TT saves the day!!
This is a BIG TOPIC, where two people can have two very different opinions. When topics like this come up, people become very emotionally involved with the ideas and thoughts being said back and forth. This can be a very good thing; it is essential for people to learn and grow together. But it can also be a bad thing; people take it to personally.
Bionic, I partially agree with your thoughts, but I believe you have the same problem I once had (and still have to an extent). You are very defensive, as I use to be. It actually took many people telling me this until I realized it to be true. I know my words alone will not change you, but I hope in the long run they will help you understand that being a defensive person gets you no where.
Many people are telling you to “keep this civil.” I do not think it being civil is the problem, rather you taking it from good emontional involvment with the topic (which helps people learn and grow), to a bad emotional involvement (which leads to hurt feelings and people being upset… which leads to people being banned.)
I am not trying to lecture you, nor am I trying to attack you. I am trying to help you, as you are trying to help the topic poster. Please think about my post for a while before you reply. After all, I did spend my time on thinking of the situation, and a solution.