Kegels, ejaculation control

If I do kegels throughout the day to make my BC muscle stronger, what is the technique I’ll use to control ejaculation? Should I relax the muscle, or tense it up and not let go until I’m ready to shoot?

It varies with the person. Some guys feel strongly that tensing the BC muscle near the moment of inevitibility just sends them over the line into ejaculation. With others, tensing as you come near to thinking you are going to shoot can hold you off.

The best thing you can do is practice during masturbation; learn your own particular body sensations through the various stages leading up to ejaculation. As you learn to recognize them you can better learn to control your responses to them.

Read this article which will help you understand specifically what is going on during the whole event.

so that’s it? there is no solid technique. just learn to become in better touch with my body?

I can usually cum 3 times without ejaculating then ejaculate on the forth, and I find it’s got alot to do with PC muscle but I couldn’t say when to tense or not tense, it’s a very mental thing more than concentrating on muscles, don’t focus on cumming and you won’t, focus on pleasing her.

I’m no expert tho, just 21 and getting into sex properly.

cumming and ejaculating are synonymous. and, for the record, it’s BC muscle. and i like to think that i do a fine job pleasing my girlfriend. that wasn’t the question :)

So, yes. That’s it. Learn to be in closer touch with your body.

If there were a solid technique, we could all last two hours in the sack.

Level of ejaculation control varies in each of us. There are “norms” for sure, but a lot of variation within them. Some of this is the result of early masturbation habits. For example, men who for whatever reasons (no or little privacy usually) got into the habit of getting off very fast to avoid being discovered in the act tend to be earlier ejaculators later in normal sex life. You can retrain yourself if you give it time.

yeah, premature ejaculation really isn’t an issue for me. i’m just interested in being able to control it. despite the fact that its seemingly a non-issue. in fact, id like to be able to cum faster so as to get it over with and make my girlfriend satisfied sometimes. does BC strength/control equate to earlier ejaculation if this is what one wishes? or does it simply allow you to hold back the load that is inevitably created on its own schedule? (sorry if i dont make sense. im a moron.)

I don’t understand this whole philosophy anyways. Where I come from, “cumming” is the act of ejaculating. Hence since they are one in the same thing called by different names, it’s not possible to ejaculate without cumming or vise versa.I would reckon that what you’re claiming to experience is probably called by some other name. I don’t think it’s male orgasm either since from everything I’ve ever read that denotes an ejaculate expulsion of matter as well. Like I said I just don’t understand this “technique”. Quite honestly, I have little faith that it even exist either. That’s just my opinion on it.

Something I learned early on in my sexual life, and that I haven’t seen mentioned around here, is the idea of training ones mind not to be “orgasm oriented”. This was a concept that I heard a lot about in my earlier years. What it means is to get into the mind set that after ejaculating (the first time), sex is not yet over. You have to (want to) keep going. Don’t confuse this with being “multi orgasmic” that is the result of becoming non “orgasm oriented”. It also helps to have a partner on the same wave length. Will she go back down on you? Will she keep the excitement going?

There is some belief with most men that this ability leaves us along with our youth and at the same time.
How often has it been stated: We fucked for an hour, she came, I came, who the hell wants to keep going?
Who has the energy left. Wouldn’t you rather sleep, eat, or smoke? It’s a thinking thing, train the mind and the body will follow. Hit 40 and you start thinking about that drunken 8 hour sex marathon you had back in your high school / college days. Never under estimate the power of your own mind set.

One last thing to think about is that every sex survey I’ve read claims that for multi orgasmic women, after the first one’s out of the way, the others are easier and come in more rapid succession. Kind of like a chain reaction. All of my experiences confirm this. Then the real fun begins.

I don’t know if that helped with a premature E problem, but I can’t help but think that’s a lot to do with the mind also.
Of course it could be that it’s way new, way tight, and way wet. In which case you’ll just have to get use to those feelings - you lucky bastard.

Tork, men can experience orgasms without ejaculating.