Premature Ejaculation

Hey there,

I have already done a search here for ways to deal with the problem of going to fast.

I noticed that “regularwhiteguy” mentioned he had conquered this problem but I could not find out how?

Breathing control has helped somewhat but what I am really looking for are specific exercises or something to use to possibly fix this problem.

Thanks for any help.

Anyone? :)

I cannot help with the answer you seek, but give the guys some time, someone will respond. I promise (cause if they don’t, I go after them with my trusty baseball bat :) )

Just noticed this thread… I can’t spend the time right now (family about to get up) but PM me your email addy and I will get something to you before the weekend is out… You can beat this brother!

RWG

I posted a response to a topic a guy freaks out about ejaculating to early. Check it out. Its simply stoping before climax and then go on. Quite simple it is :-)

I’d say it’s all in your head. If you start feeling like you’re gonna come, just think about something unrelated to sex and keep massaging. See if that works.

ever read up on tantra? That might help you with your problem.

Hey! Thanks for all the reply’s!

The only problem with stopping and waiting is that she really does not like that. (I know she should be more understanding but well you know….)

That would be ideal, but in absence of being able to pause to wait till it goes away, I have tried many mental and breathing techniques and although PE has really been working in the size department (gained 1/2 inch in 3 month’s) ….the Kegels and such as well as anxiety have deffinetely caused me to have zero control and I tend to go in 5min or less, and stopping to wait is just not going to work for her unfortunately.

Going to PM RWG now.

So basically that is why I need specific exercises or something….for 1. To boost my confidence in holding off. and 2. To be able to actually not have to stop and wait.

Thanks again

Change position and you have your pause. If she complains just cum and sit beside her. After ten mins ask here how she liked this break :-) . And again you will start to need short breaks when training for some days and your orgasms will intensify for sure. Just kiss her breast and you have your break. She will never ever notice it. Check out the Tao and drop all those energy stuff and you have it.

I guess most of the Tao is working but it’s like Fen-Shui. The energy stuff is just for the uneducated to buy the idea, but the working has some real reason you can proof using science.

Well the problem is ….she DOES notice any pausing….I guess its the consant motion that she likes….and I would change postions but after 3-5min a change of position is not often that wanted either……I am sure there is someone out there who knows the proper way to masturbate or whatever in order to fix this….but I have not found it yet.

Thanks again for the reply

Dueska,

I know exactly what you mean, I think there are people have occasionally come early and some people that have premature ejaculation.

I think there are several things to look into:
- Firstly start doing a kegels. Except there are two ways to try out during sex: firstly try not to kegel at all. Doing so causes more stimulation of the prostate and causes you to come, often early. The other method is is to clamp when you feel like you are coming. There are plenty of threads about both methods for you to search through. If you really cant find any PM me.
The best thing to do is try both methods via edging, see which works best for you. I often find if I can clamp to hold off the come, then I am very close to coming again straight after. Not kegeling seems to work but its very hard to fight the reflex action, especially if you are sensitive.

- Generally from now on NEVER have a “quick wank”, I think there is some truth in the psychological factor. Time yourself, only come after you have earned it, at least fifteen minutes even if you have to stop and pause for the sensation to lessen.

- Viagra sometimes can hold off the urge for a little bit. Made no difference for me though. Might be worth a try if you can get hold of some cheap generics which is getting harder and harder nowdays (pardon the pun).

- Shag ugly girls. You won’t get turned on as much and you won’t blow your chances with all the hotties. (My attempt at humour).

Bye, and Good Luck.

Melv,

p.s. there are a couple of threads in my favourites you can check out under the “prem ejac” folder. You can see my favouries by clicking on the little icon under my post.

Also check the “kegels” folder in my favourites for a decent routine to try out. Having a strong BC/PC may give you better control so you know when to tense and when to hold off.

Thanks for that response Melvin!

The thing is, I believe the two main factors that have caused this are 1. Anxiety and 2. Kegeling

I have been doing a pretty good Kegel routine for a while and although it has helped with harder erections….it deffinetely has not helped in the Prem Ej department.

I am still going to try timing a hard kegel before ejac on my own…..but from my experience so far Im not sure if Kegeling is the answer for me.

Ok thats cool, but dont expect to do it first time. I still haven’t mastered it.

In that case I would try holding off from kegeling, during edgeing/sex. See how that works, again, this is not easy and still takes loads of practice. Maybe try and get some viagra to get over the anxiety too.

Why the anxiety? Are you new to sex? Have you ever had any erectile disfunction, even if psychological? Worried about coming early?

Also have you tried ejaculating before you meet up with your gf? This can often reduce that built up urge.

The anxiety is due to problems in our relationship, which I personally attribute to the sex but I am sure she either does not see it that way or won’t admit it.

Yes I do get worried about coming early now because it has happend the last 4-5 or so times.

I would ejaculate before sex, but recently I have really no idea when we are going to have it. (Because it has been bad as of late due to the early coming, and/or me pausing and her not liking it.)

Thanks for the reply again :)