I don’t post a lot, but your thread is related to people like myself so I thought I would give my perspective and maybe that will help you understand some of us - although I can’t speak for anyone else.
I am at a starting size over 7” in length and a little bigger than 5.5” girth. I have always had contradictory feelings related to my penis size. On one hand, at times I thought perhaps I was big or at least bigger than average, but at most other times I have lacked confidence about it. I had most of the women that I have been with tell me a range of things. From one women an unflattering “well don’t feel bad, it’s not that you’re not small, it’s just my ex-fiancé was really big by comparison” - ouch! Almost all the other ones made flattering comments either to me or to a mutual friend about me. Another one or two said nothing at all. My wife told me before we got married that I was the thickest she had been with, but not the longest. I tended to discount most if not all the good comments and gave the most weight to the silence or the “I’ve had bigger” two women.
Perhaps it’s because my whole life I have been a small guy. I am as an adult only 5’7” at best and 160lbs. Growing up the world shows you bigger is better. I got bullied by bigger guys. The girls dated all the taller guys. I saw porn from a very young age. I saw myself as small in so many ways. Right or wrong that’s how I saw/see it.
I got into powerlifting I suppose because if I couldn’t grow taller I would at least get bigger and stronger.
When I sought to find out the “truth” about my penis size, I went to the internet to see where I really stood. I didn’t trust all the good comments I had been given and obsessed over the fact that my wife had had a bigger one than mine. She told me all our married life that I was big, well-endowed, large etc but her words that she had a longer one still haunted me. Why do I need to be the biggest? Like I said. It probably goes all the way back to childhood. I am typically a grower and not a shower too. That didn’t help my perception and confidence when I saw showers in the locker room.
When I read the comments like the thread about 5.5” being pretty damn big and saw stats on several of the sites that specialize in that. I half believed I was much larger than average and half didn’t. I was drawn to thunders because it gave me hope that I could become big enough that even I would begin to truly believe it. The guys here are so accepting, supportive and positive no matter where you start or where you are going. They even seemed to understand me and many of the bigger guys shared the same self doubts and lack of confidence in spite of statistically large sizes.
I have been reluctant at times to post being cognizant that others here were starting from a much smaller size than me and not wanting to sound like an insensitive jerk, but at the same time reluctant to acknowledge that my start size is quite good already because so many of the guys are so much bigger than me with or without PE that I didn’t want to seem too self confident because I know I am far from the biggest. So that’s why I am typically a bit of a “read and study and get inspired by the bigger guys” kind of member.
I haven’t been able to summon the confidence that I probably should have on my own, so that’s why I am here at thunders despite a starting size over 7”. Please just seek the wisdom here and enjoy the brotherhood of all the guys that are here for the same reasons you and I are - regardless of starting size. They want to help us so we can all feel better about ourselves and that’s a great thing.
Welcome and please don’t be too hung up on where people are starting or you will miss out on all the great stuff and reaching your goals.
Start: 2/1/19 7.5" BPEL, 5.75" MSEG
Current: 7.875" BPEL, 6.0 MSEG
Goal: 8.75" BPEL, 8.00" NBPEL, 6.68" MSEG