Is It In Yet????

Nope, definitely not a hedonist or libertine. Sex is serious business for me, but so is freedom of action and choice. I also have enough of my own sins to think twice before condemning anyone of theirs. I’m a little bit weird about the physical act of sex, because it is just a bodily function, so in the case of the OP, I would have been much more bothered to see them being affectionate.

For instance, when my now-wife and I were broken up, she would tell me about her sex life with this guy and get pissed I wasn’t getting jealous. She went on about his big pecker, still didn’t get jealous. Orgasm? Nope, still not jealous. But her daughter (now my daughter) had her birthday party, and she invited both me and my son (who was her daughter’s best friend, still is) and it drove me CRAZY to see them holding hands and talking off to the side. Oh man.. I had a hard time holding it in, and she didn’t realize that the intimacy is what got me, not the physical act of orgasming. It’s all just a bodily function.

So I guess what I meant to say is this: If the girl committed the act as a bodily function, out of curiosity, that’s one thing. But if she had genuine emotion for the guy, such as wanting to cuddle and kiss him after, and see him later tomorrow, and hang out and ~not~ have sex, that’s another thing entirely.

Not to say I don’t have morals, but I don’t think the physical act of penetration is all there is to sex. Or maybe I don’t have morals, heck if I know.

Also, I wouldn’t wish this OP’s story on anyone. I feel it, lost my damn mind once in college. Never again!

- Saul

I think we’re saying a similar thing. My view isn’t so much about the physical act of sex but the feelings that comes with it. I’ve had my share of meaningless sex which was just that, meaningless. I don’t like hearing about my wife’s sexual past and her feelings towards specific guys.

Very insightful Saul. Most men feel jealous by physical connection whereas women gets jealous by emotional connection of their partner with other men. I shared the OP’s story (without naming him or his username) with guys and they all felt the pain. When I shared it a lady friend, she did not appreciate the profound negative emotions the OP may have had.

As women are given more permission by media, men are forced to rationalise their behaviour to stay in relationships.

My relationship just tanked, and I had to eventually just walk away.

I couldn’t compromise and be friends while she “worked things out”.

You are either married or you aren’t. There is no in between.

I agree with men tending to rationalize their behavior to stay in the relationship. One of the reasons for this is that, women can get it anytime. All they have to do is show up. Even the heaviest and least attractive ones can get it if they please. With men, this is not the case because of our sexual drive is too strong and much stronger than the sexual drive of women. So, what happens is that, there are more demands for pussy than there are supplies. Thus, men stay.

Because women tend to evolve in such a way that made them leery to have sex because of the investment of child rearing, they can be very picky. That’s one of the reasons why they tend not to have the morals of a man(slut) Now, because of paradigm shift, as you point out about the media, women tend to get looser(not the vagina). And men know this. We are losing the war.

See works of Carthwright, Richard Dawkins, EO Wilson on sexual drive and differences between men and women. I’m at a game so, I can’t cite them now. If requested be, I will give the citations.

Richard Dawkins… I like his speeches and papers.

But, please, don’t see women as an animals only (if you do so)- they also can think in human way.

Though each of these stories are sad, the important thing in my opinion is that they learned something positive. She wasn’t the right one. Any woman who risks destroying a quality relationship over a penis isn’t worth having. My wife has had bigger and smaller men in her life but she is utterly devoted to me. Loyalty means more to me than beauty. Proverbs 31.

I tried separation once, when my first marriage crashed. We were separated 3 years. I moved back in, still slept upstairs, no-touchy! Then I left again.

I’m remarried, and agree from my own personal experience. You either are married, or you are not. She should be able to “work things out” from within the relationship. Both of you should.

- Saul

That was my thinking also.

I finally gave up with all the mixed messages.

She emailed me a happy birthday yesterday, but I didn’t respond.

Fuck the games.

Good for you, A-Unit. Going back and forth can only get worse. Me ex who emasculated me so badly wanted to hang for she misses being around me. I told my sister and her husband. They said: no, she’s not welcome here. And, even if they did not say that, she will suck the air out of the house.

There’s one thing I learned. Sisters are the most valuable things that we, men, can have when dating. No one will be as honest with you as they will. No one will stick up for you like they will.

Hat’s off to sisters!

Yeah, and they know. When I told her about the emasculation she said: if your cock was the problem, she would not have stayed that long, which was my argument initially. She also said that your ex said that to hurt you and take a shot at your pride by being vindictive. And that was before I joined TP and applied statistics on her claim. It always helps to have our sisters to explain women’s perspectives.

Well damn, happy belated birthday!

My sister definitely has been an honest source of insight into the enigmatic abyss known as a girl’s mind. Very helpful

Where do I start to gain length and girth?
My boyfriend was very disappointed when he pulled my underwear down, then he said “Maybe it’ll feel good”.
We had sex but in the end he wasn’t satisfied at all, just remembering the look on his face makes me tear up.
He used to smile at me whenever he saw me and hug me but now its pretty obvious he forces a smile and doesnt want me anymore.. My self steem was already low and I really wanted to make him happy but I can’t do that anymore.

I’m 4.2” I used to be 5” .. I don’t know how it shrunk.

Where do I start? Jelqing? I have money for a bathmate x30.. Should I start taking L-Argenine? Zinc? I have an average skinny body but I don’t exercise at all, in fact I get tired easily.

Study the newbie routine and how to use it properly. Save your money. Most don’t need to buy gear to grow.

I know it may be tough but you’ve got to find a way to be comfortable in your own skin.