Overcoming Penis Shame

Just wondering if anyone has had to overcome shame from significant (or insignificant) others regarding their decision to take part in PE. My wife is aware of my wanting a larger penis and seems to be casting judgement subtlety. She seems to feel that because I want my penis larger that I’m going to go flailing it about for every woman to use as they wish (10 years ago she’d be right lol). How do I convince her that this is for me? I just want a bigger, heavier dick! What’s worse is she wants breast augmentation and when I compare her wanting this to me wanting a bigger penis in her mind there’s no correlation, women.

There is no way to overcome shame. Literally, each woman is going to be different and judge in a different way.

If she refuses see the correlation in your larger penis and her larger breasts, she just doesn’t want you to have any additional attractive factors to make you more marketable while she does want those same things for herself.

It’s pretty simple that way.

I don’t accept being shamed, if someone knows about my PE endeavors. But, you’re married so this is not the first option you can take.

It’s not as if I’m trying to lure other women or anything, we are very happily married and deeply attracted to each other. Maybe once I make some gains she will have less objections lol. Until then I will stay the course and maybe one day be able to post stats like yours thoughtfulgold.

Stats aren’t the problem. If she’s being scornful of something important to you then THAT is the problem. I don’t think it would get better if you gained. I would imagine a poor attitude would get worse if you gained if that’s how she feels now.

I know what you mean when you say “women” but maybe it’s not quite that innocent. I mean your penis is hidden in public, whereas breast augmentation is more on show.

Whats good for the goose is good for the gander as they say, but she says no. Might become an issue down the road.

If she says you should be happy with an “average” size penis, just tell her;

“Well honey, you’re AVERAGE looking. Would you like to become more beautiful? Or are you happy to just remain AVERAGE looking forever?”

I’ve found that women think about their beauty exactly the same way men think about their penis size.

It sounds like it’s her issues not yours. Be open and honest with her about the why you want to, which I assume is for you. I was always a secretive guy in my relationship with not just my wife but every woman I’ve been with. It took me many years to open up and be some what honest with my wife. She knows I do PE she doesn’t know the extremes I go to but she’s ok with it. A lot of women have issues within themselves and they project them on to their SO. It sounds that way here.

Update:
After half a 40 of rum on my part and a bottle of wine on hers we have a break through! Forgive me if my thoughts are cloudy haha.

Through reading some posts from other members I felt that I didn’t have to feel ashamed because let’s face it, what I’m doing isn’t hurting anyone and there’s nothing extra-marital going on. So with my new found (liquid) courage I built up the fortitude to confront her.

I was honest with her for my reasoning in wanting to take part in PE and she was actually very receptive. She actually thought I had a masturbation problem (huh?) and felt as though I didn’t find her attractive. I explained to her what PE was and that there’s a whole community of men who want to better themselves much like I do. I informed her that I became a member of Thunders, even offering to show her how supportive and non judging all you guys are.

As a side note the comparison of my wanting a bigger penis and her wanting larger breasts came up and she said she still wants boobs. That’s when I had an epiphany.. Mission titty fuck. As neither my penis is big enough, nor are her breasts large enough to titty fuck, we have made it our mission to naturally enhance ourselves with the end goal of.. You guessed it lol

Congrats on the breakthrough!

Yes this is awesome! Sometimes it takes a “relaxing” moment to be able to communicate, listen, understand and work with each other. Sounds like you perfected this one brother. Now your in, you have a wife that knows your goals and will be on the sideline with you. Just wait until she makes a comment about your buddy down there in the future!

You might try telling her that PE is just another way of building your ideal body to be proud of. A lot of people workout to sculpt their ideal bodies, something to be proud of. This is no different, both you and her are probably trying to become more sexually appealing as well. There might be a little bit of mistrust, but I don’t want to intrude too much. I hope you can get past this shame and be proud of what your PE

I just saw your update and am very happy for you! Congratulations. I will come back to this for inspiration in my future relationships when I face questions about my PE

Is breast implants a ‘natural enhancement’? Just saying.

Breasts can be naturally enhanced via manual manipulation and pumping.

SVP

Absolutely they can be enhanced naturally. I helped her do some research on natural methods. Apparently it’s possible to transfer fat from a portion of your body to another via massaging the fat to the area (breasts) you want to enhance. New girth exercise anyone?