I Relapsed Yesterday And This Is How I Feel

I relapsed on my 20th day, so that’s 2 weeks and 6 days. I had stopped watching porn but have had several fantasies and very vivid dreams. I don’t really feel the anxiety and shitty feeling everyone was talking about. Honestly I feel more confident now then when I didn’t fap, not to say it should be done every day or even at all. I have kids so it’s easy to get stressed and I’m not always able to get that release. I felt like my head was about to explode. Luckily for me I barely made it to my materials. So I guess I don’t feel too guilty. In today’s day and age it’s hard everything today is about the “quick high and the even quicker fall”.

See I’ve come up with this idea in my head that I do this on reset because I realized as I’ve been unemployed that I let my mind wander too often. I’ve become more aware now because of my relapse. So I I’ve come up with this idea where I use my brain as the board of directors everytime I make a big decisions. And once a decision is final it’s final. The board is just an in depth conversation I have with myself to see if I want to continue on this road or stop, but it has to be on the best interest of ME.

I know now that this is a Great War that I’m fighting and it’s so easy to lose. But now I have my head on straight and I’m ready to tackle this 30 days.

You have to fail to succeed and your post is indicative of the process that leads towards a more disciplined and thus rewarding lifestyle.

I relapsed many times. I was the type that would spank it 3 or 4 times a day. Amazing. I understood everything intellectually, but I couldn’t quit. Then something happened. I snapped. Call it grace. I realized that I didn’t want to invest my sexuality into pixels on a screen. To engage with them lustfully with a weird mirror every day. I wanted to pour myself into life, not this sad sad practice. I quit on the spot. It’s been over a year now and I couldn’t be happier (or relieved I guess you could say).

(I do use porn for educational purposes now…keeps my girlfriend on her toes…but I do it with pants on, never orgasm ton a screen..I don’t even get hard, my brain has rewired itself… (I love Pierre Woodman style, the guy is a master.))

It’s healthy for your prostate to have orgasms, at least three a week. I don’t understand the “no-Fap” crowd around here, but to each his own.

Same with the anti-porn set. As long as you understand it isn’t a documentary but like a fantasy Disney movie for men, I don’t see a big issue to watch porn now and again. Main problem is for guys who have little to no real-life sexual experience. They think it is “real,” so they get into this dumb mindset that the only measure of a man is the size of his cock. They also get a super distorted view of real world dick size, sort of like if they only watched pro Basketball they would think all men are 7 feet tall.

My dad always told me moderation in all things.

Best of luck, and don’t beat yourself up.

If you’re not spending hours a day watching porn, you’re going to be fine.

I agree 100%. It is really healthy for the male sexual equipment to get a “workout” every couple of days.

It’s not healthy to try to avoid masturbation for weeks at a time. Why do people think that is a good idea? It’s like they’ve been brainwashed or something that male sex activity is bad? Maybe it’s part of this scary new phenomenon of de-masculinising males, that everything masculine is bad, ie “toxic masculinity”. Personally I’m getting a bit tired of this “toxic femininity” in colleges etc that seems to be trying to castrate all the men in the world.

I watch porn here and there but rarely orgasm to it. I’ve been trying to save that for the wife and it makes our sex way more intense.

I get why people quit cold turkey. Moderation isn’t possible for them.

Good system! I do something similar, and look at some porn every couple of days but don’t even touch my dick, I just mentally “save up” the imagery when the porn sparks something that turns me on, then remember it later as fantasy etc during sexy time.

Ahhh, thanks for that! I understand better now why need to really get rid of the porn.

I’ve never had an addictive personality like with alcohol or porn etc. I just do what I want, whatever suits the thing that I want to achieve. It didn’t occur to me that people simply couldn’t stop, so (like alcohol) it could be good to totally get rid of it.

I still firmly believe that a healthy male needs to masturbate and orgasm a couple of times a week, even if he has NO porn in his life.

I don’t think is healthy to be flinging baby batter left right and center. Splashing the spunk like theres no tomorrow. Quickest way to make your hair turn white.

Every time you come you feel lethargic because your body has to start to build up sperm again and this is a big process.

The whole no fap thing for me is like a spiritual ephiphany. When one geta to the right point can be amazing..
Ask yourself why monks and spiritual gurus practise abstinence.. Its not for fun.

I find I have more energy to work out and combat stress with conserving seed.

The whole prostate thing could in my opinion be right and is not good to leave out exercise so why not kegel to exercise the p.c muscle doesnt mean you have to loosr precious fluids and give away your power.. Its what they want you to believe.. Ask Swaffel.I’m sure he will back me up..

Peace out masturbaators and jelqers alike!!
:)

The issue is lowering one’s risk of prostate cancer.

An orgasm a day could keep prostate cancer away, scientists claim
3:04PM GMT 29 Dec 2015

An orgasm a day could keep prostate cancer away, scientists claim

Study: Men with more than 21 orgasms a month lowers their risk of prostate cancer

Men having one orgasm a day could significantly reduce a man’s chance of developing prostate cancer, according to new research.

Researchers claim that while an orgasm provides pleasure during sex, there is a hidden benefit.

Once a day will reduce the risk of prostate caner by nearly a quarter.

It also provides a number of health benefits such as a boost in immunity, better sleep, and can even protect against heart disease.

Doctors say that sex itself is not required, just an orgasm.

What they found was that if a male ejaculates at least once a day, the likelihood of developing prostate cancer are very low.

The study data showed that the participants who ejaculated more than 21 times a month were at a 22 per cent lower risk of getting the disease. As for how men achieved ejaculation, it is not a requirement to have a sex partner. Whether it be sexual intercourse, nocturnal emission, or masturbation, all are beneficial.

An orgasm a day could keep prostate cancer away, scientists claim

So this information provided begs the question as to why frequent masturbation would lead to lower risks of prostate cancer.

It makes sense that cancer causing agents and free radicals would end up in this part of the body because after all it is essentially the tail end of our digestive system, as in, that which does not get processed by our digestive system would tend to settle there.

So I imagine an alternative to this sort of solution of frequently masturbating in order to speed up the expelling of fluids would be to have a better handle on what you’re intaking into your body in the first place.

Avoiding foods that are treated with pesticides, genetically modified, loaded with preservatives and sugar, etc. I think is a viable alternative that not only will reduce your risk of prostate cancer but other cancers that the study above does not include.

Increasing and staying consistent with your water intake will also help to flush our your unit as your body releases small quantities of the various seminal fluids every time you urinate.

Also, regularly detoxifying your body by various means would help with toxic and heavy metal removal.

So it’s my opinion that there is more than one way to skin a cat here, and getting to the root of the issues that cause things like prostate cancer rather than just keeping your body in a state of daily sexual energy recovery can be far more effective and beneficial to your overall wellbeing.

Yeah eating healthy is very important. But so is ejaculation. As I have said I am seriously into cum denial, but my cum looks very unhealthy if I don’t ejaculate a few times a week.

Whatever works for you, I guess.

Just my humble opinion but the “no-fap” and “porn-detox” stuff seems rooted in anti-sex Christian fundamentalism. I was raised as a Baptist and I have had enough of that crap. I do understand that some folks have addictive personalities. But most people can have a drink now and again without becoming alcoholics.

Wow !! This is more information I know what to do with lol. But I appreciate everyone showing support to the post. To quit masturbating isn’t a easy process especially when you do PE and touch it so often, but I’m fighting brothers!! Down to the last pump!