still at times has me look down and question if I’m “big enough”. Porn is poison I tell ya!

I love all the responses guys! Such interesting perspectives, which is why I love this TP community!

As a follow-up to my post yesterday, my FWB and I had sex today and she wanted me to slide in deep. Yesterday’s conversation with her about size and different dicks (including the huge one) she’s been with, mentioned how the huge one hurt all the time but that I hurt her occasionally and it actually turned her on because it wasn’t all the time and was almost like a nice hurt to show how hard I was.

So today she told me to thrust deep and by the end she said she was in pain and actually wished she didn’t tell me to go so deep as she was really sore “in my organs!” She wasn’t upset because she wanted me to go deep but she said, this is why I don’t like long dicks and laughed lol. I kinda teased her like, oh how coincidental that this much pain happened a day after our conversation (that I originally posted about), but she assured me that she wasn’t just saying she was in pain to make me feel bigger or anything. And I did believe her- maybe I’m naive?

She was like aren’t you proud? Lol
I don’t like having her in discomfort though so I don’t think I’ll be going deep like that again. So whether it was a stroking of the ego after our previous conversation, or the fact that PE is working and it’s the hardest I’ve been with her ever which could attribute to being larger- I guess I’ll have to wonder! Lol

Great advice so far guys!

It’s not ONLY the size that maters. And not how you use it BUT , believe it or not, it matters what kind of character you are.
Especially in FWB cases. A woman will make sex with a friend if she feels secure with him.

Sex is not only about penis size. We men have that notion.
As I said before, would you like to have sex with a woman who has like the perfect boobs but everything else is not so attractive
or with a woman that has nice boobs and a beutiful face and nice round butt and a well build body and… and …and…

So it’s the same. A woman likes a man with a good sized cock but that is not enough on it’s own.
In fact men have an advantage. Women are attracted and value more our characters than we do theirs. Men value a womans body more than women do for the bodies of men.

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I have literally never in my life had a girl I was involved with talk about previous partner’s dicks.

It is strange to me how often it seems to happen to guys on this forum.
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Very rarely over the years it’s come up with a FWB or one night stand, not a real relationship that I can remember, I’m thinking guys are asking about it for it to come up so often.

We definitely are. Either directly or baiting answers with open-ended statements. I don’t anymore but when I was obsessed about my size and insecure I couldn’t help it. I’m better now. But man, it was difficult to disregard the concept of fishing for either ego strokes or damage (as it’s a gamble that usually ended badly).

Problem remains that anyone who really cares for you will shield your ego and if you know her well enough, you know she’s got a vested interest in protecting your self-esteem. So, guys will ask women who love them these questions and sometimes, the answers are harsh even if she claims she hated the larger penis and the man attached to it.

So really, it’s a validation cycle we create and that is ultimately self-destructive. Because, once she puffs your ego once. You will want it again and again. Dopamine is really consistent that way.

There’s a whole lotta truth right there.

I was with a woman on and off for awhile, without getting into specifics about our situation, I told her of my insecurities, at this point she had already told me that I was the best lover she’s ever had and that I’m big. I made the mistake of bringing it up again and she said how her significant other has, I quote “ almost too much” that statement killed me. Everything she said before that quote got thrown out the window, it no longer matter because it didn’t feed my insecurity. I remember tuning her out and saying to myself “ back to hanging tomorrow”. I have no idea what he has and to be honest this woman is so beyond tight that if he is any bigger then me I don’t know how he could possibly get it in her without her tearing. The only thing I can think is he’s longer but thinner then me because it takes work to get up inside her, and trust me I’m not a wham bam thank you ma’ma so I’ve put in the work.

To the OP you said your around 7 bpel I’m around 7 and either 1/4 or a 1/2 bpel I haven’t measured in awhile and honestly can’t remember, I range in girth depending on PE, health both physical and mental, without or without a cockring, so it can be 5 1/4 and close to 6 with a ring on and most of the women I’ve been with have said I have the perfect size including said woman above. But because I’m like most men here and I have insecurities and a competitive nature I strive for more. The question is on my quest when will be enough

I’m obsessed but not insecure (any more at least). Optical ilusions abound I can’t control what a women thinks she saw. I know what I have and I am happy to be working towards a larger unit. I’m a happy camper.

Lol!!

I have the opinion that if you are big but a poor performer, she’ll remember you as so so. If you are average but you drive her wild for 8 hours, she’ll remember you as huge. I could be conpletely wrong, but I don’t think dick size is anywhere near the entire picture for most women.

Maybe it depends if you want to be remembered for being good, for being big or if you just want to be liked. I know that you don’t need to be big to be really good. If your size is within that ideal range and you are a good performer and you are nice, then she can easily like you more than someone bigger. That appears to be the case of Gains4Gains.

But I don’t think that she will necessarily think you are bigger than you really are. Maybe the other guy will still be the bigger one, even if she likes you more. If that bothers you, then you want also to be her biggest, obviously, which maybe is a unavoidable bad side effect of doing PE.

I had a similar situation with the girl I’m currently seeing. She appears to like me a lot, but the last guy was bigger. I didn’t talked about this with her, though. She hates him because he just fucked her and never talked to her after that. But the way she talked about him to a friend (from whom I know now this), which included some size comments, bothered me to a point that I’m now here already obsessed with this, with a routine of several hours a day. It’s not healthy, but it’s the only way I know how to ‘solve’ this.

It seems like Gains4Gains shouldn’t worry. I would, but I think I’m wrong.

In my experience i can tell you for sure that women test us. Sometimes if she tells you that she had a huge ex, its simply a test and she will stare at you to see if you CARE. If you dont care you pass the test, she want to see how comfortable you are.

In reality this ex may be 0.4 longer than you and you will be bigger in 3 months of PE.

If his starting size is 7.3x6, the chances that her ex was bigger (volume) is something like 1/1000 according to the published research on penis size.