Should I go for 8" BPEL or not? Any negatives during sex?

Not going to say much on the subject except for bigger won’t make a difference and might even have the opposite effect.
I also started gaining for her pleasure and to try and increase the frequency of sex. Now a few years down the line, I’m still not satisfied with my own size, but I am divorced and single. So be vary careful what you choose to do. To be totally honest, our sex life was over shortly after the birth of our child. She just used my increase in size as an excuse not to have sex.

No - not really. According to her I’m big and the biggest she’s been with.

Gaining size from here is mostly a personal thing. Just always wanted that 8” BPEL and I was very close the last time I was seriously PE-ing. Like 7,6” or so. But I lost that and got back to approx. 7 ” now.

Interesting. Because of the birth or the child/change in life situation?

I might start another topic on the subject.

It seems you have different needs. I think you should open up to her. She may not miss sex but you do.

Try to put your self in a position of a man willing to help her rediscover her sexuality. Be nice to her, but if your sexual needs are big enough for you to “suffer” because the lack of sex, you should rethink your relationship.

Well, to be honest, I think she just wanted a child. And when that need was satisfied, her need for sex just went out the window. I have many different theories as well. But an increase in size and even being able to last longer and all other things just never mattered. And once my financial difficulties started it all went out the window very fast.

If it wasn’t that she would use another excuse. She got what she really wanted ( the baby )

That sucks. Baby or not - it only seems to be too common. I’m reading some other forum which is more geared towards women and quite often it’s the other way around too, i.e., the man losing interest.

Was this the main reason for your divorce?

Yeah. You’re quite right.

I’ve been bringing it up and talking about it, but I don’t think she’s taking it seriously.

To be honest - I’m not sure if I ever see us recovering this and getting back a healthy sex life. And I’m not sure if I’m to partially blame either.

I’m used to women desiring me, so taking the time and effort to seduce someone I’m in a relationship seems hard when I know there’s women out there willing to go right now.

Marriages go through ups and downs. I have always gotten as much sex as I want because my wife knows I want and need a regular release. However, in my earlier years I did not show my affection often enough outside the bedroom and that affects the attitude and desires inside the bedroom. Try treating her like when you were dating and see if the sex frequency increases. It may not be a physical issue but an emotional issue at this stage of your relationship.

Hey Renholder, I passed through a very similar situation. And yes they can be lit. You’re not doing the job. It’s never about size, it’s about confidence. Women will chase men for what they are not what they have.

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Yes. I’ve read some on female forums on the subject. Some women complain that they lose desire when the man is not helping out at home, cleaning the house or generally pleasing her outside the bedroom. However, that’s not the case her as I have my own apartment and while she’s sleeping over her 5/7 days a week, she contributes pretty much nothing to the household chores.

She gets a lot of emotional support from me and I’m pushing her to do things in her life she wouldn’t have done without my support.

The one place I’m lacking is that I live a busy life, so we don’t have a LOT of time together. Still - to me I’d say that would make it even more important to have sex when we’re together. But it’s just not happening.

In my opinion - she’s the one who’s not really investing in the relationship (see above). So I feel it’s me who should be fed up.

By the way. I also read on that forum from some females who complained about the same problem. THEY couldn’t explain it. They just said that they lost interest in sex in every relationship they was in. They had no explanation for it either.

Hey man.

So, did you solve it? How?

I know it’s not about the size. My size is plenty big enough at 7” BPEL and I’m the biggest this girl have been with.

Confidence is great - both with life and with women. She knows this. I picked her up in broad daylight in a very direct manner.

I think it’s rather possible instead that she’s just not that into sex. To be honest - even in our early days the sex was never GREAT. It was GOOD. And it was frequent and often her taking initiative. But it wasn’t GREAT like I’ve had with some kinkier girls.

Yes, mine was the same. She told me I was the first guy to get her dirty talking. Took me more than a year to do that. I’m kinky as fuck. So, little by little add some sex games, sex toys, role play, dancing, anything goes. Some girls are just to shy. Wife told me she wouldn’t ever moan cause she had in her mind that only sluts moan. So most of the time is just a construction. Women are fucked. That’s the core. Men is flesh. Women is soul.

A bottle of wine helps a lot too!
Cheers
Edd

Gotta break into her soul to unleash the beast.

Women love them toys and fun time, not commitment of sex, never ever chase her, she will come after, have an amazing lifestyle she’ll sure be into you if not, other much better will!

What is the age of these women discussed here? Reason I ask is because they might be getting low in estrogen due to possible onset of menopause. My wife just had to deal with this and she’s barely 45. Cancer and chemotherapy related. Last year in the spring she just started to get “irritated” during sex. And guys, we have been fuck champions our whole 21 year history together. We were just getting into new sex toys and new positions and sexual mysticism and all kinds of stuff and out of the blue she started complaining that lube was burning or stinging. She’d bear with it and let it keep going because she was cumming (and cumming and cumming she’s a superior multi-Oer always has been) and I liked it, but she suffered discomfort. Well two months later in May 2019 it just started to straight up hurt from time to time. At that point she had not had her period for two months, but she’s been hit or miss the last 5 years due to her past cancer treatments. Starting about November she was still not having periods but the sex got strangely and freakily good, like I was fucking her as hard as I possibly can and she loved every thrust of it and wanted more. So so wet too. But it lasted like a week and then it went straight to pain town. Every time I entered her my cock would just go straight up limp, it was not feeling good at all. Super dry, no lube would help. By Christmas we had not done it at all in a month and there wasn’t anything we could do about it. She lost interest to get off on her own too, which was rare for her. She loves to masturbate and cums like a wild banshee in the shower (using the shower head to edge to what she calls “heart chakra orgasms” my god this woman, what a woman), and was using that super power O to warm up for sex for a while before this. But she didn’t even want to cum anymore. All spring was like this. We tried to have sex twice in 3 months and it was horrible. Crying, hugging, confusion, the pits. Finally after a year of no periods she could see an ob/gyn about menopause.

The Imvexxy vaginal insert is what is saving my wife right now! Extremely low dose estrogen. Really low. But it delivers it right into the vaginal tissue. Now she’s so wet she needs to wear pads! Its nuts. Her vaginal muscle tone is back, color is back, taste is incredible now, and her vaginal issues are completely gone. She had to dilate with dildos smaller than an inch around to start getting things going again, her doc told her she’s got some atrophy. She worked on it and moved on up (we have dozens of sex toys through years and years so pretty much all girths are covered with no new purchases LOL) to something not yet as big as me in about 8 weeks of work on it.

I’m 7.75”ish BPEL and 5.3” girth. I had to quit pumping early July so I could be “as small as possible” for her. When I pump like I had been the last two years or so I’m up to 8” most of the time and almost 5.5” girth. Why be bigger when she can’t take me not at my biggest?! I will say that our first time back to trying sex was completely surreal and magical, wonderful all that shit. Crying our eyes out, laughing, talking, it was insane. We’ve had sex 3 times now and it feels like she’s in her 20s again. She feels way more sexy than she has in years. Just her whole attitude is better. This super tiny dose of estrogen is bringing the woman back out of her and she’s benefiting big time!

So, if any of you guys are facing menopause or the beginning symptoms of it, growing your cock might be counterproductive to sex if you want to have sex still. I hope I get to start pumping again soon, maybe just once a month or something. But I don’t want to lose the sex while we are getting it back.

Great story. If you have to use an external lube use coconut oil.