Pissed off

My wife and I have had a convo. in the past about the size of her ex’s. I know that one of her ex’s was between 8-9”s but not sure if it was NBP or BP.She doesnt know for sure either and doesnt like talking about it because she knows how defensive I get about this subject. I have “supposedly” the biggest girth shes had but not the most length. I really want to be the biggest ( OVERALL) . Shes told me even though Im not the longest, Im the best shes ever had but I still get discouraged.I know Im bigger than average but I still get pissed thinking about this dumbass having a bigger (skinnier) cock than me. If I hit 8x6 I know I will be the biggest shes ever had. Not 100% sure why this means so much to me, but Im sure some of you other guys can relate.Why is this such a major thing for us guys? At 7”’s NBP Im larger than most guys out there but I still hate the thought of another guy hitting it and was bigger than me. Crazy, but its true.

Hey man, it’s nothing but the competitor in you, and I don’t think anybody can ever knock you for that.

How was this measurement acquired? Did the guy say that was his measurement? Did she guesstimate his size? As many of us know, females (no offense to any ladies) aren’t exactly the best measurers of length/distance. The scientific reason behind this is because girls’ brains only have 1 part dedicated to judging lengths/distances, whereas guys have 2.

You definitely are larger than most guys out there, especially considering you’re talking NBP, which isn’t the used/”official” method of measuring. Also consider whether or not her ex’s measurement was measured from the side or from underneath (in other words anywhere but from the top… like you’re supposed to, or at least how we do it :p ). The top measurement (the one we use) is actually the shortest measurement. Besides, think about it, when you measure something don’t you usually not measure it from the top (as this would obscure your vision of the object you’re measuring)?

I would say if it really means that much to you, then do it, but if it’s something you think you can live/deal with, just forget about it and realize that you’re still bigger than most guys out there (and that you’re packing more girth than the other guys “measurement”).

Don’t talk about it with your wife you should never let her see that it bothers you, you are the best and you should humbly act like you know it. With that said you should keep doing PE until you blow the fucker out of the water!

I fully agree with Dino9x7.

I was (and actually still am) insecure about my size, and every girl I interrogated over and over about size comparisons or sex skills always got sick of it.

And eventually I ended up losing them from it.

The ones that I didnt act like I even gave a fuck about it, and this is what I have and your gonna like it whether you like it or not attitude, well they always stuck around and I was the one to break up.

Chicks dig the confidence factor, it’s a major turn on.

Plus your pretty big anyways, so use that as a booster and fuck her hard till you get to where you wanna be.

But don’t drive her nuts on the way there, the outcome may be less than desireable.

Thanks for all the comments guys!

Endow-
I know exactly what you mean about girls not really knowing how to match a number with a penis. Girls may think you have a 8.5” monster when in reality its 6.5 or 7. Even if this guy was 8-9”s (which I doubt) with a girth of no bigger than 5” it would be like having sex with a long pencil.

Dino-
I dont really let it bother me that much, or atleast I dont let it show but ever since this convo. with her it has fueled me to stick with PE and build a monster. She tells me everytime how great our sex is and no one in her past has been able to give her multiple orgasms. She can literally have them back to back sometimes. I think the most is 6 within a 15-20 minute period. Thats insane considering alot of women cant have any! Knowing this makes me feel good but I think what makes it worse is I didnt like this guy to start with. He was a real douche bag and thats probably why it erks me knowing he was bigger.

pocopeepee-
I hear ya man. I too years ago used to think I was small but when I started reading up on facts and the “average sizes” I was like damn, maybe its not as small as I thought but in the back of my mind I still wasnt happy. Ive never let it ruin a relationship but would still get discouraged. All I can say is keep on PE’ing, I know I will!!!

I don’t have a problem with this since I am the only guy my wife has ever been with. It would probably bother me if she did have some ex that was bigger dick than me.

Put it to you this way biggerj, she’s with you and not with him, which means she loves you and that huge cock of yours.

I don’t normally post on here. But I will make an exception for you buddy. I have the exact same problem. The only other dude my wife has been with was like 9 inches. The worst part is I actually saw it. He would whip out his dick at partys and stuff all the time. So I know it was not B.S.

I have gained some doing P.E. But I am not yet close to his size. I will keep on though instill I am bigger someday. I don’t care how long it takes. One word of advice though. Don’t pester your chic about it. They don’t really understand and it just makes you look insecure.
Women put so many head trips on us, sometimes it seems like they judge a mans worth by his penis, and then they don’t understand why we are insecure. I have heard chics talk and they quickly reduce a person to how big his dick was. Luckily most women grow out of that but I am still pissed off too.

The worst thing about it is that I have been with other girls and they were impressed by my equipment. My wife though has never given me that look. So that is my motivation.

Before finding out about Thunders, I never ever had any insecurities about my size, I knew I wasn’t the biggest, at most average but I didn’t care. Since spending more and more time on this place I’ve become insecure, and I lost a girl because of it too, always asking and asking, for fuck sake I get dizzy only when I think that my girl have slept with others, I don’t think I need to know about their size or skills…

I’m the smallest my girlfriend’s ever had, but she’s with me and NOT them. That’s why my size doesn’t bother me. If she’s your WIFE, the size of her old boyfriend’s cock is irrelevant. Just my opinion

Words of wisdom.

biggerjohnson,
Have no doubt that a lot of men say their 7” NBP penis is 8-9”, or even 10”. Women believe them too.

Don’t be pissed off about it, just work on your own. Without measuring it yourself, you’ll never know for sure what size he really was.

I think that you may be chasing a dream. Even if you get yours to the same size or bigger, the growth will be gradual and your are competing against a memory. Memories can be grander than the real thing.

Not exactly truth…
Bigger…I think I am writing this 5th or 7th time but I will write it down again…Firstly I would like to say that I understand you but your should remember….it is really all in your mind man! Let me shortly repeat my story which should help you.

When I started PE I was 4,7” EL and I was sure this was ‘average’(really). I fucked a lot of girls, often very hot and never had any problems with me dick(because I was not aware of how small I was). I started to ‘worry’ about it when I found out that my dick was actually small. Now I am hitting almost 6” but again I do not care much if there are bigger than me. Of course I would love to be 8x6” but I am not…not now. Someday ;) Nobody is perfect in every aspect of life.

Look at it this way…do you have $1M on your bank account? Are you as handsome as Matthew McConaughey is? Do you have great body like Brad Pitt? Who cares! There are many things based on which we can ‘measure’ our ‘masculinity’…why do you think that any of those things(dick,money,look,education,social position) should be more important then other?

You know guys-size is important but the longer I PE and the longer I am here the more I think we all(at least most of us) have some kind of mental problem with ‘dick issue’…we put really TOO MUCH focus to such relatively small thing as our dick! Masculinity does not lay in our pants. It’s the same as with bodybuilding…there was a time when everybody believed that the ‘bigger muscles’ we have the more sexy we are…That is true to some extent…it is better to have Brad Pitt type body than being fat…but this does not mean that ‘the best thing that can happen is to look like Dorian Yates’. Many women just do not like ‘to much muscles’.

We men have strange feature that makes us stupid…we tend to move all of our POWER from our ‘inside’ into ‘outside’ objects such like dick, car, bank account, house etc. This is crazy! Brothers-don not give away your power! :) And Bigger-does your wife has the biggest boobs you have ever seen? No? So why do you bother with your dick! :) Brothers-find right balance in life…and Bigger-take care!

Most women do not judge a man by his penis. Mostly this is something we do to ourselves and each other. It is really a guy thing.

This phenomena actually has very little to do with our dicks. It has to do with a few things:

One is the female fascination with our equipment. More typical of younger inexperienced girls. This sounds like it has to do with our dicks, but it doesn’t: it has to do with their experience and process of discovery.

Another is bragging or competing with other women. Pretty straightforward; exaggerating to make themselves seem more experienced, more worldly - more attractive. Again nothing to do with our dicks.

And finally it can be button pushing, as some women have figured out that many men (even guys like BiggerJohnson who are fairly large) are insecure. When people indulge in this kind of button pushing it is a bid for power. A way of gaining the upper hand.

The answer is to not care.

It’s a good answer because, truthfully women don’t really either. They want a dick that works well and is attached to a guy they like, care about, and who turns them on. That’s it. That’s the magic formula.

As far as BiggerJohnson’s problem… If you build a 9” monster who’s to say that she won’t like it? If that dick was so compelling why isn’t she still with the guy? My guess is because it wasn’t all that. Not all that important to her, perhaps not even all that enjoyable. Not every woman likes them super big. Most don’t.

What you have is a woman who is crazy about you and has multiple orgasms. Can I ask you to stop for a minute and count your fucking blessings? Lots of guys would kill for that.

It’s a long journey toward mental health. We’re all rooting for you.

Thanks for all the great replies and input guys. Alot of you guys are right, its being on places like this and seeing porn in the past that can really screw you up and make you insecure. Not saying that Im going to retire from PE and never come here again but its kinda true. People see huge cocks in porn or hear stories and start thinking all these crazy thoughts and become insecure about it. Same thing with girls and their bodies. All these skinny ass anorexic models and shit on tv make alot of girls feel bad. They believe this is what all men want and they have to live up to this “dream”. Half of that shit you see is fake anyways.

I know my wife loves me and her ex was a douche. She didnt want to talk about this subject but I kept nagging for answers then got pissed when I finally got it out of her. Its like I wanted to know, but I didnt! She told me that even with him being as big as he was he couldnt use it. She would have to tell him what to do. lol Oh well, thanks again guys and take care.