Going limp during sex = Veinous leakage?

Although I seem to be lasting longer in bed these days, another problem is rearing it’s ugly head.

The past few times we’ve had sex, I’ve gone from gentle pumping, grinding, and nudging, to all-out captain caveman style, hard and fast fucking. The problem is, that after a while I start to go limp, and to both our frustrations, have to stop.

The only place I can really feel anything is around the sweet spot.

When we stop, she’ll start wanking me with her hand and I’ll get hard again, penetrate her, and before long I’ll be going soft.

The reason I’m posting this in the Main Members Forum is because I wonder to what extent this is related to my PE (specifically jelqing) endevours. Condoms to play a large role in this, but I wonder if I was fucking without condoms, if I managed to fuck for a while without blowing my wad, would I start going limp?

If so, could this have something to do with veinous leaking from jelqing? I’ve read about this phenomenon, and wonder if anybody else has found that through an increase of size from jelqing, they have more difficulty maintaining an erection.

I certainly do get some loss of sensation in the sides of my shaft from the wet-jelqing I do, and this is probably a large contributing factor (tendency to be a quick shooter + loss of sensation in the sides of the shaft = penis confusion!)

I have been on a new kegelling regime of late, that doesn’t seem to be helping very much in this area. It has however been making me shoot HUGE wads of man chowder.

Cheers
Zig

Hey Zig with all thats been happening with your problems with prem ejac ect.. It could be down to anxiety. Although you are lasting longer know, you probably still have some anxiety when your having sex, and this could be the factor that is contributing to your loss of errection.

Also while having sex you could try focusing on her body parts that turn you on visually, this might help you stay hard.

good luck mate.

if you masturbate often this might cause some problems. Go a couple of days without masturbating or having sex and see if that helps with the erection problem.

Hey 79

The anxiety thing doesn’t help, I know. The thing is though, I get hard pretty quickly when she’s handling me manually, after I go limp.

Thinking about it, though it’s probably not veinous leakage, but I think loss of sensation from wet jelqing is definitely a factor.

sublime,

I’m hardly masturbating at all at the moment. When I do, it’s a prolonged edging session that, if anything, would surely be helping me have hard-ons for longer periods of time.

Sorry to hear that Zigg,

I have two thoughts, only you can figure out if they pertain to you.

1. If you are trying mentally to last longer perhaps you are so mentally detached that you lose interest
and forget to enjoy the sensations that keep your love sausage hard.

2. You didn’t say how long you are pumping like a wild monkey in heat, but this could cause a slight
desensitizing of your joy stick and there go the sensations.

Don’t think too much buddy.

Good luck!

Could you be suffering from a lack of stimulation? Perhaps you’ve tried so hard to curb your premature ejaculation that you’ve swung all the way to the other extreme—lack of stimulation.

When you feel yourself starting to go limp, give your penis permission to feel some pleasure. This would be a good time for slower, deeper strokes, deep kissing, and generally allowing yourself to get turned on by her. 30 seconds of that may be all you need.

Oh, and try to be more playful. Your relationship with this girl seems to go from one anxious concern to another. Perhaps there’s some element of communication that you two could improve to help you both relax and have more fun.

:) Thanks SirLotsalog!

It’s ok. I’m trying not to stress about it all too much, but it is a bummer that I still haven’t got this beautiful young girl off the way I’m sure I could, if I could conquer these little problems.

I don’t think so, if anything, for a while when I’m humping away like a frenzied bonobo chimp on crack, I have to stop start because I’m stimulating my sweet spot and I feel like I’m going to shoot my bolt. Then I start to go limp.

She loves it when I’m pounding away really hard, and I love watching her getting off and those big old titties swinging around.

LOL. True, it has been a rollercoaster of anxiety, but on the plus side, I’m learning so much about myself at the moment; it’s all good. She’s being very patient and sweet with me too.

Maybe it’s not you Zigg.

Not all women naturally know how to orgasm.

She may need to get in touch with her own body and responses.

Or she could be like my current wife who only has one big orgasm and that is by clitoral stimulation.

My first wife was so multi-orgasmic she once came during a gynecological examination.

Everyone is different

You aren’t solely responsible for her orgasm.

Cheers

Maybe theres an underlying psychological barrier that has recently been put in place that you are unaware of

Hey zigg maybe you need some time off if I was in your shoes I would take 2 months off and not PE and give my dick time to heal.

Zigg: yes, it is possible that something pertaining to your PE could be causing the problem.

It could be that the frequent self-stimulation and even desensitization of nerves from PE could be affecting you. Or yes, I DO think veinous leakage is possible. I would have to say I have more “going limp” problems since PE than I did before, and I don’t know why, but I think it’s probably PE. This being said, I really want a huge dick so I CAN’T STOP!

But - if it’s really bothering you - I bet Dino is right that if you lay off for awhile you’ll be back to normal, whatever the problem is.

Hi Zigman,

I have had some of this and mine was for sure in part to the “take myself off somewhere - out of the moment” to stem a quick shot - only to carry it too far and then go limp. I do think it has been more of a problem after I became a regular PE’r - but like others I just know more of me would be more pleasing to me and her? lol I used to be able to go for an hour or so controlled before orgasm and then it was a decision when to give in - life was great. Then I have gone over in the last 4 months (at her request) or so to the other side that says “give in to it - you can rein it in at will” only to find I either strain to hold it back and slip over the edge anyway without the normal fantastic feelins/sensations or win in my efforts only to go limp before I “decide” to let go. And the goofy thing is that I do PE, try to have good control, and a good technique for my own pleasure. Or so I tell myself - funny thing is it is her response to my actions I hinge my satisfaction on and worry about what she likes the best and disbelieve the answers I get - so who am I fooling?

Welcome to the edge!

Zig, I doubt very much that any kind of sensible jelking could cause venous leakage; if anything, it could help reduce it, if you already had it.