Should I go for 8" BPEL or not? Any negatives during sex?

Hi all,

I know the subject have been discussed extensively in the past, but didn’t see any threads on the last 5 pages, so I hope it’s okay with a new one. :)

I’ve been away for a long time now, so I should be fairly deconditioned. I still measure at approximately 7” BPEL. Maybe slightly below. I’m considering going for the 8” BPEL size.

In my own experience I’ve gotten some “You’re big” comments, but never any jaw dropping or obstacles during sex.Current girlfriend says I’m the biggest she ever had, but she’s not been around that much either and I do get the feeling she could handle a bit more length. A few even seem to not mention it much at all. So, I’m thinking another inch wouldn’t categorize me as too-large-for-sex by most women.

I do enjoy a full penetration and grinding against a woman’s ass/groin, so I think it would suck if I should find that women have trouble taking my full length.

Any thoughts?

PS: I could probably benefit more from more girth instead, but I’ve had a hard time gaining girth and it’s not as easy to multi-task with a girth routine.

Thanks in advance.

Renholder

Don’t go for size for comments. You want women to enjoy you. I married, so that changes things for me. My wife can accommodate larger but that doesn’t mean it feels good.

Vaginas can acommodate a lot of different sizes and shapes. If it feels good or not it relies on your skills.

A proper answer with a bit more of an input…

I have roughly 7 BPEL. When it’s rock hard, I can get a bit bigger than 7. With some girls in specific positions I can put too much pressure at the cervix. That’s when I heard things like “It’s too deep”, “go slow”… It doesn’t happen often. If the girl doesn’t have a shallow pussy, it takes three or four nights of sex exploring these positions to make her get used to it and than it seems that it’s not big enough. When the girl has a shallow pussy, she never gets used. Well, it’s my own experience and it’s way too limited.

The thing is, hearing things like “It’s too deep”, makes me very very happy. If you have the ways to turn this uncomfortable feeling into something good for her, you will be remembered as a good lover. If you just hurts her, she would prefer you with a smaller cock.

I don’t have a 8” cock but it seems that in most positions, all the girls I had can handle an extra inch (or even more), even with rough fucking. For sure there are some positions that some girls would love and others would find quite a challenge.

Don’t do PE because of any woman. Do it for yourself. Do it for the way you wanna feel. PE is about you and your body, regardless of what any woman think.

I was with an Asian escort today and she couldn’t take it all. I’m a little over 7 BPEL on a good day. Lay there wincing in pain after I finished. I even got worried lol.

It largely depends on the girl. My answer is definitely go for it.

I just asked my wife what she wants.

If you are worried about being able to have pelvis to pelvic contact, then I would be a little careful. I am exactly 8 inches BPEL, and I do enjoy pelvic to pelvic contact. It does happen sometimes that I end up with someone where going balls deep is too much for my partner, but I don’t know if I’d really consider that a negative. It depends on how much you would care if you suddenly weren’t able to do this. For me, it would mean that some positions have just become a little more difficult, and some less difficult. There are pros and cons to everything.

If I am having sex with a woman, and it turns out that she has a smaller vagina, I have to take it slow, can’t go quite all the way in, or can’t thrust very hard, does this make sex any less fun for me or my partner? I would say no! Now we just have to try something else (unless this “issue” is to the extreme and you simply aren’t sexually compatible which is extremely unlikely). Just as I am very excited to find out that someone likes me enough to have sex with me, I would think/hope that something is similar going on in my partners head. All this means is that we should explore other positions/styles and find the best fit for the both of us. Unless the sole thing that gets either of you off is sex as hard and fast as possible and/or pelvic to pelvic grinding, then this won’t be an issue. I believe that part of what is fun about sex is finding what works best for both you and your partner. Every penis is different just like every vagina is different, and the fun part is to figure out how to get each other off.

Now if your girlfriend is a long term girlfriend and you are already having great sex, then my advice changes. Listen to her at all costs! If there is any sign that you are reaching her limit, just stop and focus on girth, or just go on maintenance. A great sex life is very enviable and nothing to mess with. If I could have the option of having great sex right now at the cost of never enlarging my penis again, I would go for it in a heartbeat, but that’s just my preferences.

Thanks for the comments, guys! I’ll just adress downwardcurve specifically as he seemed to echo what most people said.

I don’t know to be honest, but I do know I enjoy it right now and it’s nice to just ‘let loose’ and not worry about going too deep.

You don’t miss the pelvis to pelvis contact yourself when it’s not possible?

Yeah. Agreed. My girlfriend is a long term GF, but we’re NOT having great sex. In fact, our sex life is dead. Which is probably a topic for another thread. I’m not sure if I’m going to solve it or if we will eventually break up because of this, but either way I’m confident she could take another inch. Strangely, she seems to have more limits with my girth. At least early on. And I don’t feel girthy at all at 4.9/5”.

I don’t believe that a bigger cock is a solution for that. Women arousal are rarely related to penis size.

If you are worried about going all the way, it depends much on the vagina size and woman arousal. Anyway there are different ways of creating pleasure from “too deep” penetration. Avoid punching the cervix and try to massage it with slow movements, like circular movements alternating with steady pressure… Or maybe your partner will like those punches or an extra inch isn’t her limit yet… You will know when you get there, each woman is different.

Anyway it’s a long journey to increase penis size, it’s not something you gonna change in a couple of months. Do PE if you will, but most important, solve your problems with her if you wanna keep this relationship.

Hmmm. Well I am slightly disappointed when it isn’t possible, but it also doesn’t happen often enough as to where it would become a very apparent issue in my sex life (maybe around 15-20% of the women I’ve been with). Also, I had this length pre PE, so any time spent on wishing I was shorter would be very unhelpful and a waste of my time. In addition, I think again that me being single plays a big role in this. If I am single, and meet someone who has a shorter vagina, and I can’t go as deep, I say ok, and am forced to work around that, and it’s no big deal. But If I was in a relationship, and I PE’d to a point where I was too big for my girlfriend, I would feel extremely guilty and selfish.

The good news is that it seems like your girlfriend can take a little more length, and the growth should happen slowly enough to the point where if for some reason you were getting too big, you could just stop cold turkey. This thread I have reached my goals is one hell of a read for anyone wondering about getting too big for a long term partner. The bad news is I echo what rush9mota said; it doesn’t seem like a bigger dick will do much to help your sex life, and I really wish you the best and hope you figure it all out.

Adding length will never make you “too large for sex.” Massive girth is what will cause incompatibilities, but that takes years to develop. With length, you might not be able to use everything, but it will never prevent sex. I’ve never not bottomed out in a partner (~7.75), but I still have sex every day with my current SO. You just learn to have finer control of your thrusts.

It takes a while to cement your gains so if you grow to a size that starts creating problems, you just stop what you are doing and go to a maintenance program or stop completely and you will lose some of that progress. It’s kind of like a pressure relief valve it keeps us from screwing up permanently by making her complain before it’s cemented

Thanks for all the good comment, guys! :)

No, a larger penis was never intended to be a solution. My penis is plenty large enough for her.

As for keeping the relationship - the thing is that SHE’s happy without sex. I honestly think she doesn’t miss it. That’s how it seems and pretty much what she says too. She’s just not a very sexual person. Or maybe I didn’t bring it out in her?

So, if I want to keep this relationship I do not think I have to fix anything as she seems happy this way. The question is more if I would want to stay in a relationship that’s void of sex and if there really is a solution to it at all.

Ah so it was never about size. It rarely is. There has to be a love or connected dynamic that needs to be fixed. That’s much easier than making a penis larger.