Is It In Yet????

They probably know pretty well how to play the dick size game too. No oops about it.

FYI: females are not a seperate race. They are part of the one we belong to. The very same one.

That type of thinking is where communication begins to break down. The idea that women are some sort of creature alien to ourselves. They aren’t. There are differences, to be sure, some major differences in certain physical and emotional aspects, but there are many more similarities.

It’s a question of focus.

Men and women both get caught up in this. No argument there. There is a tendency to be shallow that runs through the human race; just as there is the awareness that we are being shallow if we really stop to think.

Like I said, we’re all searching for a balance of elements.

Super pussy. I like it. :thumbs:

We agree on this point. We all can get caught in our own shallowness, irrespective of our sex.

The thing that I want Axrhstos to take away is that his own mind helped create much of the damage that her stray (and thoughtless) comment provoked.

PE is great, but it can only do so much.

When our pride is stepped on it is up to us to find ways of coping with that. When it has to do with an interaction between two people communication will go a long way and is ultimately the more valuable asset than simply getting a big cock.

I’m not suggesting that PE be discarded. It can certainly be an aid in regaining a sense of control and self-confidence, but what he described had psychological implications that PE can’t fix.

Some people definitely push buttons: no oops about it. Agreed.

The conversation Axrhstos described was not of that stripe from the way he told it. It almost seemed that she was giving him a compliment, but caught in a memory and had a whistful moment.

There is a difference when something is being said to be spiteful or to gain power.

If there are other problems in the relationship that is the indicator. This particular story did not have that element.

That’s happened to me, a woman assumed that I was drawing a comparison that I really wasn’t drawing at all. Jealousy is an ugly thing. It can really fuck with you, and make you unreasonable.

Even so, my point to him of replaying it in his mind over and over (while having sex? Crazy!) is the same. Why do that to yourself?

It should be dealt with between both individuals. If one or the other is unwilling to deal with the other in good faith it says more about the relationship and less about the size of the dick in question.

And if a relationship is in that much trouble no amount of dick will fix it.

Anyway.

Pardon my reaction.

I don’t mean to derail this thread.

I certainly agree that sometimes women can be cruel with regard to this issue; even as we are cruel to ourselves.

I have to leave for an appointment, but I’ll come back to this thread with a few of my own stories.

The game of love can be rough.

On that I think we all agree.

On communication, it appearantly doesn’t take male vs female to see things differently here.

OK, that’s how it reads to you. The way I look at it, I’d bite my tongue twice before ever so lovingly forking over a mention of an ex’s extra tight pussy, regardless the context of that conversation.

It’ll be interesting to hear your stories, Happy.

Later

Axrhstos,

Great first post! Welcome to the forum. May your time here bring you a bigger dick and a more positive attitude toward the one you already have.

Well said Para!

Where are my manners?

Definitley welcome to Thunder's Axrhstos.

It is a actually a very good first post - both in terms of being open about your own experience personally and generating some healthy debate (which some of us here can get a little impetuous about :rainbow: ).

Anyway, I’m glad you’re here and posting.

Like Para said: let’s look for any and all improvement where we can.

Glad to have you aboard.

It is pretty funny though. Axrhstos is a greek word typed in english letters.

Welcome Axrhstos, nice story.

As for the comments,

Mr. Happy, I am with Dinno on this. Such matters are delicate and it is up to the character each one has, when it comes to how they deal with them. I don’t think this was good at all. And ,as far as I am concerned, I won’t give credit to someone if he has not convinced me he deserves it. So, women or men, should be careful when touching such subjects and if not it is just bad. But there is some difference, I don’t care for men sexually, so…

But on the rest of the comments, I agree with you , why do this to yourself ?

And to be on topic :

I haven’t really had any bad experiences (even though I am 6.30x 5.30, which with a bad erection can ‘feel’ really small). Or actually I did, but they never influenced me. I ‘ve heard many of it :

“Is it in yet ? “
“Sometimes you seem to be very small.”

But I never felt bad about it, I mean, why ? Since I could make her orgasm and feel good, since I cannot (I thought to myself back then) change my size, she has to make a choice. And staying with me and not bitching about something like that is a choice to be near me, end of story.

What influenced me badly, but didn’t last long, was when a girlfriend for who I had very strong feelings, cheated on me. And she did cheat on me 2 days after having worse sex we ever had. I was somehow angry with her and couldn’t perform well, so I gave up. I knew it was basically my fault for acting really stupid after I gave up. But still, I kept thinking, that guy must have some kind of sexuality I didn’t have. I was ,for the following weeks, thinking of them having sex. I was weak emotionally, since it was one of my first sexual relationships with females and I took it too bad. So, after the first months passed, after I quit tormenting myself and got back on track, she calls me. She wants to see me. She comes over my house and we are discussing. I am relaxed (I made my peace with what happened) and she is too nervous. I try to make her feel better and I manage this on some level. So while she talks, she starts saying all the things she misses about me (understanding, communication, etc) and I realise, even if sex with the other guy was better, even if she left me for such a reason (as perhaps bigger penis), this was something she regretted. All thoughts about others performing better sexually and me losing girlfriends for that reason left my mind. My size related doubts too.

Since then, when I found Thunders (I was reading about PE for 6 years, occasionally, out of curiosity), I thought to myself that many other things about human relationships are more important, but having a bigger , stronger, healthier penis can do no harm.

So here I am.

Exactly.

It’s not necessarily a male vs female thing. It’s a communication thing. Here we are trying to make ourselves understood. Hopefully we can.

In that situation something got disconnected and the understanding failed.

I would hope so. I’d hope anyone would.

Given what we know of this story, I’d bet this woman would too under most circumstances. Maybe not, maybe she’s the type who puts her foot in her mouth, as some folks are want to do.

Personally, I’m picturing them at dinner after a couple of glasses of wine and she let’s that one out without realizing it. C’mon we’ve all said things that are uncharacteristic of our better nature at one time or other.
Depending on the circumstances it could be that she was relaxed enough and trusted him enough to share that without realizing that it invited a comparison.

Perhaps Axrhstos you could clarify this point?

Just so you, workingout or anyone else is not confused: even in a best case scenario this was not a good thing for her to say. But it is not (or should not be) the end of the world.

I’m not saying we should tolerate insensitivity or allow ourselves to be walked on, but rather find ways of reconnecting ourselves to people we care about when we feel distanced by their insensitivity.

Sometimes that’s not possible.

If she was disatisfied with her sex life with him and was speaking out of a passive aggressive need to express this it would be hard to come back from. But what if she wasn’t? Then he harbored anger and insecurity on his own and made no attempt to work through and get past his feelings with her (rather than in isolation), and took her insensitivity and turned it into a monster.

Perhaps that’s avoidable.

I’m not all bad.

With your girth this says more about their arousal level and expansion than it does your dick.

There’s self-torture here as well.

You don’t know if the sex was better (I bet it wasn’t, just more exciting at first because it was new), or if he had a bigger dick.

That’s your imagination at work.

By your stats you’re a little +average length and above average girth, which equals above average overall.

You were both young. The problem was she cheated: her not you. It sounds like she snapped out of it and you were forgiving.

She was lucky to have you.

I’m glad you came to the other side. Well done.

PS: Paragraphs my friend, paragraphs.

Oh Oh!! My turn My turn!!

Well,

Once upon a time… .

It wasn’t until I was in the military that I realized I had a small dick.

But even then it didnt matter because I didnt really dwell on it enough to bother me.

Until one day I was getting head from this girl and she looks up and goes “boy it’s narrow” She immediately realized what she said was rather mean and she honestly didnt mean for it to come out like that.

She immediately followed it up by saying “it’s definately long enough though”

Which I knew was a crock of shit, because I don’t think I was over 5” if I even was 5”.

But I stayed quiet and fucked her anyways and never called her again.

After the military it gets bad.

I get into theatre (the parties were insane)

During shows or rehearsals or just everybody being in the same place at the same time was just a reason to fuck everybody else.

I’m not gay, but if anybody knows about theater then they know that 90% of the people in it are.

Which was fine because it meant more pussy for me. (Ended up being a curse)

Well me and a group of friends after a show went to Disney.

We all got fuuuucked up.

Anyways we were sitting in a Disney hotel jacuzzi, nice and hot and drunk.

And we get a dare to see who would go streaking through the hotel.

Yup, I do it.

Well needless to say that after sitting in a steamy jacuzzi and running into a chilly air conditioned hotel sopping wet, I guess you could say shrinkage was a factor. BIGTIME!!

My good friend that ran with me was smart enough to bring a towel.

Everybody saw me and he covered up.

Even though they saw me they werent looking at it, and most turned their heads while calling me a drunken dumbass.

So they joke of my little dingding began between me and my good friend.

Who incidentally was even smaller than me, which what was the joke between us.

Well throughout the months and partying we would occasionally make jokes at each other and yep, you guessed it, somebody overheard it and told everybody.Then all of a sudden all these girls I’m fucking are saying stuff about my little dick thinking it’s cute. Before long I wasn’t fucking as much as I was, and soon after that I was looking for new girls to find a girlfriend and just have her, and hopefully keep her away from the jokes.

Nope, not gonna happen.

Didnt take long for depression to kick in and realize I really did have a small dick. And went from never thinking it to obsessing over it.

Off I go to fix a problem I didnt know could be fixed.

Whats the first thing I find.

A penthouse with an advertisement for penile surgery.

I was on it.

Working extra overtime to get enough money for the surgery, and off I went to Houston to fix my “little” problem.

Doctor said “what do you want”

I said “Do what you gotta do to make it big”

Damn I’m an idiot.

(The story of my surgery disaster is in 8balls thread if you wanna read it)

To make this rediculously long story shorter I’ll cut to after the surgery disaster.

So here I am now with an even smaller dick with a scar twice as big as my dick, and still no help in sight.

I disappear from the theatrical scene for a few years, found a nice tiny petite asian girlfriend (who left me because my dick was to small) and found my first online penis enlargement site. (Paysite of course)

Thought my prayers had been answered.

Tried various routines and exercises and nothing.

For months I tried, but no go.

Finally I gave up with only the knowledge of jelqing.

I continued off and on for years and did get up to 5 1/2”.

Enough to feel confident since that was the biggest my dick ever was.

Auditioned for another show, and the parties began.

Wasn’t long before I was naked delivering pizzas to neighbors houses from a truth or dare game.

Needless to say everybody saw me naked again.

The jokes didnt go away,but I was able to handle them better, since I found a new confidence from my size.

Then if anybody made a comment I would just say “well lets see what you got” and drag him into the room and make an ass of him by saying ” I guess my dick is small but I feel it’s big enough to flaunt, lets see why he won’t flaunt his.”

Girls giggling all over and of course nobody was brave enough to match me.

(Goes to show what the standard size was, if I’m brave enough to show it and they arent.)

Well after a while guys started to understand and respect the code of silence about other dicks.

But the girls they just think it’s the funniest thing in the world.

But they all love fucking me. :)

It’s been a couple years now since I partied like that, and during that time I found Thunders.

And my postworkout size hits anywhere from 61/2 to 6 3/4 in length.

And 5 to 5 1/4 in girth.

I’m not whipping it out til 7x5.5. Then lets see the jokes. (Oh and thats nbp)

First I just need to break this fucking plateau, or I’m going to be to old to party.

pocopeepee

Good story Bro, chicks can be cold but it sounds like your on your way to a big dick and I hear you on plateau thing it’s hard to break them sometimes.

pocopeepee

That’s an awesome story (I’m a sucker for stories that begin “Once upon a time …”).

It sounds like you really went the gamut. And, having read your surgery story, I have to say that you have GREAT personal strength and perseverance.

It just goes to show that with the right attitude anyone can accomplish anything.

That’s what’s important.

Rock on my friend. :thumbs:

Sounds to me like he got plenty of play from the chicks, and an equal amount of shit from the guys (except his friend with the towel - he had his back … or his front - whatever, you know what I mean :leftie: ).

Let’s face it everybody can be cold.

And as far as chicks go, if they’re giving you shit but loving fucking you, then they’re just busting on you cause they know you can take it. It just proves confidence is very attractive and dick size not always a high female priority.

As our own DiamondWinds has said: “Your more than your penis so your not just a dick to me.”

pocopeepee you’re a real trooper.

I wish you luck with your PE efforts and I’m sure you’ll do well.

Thank you Dino9X7 ,Mr. Happy , WorkingOut and Para-Goomba for your wellcome and your interest.
Originally Posted by Mr.Happy : ” I got news. Your ejaculation delaying technique proves that you were already WAY “overthinking” this little episode.

Why on earth would replay that in your mind? Especially while having sex!!

No wonder your relationship was never the same. You were actively torpedoing it while you were having sex! What were you thinking, man?”
Apparently we aren’t all thinking in the same way. Maybe I my reaction was extreme, but I think that if I had heard the exact same story from a friend I would have told him that thinking it during sex is way too much. Being the protagonist of the story though, changes things radically.. I mean I am normally a sensitive person ( I manage well to hide it though ) I used to have a very good opinion about my skills at bed, and that statement of hers ruined that all. Yeah, I agree bringing that thought up on sex is not the best thing for our sexual life, but that’s how I react. I was hurt -badly- and things would never be the same ; I don’t care if she was honest and stuff, I mean I appreciate it but she admitted that she loved the cock of the one night stander, and the look of her face was something like ‘memories from heaven’ . Why did she -in front of me- admitted that she LOVED something I could not provide her? She did not mention orgasms or anything , just the penis thing. If she liked a well shaped body, I could work hard on the gym for that, if she liked a different dressing or hair style , I could change mine ; but cock?? I could not change my cock , and she lusted the only thing I could not change for her( unaware of PE at that time), I was bringing it up in my mind because I did not want to let my self free with her. Not at bed ,not even when she was hugging me. That is how I react, I don’t want to let my self completely free in a relationship and end up wounded afterwards; and that statement of hers was the perfect chance for me. I believe that my will to have something that can keep my from going to 100% in a relationship is an unconscious self-defence that I do because I am sensitive and I don’t want to end up getting hurt in a relationship, although that statement did not only keep me from 100% , but it caused a great loss of my self esteem.

Originally Posted by Mr.Happy : “Depending on the circumstances it could be that she was relaxed enough and trusted him enough to share that without realizing that it invited a comparison.

Perhaps Axrhstos you could clarify this point?”
We were at her house relaxed after some drinking ,but that is certainly not a fact that should make me take things lightly. She had
A couple of drinks, but that what she said was the truth -eventhough she was keeping it well hidden.I agree, she did not compare me to anything, just recalled some moments of herself, but those happy moments of hers were my worst nightmares.Anyway I dumped her for another one and I am grateful to that chick because I would have never known what PE is if I had never met her. Thanks again for the wellcome guys, I will keep you informed of my progress.

Your post has done a lot to confirm my suspicions.

I don’t know. Maybe it’s different in Greece, but you seem to have latched on to a point of pride (or wounded pride) as a means of escape from the relationship.

Maybe that was the right thing, for you, I don’t know.

I agree. Much easier from the outside.

Nothing was said about your skills. The one has nothing to do with the other.

If she was drinking and was lost in her memory for the moments that she shared that with you it does mean she trusted you and was comfortable enough with you to go there. And know this: her past happy times are not necessarily a poor reflection on the present she had with you.

Granted you felt it as a blow to your masculinity (understandably), but it was not a blow she was actively delivering: you took it hard.

It also sounds that you used the incident to escape the relationship, which you weren’t 100% committed to. Fair enough, if you were looking to get out.

I know Greece has a different culture. And Greek men have a more pronounced reputation for being dominant, controling and proud as part of their masculinity.

Your openess, sensitivity and your honesty are much appreciated here, though: it helps us understand you better. I believe that would have helped you with your woman if you had tried, though I understand that you didn’t want to try.

Perhaps you could attempt to be more open and candid with the woman you are with now - if any difficulties arise? You might find it liberating and rewarding. And you might find the woman appreciates you more too.

It’s an idea.

Anyway. I’m really glad you are here and are posting. Your English is good, initially I had no idea that you were from another country.

Again, welcome to Thunder's.

I hope you can gain from being here - in whatever way.