Newbie Advice

Ok, so, I’m 39 years old and new to all of this. I’ll explain my situation, any advice or tips would be appreciated. As many of you know, while this is a real problem for some of us, it’s also not one easily discussed. It’s not easy to talk about with friends and although we love each other, it isn’t easy to talk about with my lady either..

So, I’m 6’1” currently 275 lbs. I’m huge. Except where it counts with the ladies. Flaccid, I’m hung like a light switch, very embarrassing. Most definitely a grower, luckily for me, the growth is drastic.. I go from like 1 to 1.5” flaccid to a slightly below average 5 × 5 erect. (Non bone pressed) 5 inches exactly in length and exactly 5 inches in circumference. Not “micro” but also not very impressive. In my teens and 20’s, although I was aware of it, I rarely let it bother me.

Nowadays I can’t get passed it..

My #1 biggest concern is girth. I’ve been with 7 or 8 women. I mention that because although it’s not a lot of women, it’s enough to know that while I don’t have a ‘micro’ penis, I’m also not doing too much.. Let me explain.
In my 20’s I only cared about getting off and would get so turned on that just doing it was enough to get me there, however, I did notice that there was very little friction during sex once she was fully aroused. To the point that I can barely feel anything other than wet warmth. I will go ‘hard’ with little to no reaction.

Now, it’s all I notice. As soon as we begin to have sex I can’t help but notice how easily it goes in, how little she reacts, or the worst part, how little I FEEL. Obviously it’s external for me and internal for her, I can’t get passed it. If she’s fully aroused, I barley feel anything. If I don’t feel a ‘tight grip’ how on Earth can she possibly feel ‘filled up’?

I’m considering the newbie routine. I need to do something. I lose interest the minute we begin and then, out of embarrassment I get caught in a loop..

I wouldn’t mind an inch or 2 in length however, being too ‘skinny’ seems to be my downfall.

I know, more than anything, my issue is physcological, however, when her hand feels better than sex, there’s a real problem. I feel like a 1 inch girth increase would change things.. So my question is 2 parts:
#1 I just need to know: does jelqing work for girth? Seriously. Real results from guys in the same spot.

#2 this may sound weird, but if you’ve experienced an increase in size, how has it affected sex for you? Or her? I’m legitimately wondering.

SERIOUS replies only.

Same problem here. (I’m new to this too).

5’3 erect, at least 2 inches Id be happy.

Jelqing works. I have a quarter of an inch gain on girth and I noticed that when the same size condoms I used felt a little snugged. With one of the last two women I’ve been with, I could not get my cock in dog style and I’m only 4.8 on girth, which is smaller than yours.

I wonder why you don’t feel anything at all when a lady is wet when you are bigger than I am, although I can relate to less feel when a woman is really wet. But then, if I don’t use condom, I never have a problem of not feeling anything at all. With condom, to be quite frank, I only feel warmth and moisture. Perhaps, I should not use lubricant when I use condom; but then, even with my starting size, the thrusts feel more rubbery than mushy. The mushiness is reduced for obvious reason that if you stick your hand with a glove and stick it into the mud, the mushiness is reduced.

It may also have something to do with death grip, which I’m not accusing you of jacking off too much.

The other explanation is that you got very unlucky for being with 8 women who happened to be loose. Perhaps, the problem mostly is psychological and merely subjective. 5.0 girth is not small. And, it should cohere with the average-size vaginal wall.

Just because you don’t feel tight grip, does not mean she can’t get filled up: some women may grunt in pain getting railed by a 4.5 girth while some women will feel like it’s watching paint dry while a 5.5 girth is inside them.

I should add that sizes, warmth, speed and the force of thrusts are objective: they can be quantified. But the feelings one gets from the size, temperature, speed and force of thrusts are subjective. And this should tell you that the problem is mostly psychological—-not what you have.

If she’s wet at least you’re doing something right. focus on hitting her g spot and making her squirt and you’ll be alright for now.

In the meantime start with the newbie routine, rightfully named to teach newbies the basics and get yourself some gains while you continue your education to see where to go from here.

“#2 this may sound weird, but if you’ve experienced an increase in size, how has it affected sex for you? Or her? I’m legitimately wondering. “

Well it’s made it better, of course. Hearing don’t go so deep is the common one I hear since my girth isn’t on the up and up yet. It’s also nice getting texts the next day like, “Hey Big Dick musta ka na” which translates to hey big dick how are you? It feels pretty good to hear the girl say she’s soar too.

The downside, if you don’t have a big toilet your flaccid will touch the water or the rim of the bowl. Drives me freaking nuts being a germ phobe. Also if you get “big enough” I suppose some women may shy away from sex or want you to end sooner than you want, but I’ve only experienced this once, and I’m banging out different little Asian girls on a weekly basis.
Soooo not too much from the downside. lol

This sounds spot on to me. With a cock ring on I get past 5.5 and depending on wetness, position, and so it could feel a little loose. Which if a woman is fully aroused should happen. One position I’ve noticed always feels tight regardless of all else is doggie. Putting PE aside for the moment….you need to lose weight bro. Not being mean but your overall health won’t be good for long. It also plays a role for most men in size or at the very least the look of the size.

So, if I was you start with healthy diet plan and some exercise, get the weight down, and begin the newbie routine. Your girth at 5 is above average. I started below that I was like 4.75 not positive but somewhere around that. I wish you the best if you choose to go on this journey.

Thanks for the replies.

I’m trying to get out of my own head. ;)

1. Lose some weight.

2. Do the newbie routine.

3. After the newbie routine start girth exercises such as clamping and pumping.

If you do those 3 things I promise you in a year you will feel a million times better about yourself.

I’m a little older than you and in the past I was overweight and completely down on myself and my cock.

Doing those 3 things will require discipline and commitment but the pay off will be beyond anything you can comprehend at this moment.

Good luck brother :)

How romantic 👀