Does "edging" help?

I can’t orgasm and keep going as I have to do it outside her (don’t ask…); my wood does indeed last for about 1-2min I think after I ejaculate.

I will start by answering my own question: I just measured my girth and after a month of NO girth exercises (Just stretching and hanging), only edging now and than I gained 0.5cm (I’m now at 15.5cm) - although I was doing it not to gain girth but to get my BPEL closer to my BPFSL, which hasn’t happened, and to be able to last longer in bed.

As kegeling goes, I noticed I have to stop kegeling while masturbating (or having sex) long before discovering what kegeling is - I called it flexing/squeezing my prostate. I still do it but not when I feel like cumming (at least I try not to).

After exercising my PC/BC I haven’t noticed any positive or negative (side) effects. Haven’t tried holding back my ejaculate while orgasming in a long time, but when I used to I always failed. Haven’t done it in a while but I will try to get back to doing it as it’s supposed to be good for health.

Close attention to the “point of no return” like the same suggest! It does not have return, you must cum!

Kegel positive = iron erection, sex for longer, more control over ejaculation (I usually waits my GF get very very tired, to cum on her face (REALLY COOL!))
Better EQ, erection hold for longer (sometimes when I cum it take about 15 min to my erection subside).

Careful with PE overdo, these days I ruined my EQ, thanks to overdo!

What is edging? I have not been able to find anywhere what it is.

Whack off until you are about to cum but instead stop right there and do not cum. repeat.

Let me try to explain how the kegel thing works for me, it is a timing thing that is really hard to teach, but let me try. It really isn’t when you start to feel the pressure or the slight sensation of the GOOD feeling, but it’s when you know when that the feeling might begin to even start. That is when you kegel while holding it as long as you can and do it again while still pumping her. Also, do you know that at that point if you ask your partner to pull your balls down and hold them for about 10 seconds, this may help you guys from ejaculating. You see, when you start to feel the pleasure, your balls rise and if she pulls them down as if to stretch them, this slows down things. You don’t have to tell her the real reason to pull your balls, just tell her you like it and it feels good during sex, but only at certain times and when the urge goes away, tell her, ‘Okay, thanks babe that felt good.’ Or somehow get her to release.

It’s all about timing and really, just knowing when it might want to start feeling good. You guys know what I’m talking about, but try not to think about it to much during sex cause that might fuck things up. Teach yourself. I know you guys can do it.

Definitely kegals but you need to re-evaluate your take on sex. If you are like most men you think sex is all about blowing your load. It’s not. In fact that’s the least exciting part to me. It’s all about pleasing my woman, to me. If you view sex like sailing a boat ( always looking for each telltale sign that your “sails are trimmed right and your sailing at your most efficient”) then you will be so busy paying attention to her reactions- both subtle and obvious- trying to find more ways to take her to new heights that you won’t notice how you feel as much. Watching her so intently will keep you excited but with the right frame of mind it’ll make you focus on “trimming your sails” and not blowing your load.if your mind thinks that blowing your load is the whole shebang then it’s going to try to get there as soon as it can- kind of like a hungry man goes for the fridge. Give it a different goal to achieve, and I don’t mean in the front of your thoughts but in your essential way of looking at sex.good luck

Good advice devilknight. I remember once I started edging by getting close to orgasm really quick to practice my edging more efficiently. In the end I started getting closer to coming in sex and just regular masterbation like my body was adapting to my habits. Now when I edge I do plenty of boring masterbation and stay away from that point for a long time before I even start edging, I think this is really helping. I usually spend around a little less than an hour on it! Lol.

Well I try to please my woman but I can’t really do it when I have to stop or slow down right when she is about to cum.

Also, the harder she moans (and the better she feels), the harder it is for me to contain my load.

This is good advise, but everybody is different, for some with discipline and teaching yourself, this helps. I can remember 24 years ago when I was in my early years of marriage when I felt I was going to cum quickly, I would start thinking of all the bills that needed to be paid and that helped. I think that is funny now.

This sometime happens to me too when everyting is just right….Haaaa! the bedroom music is so sweet especially when you are the conductor. You hear the moaning and the feeling of her getting warm and wet and the contractions of her pussy with the legs wrapping around you as she is sucking and nibbling and her telling you how good your dick feels. Done deal, fuck the kegels and everything else, because when it is good, it is dam good. The volcano erupts.

True that.

Does anybody know any way to desensitize the penis somewhat? Without the use of desensitizing gels or creams?

I edge and balloon quite alot but I cant seem to get past the incontrollable pc contractions when very excited. Is this purely down to PC conditioning?

There are condoms out there that do it.

There are also a few “sprays” that you can buy at sex shops that desensitize you. I’ve heard they can desensitize your partner too, so be sure to read the instructions.

Thats what I mean though, without the aide of gels or creams or condoms with gel in. I mean natural ways to make your penis slightly less sensitive in certain areas…

Mattress humping! This method of masturbation seems to work well - too well if overdone, but thats a long way to go.

I mean: As mentioned repeatedly in the lately abundant threads about “cannot cum whatever I do” this seems to be the key to the problem. But it only gets a problem for some - most mattress humpers dont have any serious problems but just can go for a long time.

I for myself am pretty happy with my “condition” which sometimes makes it hard to orgasm (mostly when I take drugs) but mostly makes me a lover who is able to go for a long time.

Reverse kegels make it so that you don’t do kegels. I say do them during sex and your body will get used to doing them so you wont have those contractions anymore unless you do them on purpose. I feel like I have had a fair amount of success on limiting my contractions which used to be pretty frequent. I’ve heard that most people say reverse kegels help, while some say that it makes them come quicker, so find what works for you.