Hi all. First time poster. Been reading these forums for a couple years. I’m 38. I felt like it was time to post something here because I thought it would feel good to get my experiences out in the open to supportive people who have felt the same things I have, even if it were anonymously. Also, some people out there might feel validated or educated by something I say.
I have the fairly standard history with women that brings a man to a place like this eventually (not that everyone here has a similar history). I was never as large as they expected but I was not small. My body was 6’4” but my penis was average at 5.6 inches or so. Average girth too. So apparently it was disappointing. After having sex for the first time (college) and my girlfriend going back to her friends and telling them how disappointing the size was (found out about this later), the desire to make changes was born. This was further enhanced by her constant talk about her ex who had a huge penis. She would show me with her hands and stuff like that and, as you all know, this can be a very formative time in a young man’s life, especially with your first serious girlfriend.
I’m not usually a very emotional person but this type of comparison seemed very important to me and internally I felt very strong feelings of jealousy and betrayal and lack of connection to this woman who I felt very in love with otherwise. It felt like a slap in the face each time. There was also a lot of discussion about it in public and whoever heard it would ask the obvious questions about how I compare and each time was very awkward, as you can imagine. She was not shy about saying mine was “ok.” Eventually, she cheated on me with her ex with the huge penis and that ended the relationship. The relationship lasted a little over a year but the impression it made is ongoing.
After that I was always super sensitive about my size and avoided some situations where my penis might be shown in a non-safe environment. It put a real scare in me if anyone mentioned strip poker or skinny dipping or anything like that. I also had EQ issues sometimes, especially when it was my first time having sex with someone. I lost my dignity a few times just by being overly sensitive during some of these encounters. I don’t think I really need to elaborate on these issues because everyone here probably has at least heard all about them 100 times. Also, it is hard to type this stuff out and be real like this because obviously I do not ever talk about this type of thing with anyone. Ever.
Flash forward a bit. Over the years I tried all the herbal stuff and found out about jelqing but nothing seemed to work. So I was trolling the internet one day (not even looking for penis stuff) and ran across some Indian guy that was tying weights to his penis and leaving them on all day and he had a ridiculously long penis. The story said that he was impotent due to the damage the weights had done. My first thought was “I wonder how long it took him to become impotent, because if I can get just an inch or two and not be impotent, then I will be happy.” So I took some thin electric cabling and a sock and invented my own hanger. I put batteries and fishing weights in the sock up to about 5lbs and tied the ankle part of the sock tightly to my penis under the glans and did sets of 1 hour. I gained half an inch this way. My glans was always black and cold but hey, it didn’t fall off and the Indian guy can do it all day so I’m fine, right? No. Not fine.
I ended up getting nerve damage. One morning I grabbed my penis head and had the odd sensation of feeling a penis in my hand but not feeling a hand on my penis. My eyes shot open and I ran my thumb over my glans and there was no sensation at all. There was an amazingly bad, terrifying feeling in me that none of you ever want to replicate, trust me. It was primal, on a level of bad that can only be felt in nightmares. The sensation did not return and after a week or so of walking around super stressed out I considered jumping off a bridge and ending it all. I read about nerve growth and repair and about how nerves are extremely slow to recover from damage. That made me decide to wait out the storm. After a month the feeling started coming back. Worst month ever. Do not repeat this. Eventually all the feeling came back.
In my frantic, adrenaline fueled internet searching about penis nerves, I ran across this site. Since then I got a bib hanger and I have done some clamping. I have put on about an inch in length total and a quarter inch in girth. The information on this site is very useful.
I recently injured myself again. I put too much weight on the hanger and got a big thrombosed vein on the right side. It was a thick feeder vein so a bunch of little veins got clotted too. I didn’t know how to deal with this so I waited to see if it would heal but decided that it wasn’t going to heal after a couple weeks. So I went back to hanging. I should not have done that. My thrombosed vein did not stretch out with the rest of my penis and took the full weight and I felt my vein break in half and heard the most sickening sharp snapping noise I have ever heard. It haunts me every day. I thought that was it and my penis was just gone forever. But it turns out it was just a vein and I have a big bruise but nothing super serious. I am not PEing for a while now. All I could think of was “why didn’t I look this injury up on Thunder’s?” I would have dealt with it much differently if I did.
So that’s where I am now. I hope I’m not leaving anything out but I will mention it later someplace else if I did.