Length Size Never Looks Like Ruler Measurement!

That is certainly the most enjoyable way to realize you made some progress ! I remember I have sent picture to my ex gf and first thing she said is “wooow, he looks much bigger now”, man that feels so good ! (Even though I did not gain anything but I was rock hard and good angle, but anyway there is no need to mention how motivating and encouraging that was.)

My sincere apologies to “Gains4Gains” for bringing this matter as it is off-topic, it felt somehow related so I wanted to ask, I hope you don’t mind.

All the best guys.

+1. The same thing has happened to me with my girlfriend of over three years. She tells me, every single time, before I penetrate her to, “take it easy”. For the last year she orgasms within 60 seconds of insertion, which never happened before. It took her around five minutes of good, hard pounding to get to the promised land previously. After five minutes now she’s had at least two orgasms, and is working on number three.

When I go in balls deep now, she makes a face like she’s in pain and sometimes says, ” are you trying to hurt me”? So I rarely go in balls deep anymore.

Yet, despite all of this, I feel the same way when I look down at myself. It just kind of seems average to me, maybe a bit above average, but not really big.

But the ruler and my girlfriend’s reactions tell me I’ve grown, which is good enough for me.

+1 regarding the reaction when you go balls deep!

My wife will sometimes show it on her face. I know then that I’ve gone full steam too quick. 😁

I am of the belief that it is not possible for you, as the owner of the penis, to really notice your own growth without some means to compare it to something. That something is usually a ruler or measuring tape but still.

No matter who it is, the same feelings come. I took ages to post pictures, because I didn’t feel I looked like I had gained any size. And only my very clear understanding of numbers tells me that these feelings are dead wrong but they still exist. I do not feel tiny. But I do not feel like I’m any bigger. My partners have made clear that I am, lube and condoms have made it clear but…mentally, I wrestle with it.

Academically, I know it. Looking down, it still is a challenge.

Thoughtfulgold - this is exactly how I feel.

The first sign (other than the ruler) was when I noticed the condom left a red mark as I’d gained girth.

I feel like i see a difference in the last 6 months to now. However in that time i have dropped nearly 60lbs as well as added .35 in BPEL and almost an inch in nbpel. However from the side it looks tiny as fuck still. I feel like my balls are too attached to my dick or something but from the side they are like halfway up the shaft whereas from the top it looks much better to me. I still have another 50 or so pounds to lose and have a 1.25” fat pad so i feel like there is 1” i can gain right there plus whatever i grow it. Looking at the ruler i feel like adding another 2” of nbpel will make a huge difference. I cant believe this works btw i measured the other day for the first time in 2 months and was shocked to see growth.

Congrats on the weight loss. I need to shift some bulk myself. I’ve thick tree trunk legs which if I could make thinner through weight loss, would make all the difference in the mirror!

JasonSt92- no apologies needed my friend! Your question actually ties right into my topic and really added a new dimension to our discussion so thanks for addding that to the topic!

I totally agreement with your assessments guys! I know that I’ve grown about a half inch in length and about a half inch in girth when I’m fully hard and have a good erect day, but it doesn’t look that much different. Now, I think if I went from 6.5” where I started to 8”, it would be noticeable to me but then again maybe it wouldn’t be as much as I think from my vantage point.

My FWB has noticed my girth and while she knows I do “exercises for my dick”, she doesn’t know that I’ve been using a Bathmate for the past month and a half. Sometimes I pump right before we meet up and it’s actually been times when we haven’t had sex but when she has grabbed my dick to touch it (which she always likes to do a lot for some reason lol) that she’s made unprompted comments like “it feels thicker” “I’ve been noticing it seems thicker lately how come?” Those comments were awesome!
Sometimes she’s made comments of wow it looks big but part of me thought she might’ve just been saying that to make me feel good, for instance coincidentally a couple days after I had asked about other dicks she’s seen and found out her ex from long ago was huge. So maybe it was just trying to make me feel better but she says she was being honest.
Comparatively, her saying wow you look big knowing her ex had like almost 9 inches supposedly (though women can be bad at estimations) seems like, how can I ever look big?

But yeah, I want to look aesthetically pleasing to myself to have that confidence and also to hear her make comments like that. I’ve also noticed she’s tighter when first entering and it seems like she’s gone a little crazier in intensity since I’ve been using the Bathmate for extra girth!

Like was mentioned before earlier in this thread but one of you guys, my balls seem to cling to my cock and because the don’t sag low, they can kind of almost distract from my length because they are high up on my cock which makes it look like the base of my cock isn’t as far back to my stomach, but more starting where my balls meet my cock.

Can you guys tell me- maybe we can get an average from this thread- how much have you grown in 6 months when you were still early on in the newbie phase?

Also I’m gonna put down my ruler and not measure for a few months like you guys mentioned. It’s gonna be so tough but maybe 3 months from now I’ll be more amazed at seeing gains than if I measure each month!

Nobody can tell for sure and exact regarding the gains, we are all different and our body adapts and grows differently, there are many threads where you can find answer or at least somewhat close to the answer. Lets say for 6 months of consistent and commited work you can expect from 0.2 Inch up to 1 inch, ofcourse this means it can be nothing and it can be even more.

I would give you advise, that many here will tell you the same I believe, you need to relax and not be obssesed with gains. This can only result in thing that you do not want, it can be counterproductive and it can lead to overtraining and toughening your ligs that eventually makes you even harder to gain.

I will tell you my personal experience, I felt like you in the beginning, although I was aware I need to take it slow and not increase my routine soon, I believe I crossed that line. I took a couple of weeks break and started really really slow, and now I am not even thinking about gains, I do not have any need to measure, what is most important I do not worry will I gain or not. I just let PE become my lifestyle, my routine… and I can tell you my sessions feels great now.

Try to ease your mind of that obssesion, just focus on your work and try to do everythinh correctly, forget about ruler, believe what you are doing is right and effective and after 6 months check where do you stand.

I know it is easier to tell than to do, but believe me you will feel reliefe regarding your mental concernes, and that my friend has no price :D

Really great to read these comments. I just started PE about one month ago.

I have not measured and I have no desire to do so. I feel very healthy, I have excellent EQ, and enhanced flaccid hang. Perhaps this is paradoxical, but instead of feeling my member is too small, I feel a greater appreciation for my member. It is the only one I have. It is unique. It is more than just a few measurements. We have had a lot of good times together.

Just piling onto the consensus that my unit typically looks no different to me when I’m showering or shaving perhaps because the proportionality has remained the same and/or my mind simply games me that nothing has changed since the world has schooled us that PE can’t work. However, where I can tell, is when I’m gripping it for whatever nefarious reason may be at hand.

Having had so many experiences with it solo while also constantly feeling insecure about my size, I always knew exactly how much of my erection extended behind & beyond the edges of my hand if I was wankng for instance. This is where I now note the difference (besides when measuring) and I gotta admit it surprises me each and every time, so ingrained is how things were for me for decades. Would be interested if this perception has ever changed for anyone over a long span of time?

QL

I’ve also kind of used my hands as a visual measurement. When I’m erect, I bone press my right hand into my fat pad and grab my dick. I then take my other hand and grab my dick and place my left hand right on top of my right hand. I have the top of my dick and my head that sticks out past where my left hand ends. It seems like since I started PE and when I have an EQ of 10, I definitey have more of my shaft and head that remains uncovered by my left had than it used to.

It’s weird because when I do this I think, hey this looks good my dick can fit two hands around it and still have some sticking out! Then when I’m with my FWB, she grabs it and it seems like there’s one hand (and hers are smaller than mine) and not as much for another hand as when I do it. It’s clearly because she’s not bone pressing her hand on my dick so one hand is gripping higher up on my cock. I always think, dammit grip lower so you can have two hands on it and it’ll look big to you! Lol oh the things we think!

You probably watch too many POV blowjob videos with 8+ inchers. The pro guys in porn sure don’t have the longest dicks around, but those who do love to flood the internet with their POV videos.

What about the empty toilet roll trick? That’s a handy visual guide if ever there was one.

Depends entirely on the roll of course but visually you can see how much is sticking out the top!