Girl Tells You She's Been With Bigger

Hey guys!

Hope all is well with you all!
I had an interesting convo with my FWB tonight. She was saying how she really likes my dick (I’m 7”BPEL and 5” girth) and thinks it’s a great size and wouldn’t want it any bigger. She was very honest and was telling me how she’s been with guys that were smaller and one guy that she said she figured was maybe 8.5”-9” and pretty thick. She said it would hurt very often with him and hat she doesn’t like thick because of the friction it causes.

I wasn’t offended of course as being FWB with her I tend to leave out any jealousy. However, of course, being a guy hearing about a bigger dick I think is something that can stick in your mind lol. She said that prefers mine and earlier in the day said it looks big and that she really does think I have a big one.

Naturally, doing PE (which I actually told her I do) it pushes me to want to get to a bigger size even though she said she thinks it’s a perfect size. She did say if it got bigger (as I told her I’m shooting for 7.5” -(and probably realistically hoping 8” lol)) it would be ok and kind of cool to see PE working but she said she really doesn’t like huge like that guy was and really truly likes mine.

It’s very nice of her to say and she said she’s not just saying it to be nice. So that’s cool but of course my ego now keeps picturing that huge dick she was with and it’s pushing my competitive side haha.

Without knowing her, how would you guys analyze what she said? Should I focus on how she was really complimenting my dick size and said out of all the ones she’s had, including the huge one, she likes mine the best? Or should I let it get to me to use it as motivation to push to get bigger, probably for my own ego, as she said she doesn’t need it bigger? Is it weird that she said she really likes my size but that it’d also be exciting if PE worked and I reached my length goal? Is that contradictory?

Just thought I’d ask if you guys ever had conversations with your girlfriends or significant other or FWB’s about this same topic and how it compares to my conversation, and any advice you can give.

Thanks so much guys!

Kurt

She has a culturally engrained pre-disposition to give you all the ego puffing it takes to keep you fucking her. Some or most may be true but her intent is to keep you as a FWB not shatter your self esteem. So whether or not you take it at face value, with a grain of salt or heavy analysis you have to remember she likes you and wants you happy so she does not want to be the reason you possibly be unhappy.

So there’s no way to analyze what she said for sure. Just the single fact that she has a vested interest in keeping you confident. And that she picked you over him or any other partners.

Thoughtful response thoughtful lol!

Yeah I told her, well you wouldn’t tell me if you preferred bigger or a different sized dick. To which she said, I know why you’d think that, but I just wouldn’t say anything to you if I didn’t really like yours.

I was like, well wasn’t that impressive because it was so big? And she said, well it was really big but I don’t like really big like that too much; it was nice but I don’t like really thick because it actually takes up my wetness and I have to use lube also. She said, it also hurt too much too frequently. With yours, she said, it’s big enough where it hurts me which actually turns me on, but it’s not like a constant hurt so that’s good.

So even after pressing her a little bit (probably my insecurities coming through) she still said that I have a great size for her pussy.

So personally analyzing it, my ego definitely kicked in and I felt inadequate hearing how big he was- which I think is a perfectly normal reaction. But I also needed to listen to what she was saying as she still said mine is big and she really likes it.

Interestingly, I think having the PE mindset and the desire for my dick to be better can overshadow what she was telling me. Naturally, doing PE, I’m striving for a bigger and thicker dick, and hearing about another big dick brings me to my PE goals in my mind.

It’s almost like it pushed me to focus even more on PE. I think I should focus on my dick goals and also realize that she told me that she really likes my size and said it looks big. Just because I don’t think it’s the size I want, my mind will naturally not agree it’s big. So psychologically it’s easy to think, oh maybe she’s just saying that, even though she said she was truly being honest, because my PE journey internally tells me I need to exercise to be bigger.

So guys, remember it’s also important to listen to honest feedback (as long as they’re not just blowing smoke) so you don’t feel insecure or bad about your dick size, and it doesn’t cause a negative impact with PE; as in, don’t let hearing about a bigger dick make PE symbolize that you’re exercising because you’re not good enough or big enough or that your girl automatically must want the biggest she’s been with.

Keep your thoughts coming guys!

I think she is completely honest with you, that she likes your dick, but you can make it little bigger, probably she will like it even more.But dont think it too much, women dont care as much as we do.

O.P. Please remember, every girl you meet will tell you she has had bigger,

This is what I call the Mars bar effect, remember when you were young mars bars were much bigger than they are now, but the company tells us the size has not changed for thirty years or more, same when girls see their first cock it looks massive. Once they have some experience they are better able to judge size but still them first ones always get remembered as bigger.

Just a thought.

I have literally never in my life had a girl I was involved with talk about previous partner’s dicks.

It is strange to me how often it seems to happen to guys on this forum.

We bait the conversation. It’s quite easy, as women seldom actually see it coming or care. I’ve only recently stopped. I don’t speak to any new women on the topic unless they bring it up. Which ain’t often.

There is little good that can come from bringing up penis size with a woman. The tendency of guys is to not believe what they say no matter the response and how truthful it may be.

Penis size conversation with women is very unpredictable.

When i was hardly 6.2 Nbpel one girl told me that i am 7. Now i am 7 Nbpel and another girl told me that i am 6.5.

I’ll bring it up with female friends (if we have that type of friendship), as I am curious to hear about what they have seen in the field. Most somehow do seem to have a ‘big’ story, although in most cases they liked it, but actually didn’t prefer it, either due to pain, or inability to have sex as often as they otherwise could. Still doesn’t change my end goals, but if a girl says she had larger, but prefers ‘yours’ (and you are already above average), I would tend to believe it.

Unless it is bad.

I lost that curiousity a long time ago. The information give has no bearing on my size or skill/ability. We know for the most part the average lady will have sex with the average size guy. The ultimate goal for each of us should be:

To be comfortable in our own skin.
Have a highly functional penis that stays erect.
Fulfill our individual potential
Be the best lover we can be

If that means growing some, than so be it. Size does not make you a good lover that a woman will remember. Being a complete lover that brings her to orgasms over and over is good start.

We tend not to believe the good. The OP is conflicted over what I would think is outstanding affirmation.

As I tend to say over and over again,
women see penis size as men see boob size.

Small is unatractive and you find something else to “play” with (if you actually want to have sex with that person)
Medium is ok and can do the job pretty nicely.
Big is awsome.
Huge is awkward.

Would you like a woman with breasts bigger than basketballs?
Maybe just for one try…..

My girl and I are pretty open and ‘weird’ when we talk about some stuff. I feel lucky for this. I don’t think there’s much that can scare her off…i told her about foreskin restoration and she was really supportive. She has told me that she has had longer, but that I was the thickest she has ever had. Which is kind of assuring because longness can be optically enhanced by lots of things (leanness, turkyneck, proportions)women are poor judges of bpel…but thickness can’t be ilusary when I you are getting stuffed.. she has commented that I have a ‘big dick’ but alas I can never believe it. I even joke with her that this is one long standing and complicated lie to pump up my ego and that she should keep her facts strait lest I catch on and poke a hole in her big dick argument.

Once when talking about a guy who had a small one (she held up a pinky), I expressed pity for him since there was nothing he could do (wink*) and that he was born that way…and she said that these days, there was actually stuff he could do “pumps and pills”, I said “oh yeah? you want me to get some pumps and pills?” …She told me that she’d kill me if she ever caught me with “pumps and pills” because I was big enough already and she had other things down there that need space “like internal organs”. ….*Gulp* good thing I don’t use “pumps and pills” but hands and clamps lol.

Buy you know what… I used to be really bothered by the the idea that other guys in the world are bigger. But now I just really enjoy sex and focus on being a great lover for her. (Maybe I am appeased by the knowledge that in time I will have a 7.5-8 inch stick and that I’m already thick).